Dante , I think you are missing a few vital and important things , small things that will make a huge difference. You have an ex.... That is the way it should stay, as gone , EXIT . You need to move on. Forget her it did not work, if you sit and pine about her any more you might as well go and chain yourself to her porch. Seems like you are looking to hard and in the wrong places. Leave it. Love yourself first, love who you are and everything about you FIRST, if you can love yourself , how can you possibly love somebody else ? The more you carry on about your ex and the realationship the more pwer you give it. Leave it move on.
This is not like sky diving , were if at first you dont succeed learn to play a harp. Or going to a website and saying 2nd hand parachute , used once, never opened has small blood stain.. You should be saying sky diving scared me shitless , I have the stained pants to prove it..! Your next line should be who has advise for cleaning stains. Do you think she is whining and complaing about loosing you ? She has moved on. That is just how it works. If things dont work , then fine you tried, but move on. You hold on to long and take the failure to personally. Did you get the art of driving a car perfect the first time you tried it? I doubt it , but you kept trying and you got it right. Same with dating, you fail , you try again, but in order to try again you need to get up.
Yet leave with dignity and maturity and strenght, in 5 years time you may run across a few of your ex's again , and then you will see them in a different light. You will see how during your time with them they stiffled you and waste your time and messed with your feelings. If you want some advice dont date girls your own age... You have little to offer them. I thought about this the other day and it kinda makes sense to me not sure it is will to anyone else. Life is a journey, part of that journey is living and learning. Seldom do you learn anything from people your own age, why? They have the same time on the planet as you. You learn from older and wiser people. Ever wonder why girls tend to date guys that are a few years older than them? The guys have life exeprience.
Let me give you an example and maybe some folks can add to this. A guy and a girl of say 21 are at a place , with them is a guy of 28 who has done more , seen more lived more than the 21 year old guy , chances are if both guys are equally atrractive ect ect. The 21 year old girl will spend more time with the older guy and he has more to share with her. Travels, people and places he has seen , while the 21 year old will just want to show her his new IPAD. Which do you think will be more interesting for her? Hearing of Paris and Rome , or some IPAD app and sh*t? I would spend hours listening to My late grandfather telling me about WW2 and how it was form him at El-Alemien. I would gladly take 3 hours of that before I take 2 hours of someone trying to impress me with sh*t that wont make me a better person.
Get out there and live dude..!! In Life you are either : Learning, listening or a lead weight. You as Dante are fine , those around you are not giving you what you need to grow into a better person than they are no better than a cancer , keeping you down and holding you back, leave them and move the sooner the better, they suck , not you.
Later.
