Going for control

[makeit]

Hi guys,

During the last 1.5 years i am trying to overcome my pe.
Not only i want to overcome it, i just want to have full control over my orgasm.

But making it to 15-20 minutes would already be a big achievement.

For those who want to read my story, you can check this link from introduce yourself.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/introduce-yourself/76977-hi-guys-here-my-story.html

I've been reading for a while here on the forum and it got already bit better.
I hope that by writing things and experiences down that i'll make the next step in my progress.

My routine so far.

Do a Rk/k routine. More rk than k because my pelvic floor is very tense and had involuntary kegels.
They are prety much gone now. Not completely.

From tomorrow i live together with my girlfriend so I will have a great sex routine.

 

[watson]

Hi guys,

During the last 1.5 years i am trying to overcome my pe.
Not only i want to overcome it, i just want to have full control over my orgasm.

But making it to 15-20 minutes would already be a big achievement.

For those who want to read my story, you can check this link from introduce yourself.
https://www.pegym.com/forums/introduce-yourself/76977-hi-guys-here-my-story.html

I've been reading for a while here on the forum and it got already bit better.
I hope that by writing things and experiences down that i'll make the next step in my progress.

My routine so far.

Do a Rk/k routine. More rk than k because my pelvic floor is very tense and had involuntary kegels.
They are prety much gone now. Not completely.

From tomorrow i live together with my girlfriend so I will have a great sex routine.

I will definitely read ur story but let me ask you a question. u said u do Rk/k routine so what type of reverse kegel routine ru having? is it front reverse kegel or back reverse kegel?

 

[makeit]

Uhm i don't divide it, i just push out =D. Also i always lost count, just see that i do lots of rk and then other time during the day i do a set squeezes (kegel).

Don't do hardcore trainings like some guys here. If i look at some routines i think it's a bit too much. I have a pretty good pc muscle i believe, can hold my squeeze fairly long and hard (like 15 seconds real hard, and then another 15 good but faiding away).

 

[watson]

Ok. Having proper Breathing Technique will also give good control. U didnt mention about breathing so i am assuming u r not having breathing technique during sessions. Look onsite for breathing techniques and then report back. Hope it helps you.

 

[makeit]

More than a year ago since I started this topic, not to many posts. Shame on me.

Okay well things concern my pe. It's still here and I haven't gained full control.
On the other side things have improved. If I have sex few days in a row i feel I have more control and last longer.

By having more control I mean ponr just stays away longer and i am more free to have sex the way I want it.
I don't do anything different.
By lasting longer i mean like being able to have sex for 5 minutes (penetration).

On the otherside having sex everyday is not the reality. When I have sex for the first time in a few days i still have pretty hard PE. That being sad what I do for my pe, very brief. RK an Kegel exercices.
I dont follow a routine. I just do like 4/5 days a week RK and K on a moment. I change between hard kegels, long kegels or short and fast. My erection quality also improved a LOT.

Words coming out of the mouth off my girlfriend. Your dick is far more harder than it used to be =). So I will continue doing this exercises.

I've bumped across a thread here https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/85384-i-think-i-got-finally-log.html.

It is something that i am able to do and i am going to experiment with this. I'll keep you posted.

 

[longerlastingnoob]

Makeit. You should be edging. The exercises are no good, if you want to last longer, if you aren't edging. Still good for relaxation, balance, eq, but edging is your key focus.

 

[makeit]

Okay will start edging again. Have to say that i don't masturbate that often.
But i will try to do it at least 2-3 times a week. What i also certainly need to add while edging is thrusting.

When I edge and just sit and relax i can control it pretty wel. When i reach ponr i just switch the speed or hand and i can continue without many difficulties. Only thing i find it's hard to thrust between my hands while masturbating. (i'm talking about the movement). Will need to practice this.

 

[makeit]

Allright had an edging session today.

@longinglasternoob you are totally right. These edging sessions are important.
I noticed that when i use a firm grip with lube i come really fast to ponr.
I found it also very difficult to get here out. Everything is so tensed at this point that performing a RK is
very hard. I really have the use start/stop with a firm grip.

At the end of my session i tried to perform a DO. Just before I came i held a strong kegel for about 8 seconds(as hard ass possible)
Didn't feel i came but also no seamen or liquid that came out. Lost my erection and interest though.


Edging with a firm grip and lube will be my focus for now.
Is it wise to try a do at the end or is it more wise to leave that behind for now?

 

[makeit]

Had sex this morning. Lasted pretty long for my terms(5-7 minutes). With me whole the time on top.
Which is nice because this a position where i find it hard to keep away from ponr.

I could have made it a longer session by switching positions or go oral,..
But we weren't in the mood for that. Just lazy sex =)

I see it only now but the key is really to push the limits while edging and not just make it to 20 minutes easy game.

Thanks longerlastingnoob!

 

[longerlastingnoob]

Exactly keep pushing. " Lazy " sex, I've had a few of those days. If it's a day where you know your only going to have sex for 10, 15 mins you can not ejaculate at the end, tough but good for progress

 

[makeit]

So if I have sex no longer than 10 minutes I cant ejaculate at the end? Then I can't come till the day I reach 15 mins of penetration?

If you include foreplay it's possible. The 5-7 minutes were penetration. Had oral before the penetration too. So it was like 10 min total.

Funny fact, when i get a blowjob ponr will stay away. Unless she combines it with a firm handjob.

 

[longerlastingnoob]

No not saying you can't, just if you wanted.

 

[Dangler]

JustinD & mrgreenn were the same user, sock puppet spammer.

 

[makeit]

???

 

[longerlastingnoob]

???

There were two posts advertising some self help guru book. The two users were the same person, posts deleted and users banned.

Any updates?

 

[makeit]

Have been on a prety busy schedule last week but thats not an excuse. Had none edging session, had sex this afternoon and didnt last long.

Going for an edging session tomorrow!

 

[closed224]

Make it if you want you can try using the same training techniques while having sex. Usually it is better to wait for this until you have gained more control, but it is better to try the techniques then to not train at all. Good luck congratulations on improved erection quality.

 

[makeit]

I'm sorry for my stupidity but if I understand you correctly its better to wait with sex untill i have gained more control? So when I gained more control while edging with a firm grip.

I dont know how I have to use the techniques while having sex? Most important technique is getting used too right? First in edging and then in sex?

Had sex yesterday, I've noticed that when she is on top an go with a pace not too fast. I feel like i can last long. But the minut she starts to go fast I lose it.

So if I understand it well it actually makes sense i lose control at that time. I can edge for long with a slow pace and a not so firm grip. So I can last prety long having sex in a slower pace. Cant last long while edging with a firm grip, cant last long having sex in a position with firmer grip or faster pace.

 

[longerlastingnoob]

Just need to keep improving, you know how.

 

[closed224]

I'm sorry for my stupidity but if I understand you correctly its better to wait with sex untill i have gained more control? So when I gained more control while edging with a firm grip.

I dont know how I have to use the techniques while having sex? Most important technique is getting used too right? First in edging and then in sex?

Had sex yesterday, I've noticed that when she is on top an go with a pace not too fast. I feel like i can last long. But the minut she starts to go fast I lose it.

So if I understand it well it actually makes sense i lose control at that time. I can edge for long with a slow pace and a not so firm grip. So I can last prety long having sex in a slower pace. Cant last long while edging with a firm grip, cant last long having sex in a position with firmer grip or faster pace.

When having sex use the techniques you use while edging. For instance you identified that her speed is one of your triggers. So ask her to keep going slowly. Then you can get used to lasting longer. Keep practicing. You are doing great.