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[charles-perry]

Hmmm, see, when I meet a woman, I get to know her so I KNOW who the hell I'm eventually going to be letting suck my dick and bangin' the sh*t out of...........these women aren't related to you so where this mental block is coming from..............well, as I see it, it's all you boss. You control your thoughts in this area. It's something psychological and my bet is you've programmed your own mind to think in this manner and it's you who can change it.

Let me ask you this, does intimacy with a girl intimidate you? That might be why this mental block keeps popping up.

First para - I already know this and you just re-said what I wrote in my original post. I want to fix the problem but don't know how or what's causing it which is why I posted here.

Second para - no I don't think it frightens me but then who knows what my brain is thinking. Perhaps it does and I don't realise it.

 

[eow.]

He is a scammer. And a dick too. Asked simple questions and got rude replies. Doesn't make me a troll.

I rest my case.

 

[charles-perry]

It sounds like you may be bi-sexual with a heavy leaning towards men. Sorry if that offends you, however, talking about friend-zoning every girl and feeling like it is kissing your sister sounds symptomatic of something larger e.g. sexual preference. I quite possibly am wrong, but I would it least suggest thinking about it.

Please re-read the first post. There is already a paragraph about this.

 

[JonPop]

I have to agree with eow on this after reviewing your history here charles.

 

[charles-perry]

I have to agree with eow on this after reviewing your history here charles.

Why would I troll such a topic and give all the details like this? Doesn't make sense....

 

[Jm123]

Why would I troll such a topic and give all the details like this? Doesn't make sense....

Hard to say. Yet, it seems from "all the details" you have given. You have effectively put up roadblocks to all the common issues men suffer. Sorry, if you are truly having these issues. However, it would appear that you already have a comeback to anything anyone suggests. It does not appear that you are seeking help, but attention. Again, sorry if you have these issues, but professional help would appear to be the best path.

 

[Realman]

The boy who cried wolf that what who are turned into.If you really have this issue then it sad but you have to seek professional help. For due to your past history people don't want to be tricked into feeding a troll. So it would be best for you to see a professional.

 

[charles-perry]

I have already seen a professional and its in the post.
And I'm not arguing what people have posted - I'm replying to it. Just because someone makes a comment doesn't mean its correct and I should nod to it blindly... I'm human too!
And I am not trolling. Calling a bib guy a dick doesn't make me a troll. Idk where you are getting this logic from.

 

[eow.]

Calling him a dick doesn't make you a troll. Calling him a scammer kinda does, because he is obviously not a scammer and has been dedicated to the PE community for over a decade. :usa2:

 

[Toadstool]

Eow, charles perry has had a lot of bad luck with PE. Him calling bib a scammer is likely more an emotional response to losing size and being insulted by bib online, rather than a logical process.
I don't think CP is a troll. I think he has some problems he's trying to work through, which is something many here can relate to. Let's get back on topic.
The guy sees every girl in the world as his sister and doesn't feel sexually attracted to them. How do you plan on tackling this problem of yours, Charles?

 

[charles-perry]

Eow, charles perry has had a lot of bad luck with PE. Him calling bib a scammer is likely more an emotional response to losing size and being insulted by bib online, rather than a logical process.
I don't think CP is a troll. I think he has some problems he's trying to work through, which is something many here can relate to. Let's get back on topic.
The guy sees every girl in the world as his sister and doesn't feel sexually attracted to them. How do you plan on tackling this problem of yours, Charles?

Thank you for helping me out here.

Oh I do feel sexually attracted to women - it's just when I get to know them I loose all sexual interest no matter how 'hot' the were originally and thinking about having sex with them makes me sick/gives me the feeling of 'I'm sleeping with my sister'. I have no idea how to correct this. The thought is so strong that my entire body retracts from even leaning forward to kiss her. No joke. I've even pushed myself at times but it just doesn't work idk why. This is why I was considering a hooker - I know she must have sex with me, there's no reason for anxiety as who cares how I perform and she can teach me 'everything' so perhaps when I'm with a real woman I won't be scared of not knowing anything in order to satisfy her. Who knows if this is even the problem though but I have no idea what else it can be.

 

[Jm123]

Then I thought I may be gay and suppressing it. Sure fit male bodies can be attractive but not in the 'I want to sleep with you' way.

I tried a sex therapist too who said I just need to risk it and its good I'm thinking about it young - and then discharged me. Not really helpful tbh. I can only risk it is I still find someone attractive enough to sleep with. If I am thinking they are my sister or something then what am I supposed to do? They shrugged.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can fix myself?

Ok so you are apparently being serious. I bolded some statements that you made that make your sexuality superficially suspect, and these were the things I noticed before first responding. My tone has been of indifference as apparently you have your mind made up, and thus would appear to be unreceptive to suggestions.

First, most men can say if a guy is good looking or not, because we are aware of male desirable qualities. However, I have not met any straight guys that would go so far as to say men are attractive. "Attractive" is a very interesting way to put what other men look like. Attraction involves more than being good looking. A heterosexual man may be bi-curious yet they general do not get turned on by, or find another man "attractive."

Next, you apparently still can say a guy is attractive after getting to know them, but lose attraction for a girl once you get to know them. That does not make sense. Generally speaking attraction is an inherent quality people have towards others. Personally, and from all of the guys I know, a hot girl is a hot girl. This does not subside ever, it is a primordial emotion.

Finally, the above is why I question your sexuality. Our society is heteronormative. This complicates bi-sexual and homosexual maturation in people. From your OP I would still strongly suggest working on your sexual preference, and seeking out help in experimenting privately e.g. alone. I believe that since you have cursorily questioned your own sexuality that there may be more to explore before ignoring this paradoxical issue.

 

[Influence]

A prostitute won't help. Having sex with a whore is a purely physical. Your problems are mental.

If you are straight and 100% sure you want to fix this problem, force yourself to find a woman who will willingly sleep with you. Then sleep with her

 

[CUSP82]

Why are we telling this young man what to do? Do you think it's going to help? Not that I have seen. I think he just has to grow up a bit, get a bit more maturity, and learn about life. No one can do it or help him in anyway; it must come from him and him alone.

 

[charles-perry]

Ok so you are apparently being serious. I bolded some statements that you made that make your sexuality superficially suspect, and these were the things I noticed before first responding. My tone has been of indifference as apparently you have your mind made up, and thus would appear to be unreceptive to suggestions.

First, most men can say if a guy is good looking or not, because we are aware of male desirable qualities. However, I have not met any straight guys that would go so far as to say men are attractive. "Attractive" is a very interesting way to put what other men look like. Attraction involves more than being good looking. A heterosexual man may be bi-curious yet they general do not get turned on by, or find another man "attractive."

Next, you apparently still can say a guy is attractive after getting to know them, but lose attraction for a girl once you get to know them. That does not make sense. Generally speaking attraction is an inherent quality people have towards others. Personally, and from all of the guys I know, a hot girl is a hot girl. This does not subside ever, it is a primordial emotion.

Finally, the above is why I question your sexuality. Our society is heteronormative. This complicates bi-sexual and homosexual maturation in people. From your OP I would still strongly suggest working on your sexual preference, and seeking out help in experimenting privately e.g. alone. I believe that since you have cursorily questioned your own sexuality that there may be more to explore before ignoring this paradoxical issue.

Hmm perhaps I used the wrong word - I meant good looking. Like Tom Cruise is good looking - but I wouldn't sleep with him. Honestly I wouldn't care if I was bi or gay. But I don't think I am because I've seriously considered it. The problem is that once I joined the gym and saw lots of good looking/fit guys I realised I just wanted to look like them vs sleep with them. I have never wanted or imagined being f*cked by a guy and in my fantasies I'm always the 'top' with a woman (who tends to be faceless).

Next, I have not made my mind up about anything. I'm on here for help and if I comment on the comments it doesn't mean I'm not listening. Just trying to understand it in my way. If you expect me to nod to every suggestion like a dog then that's not going to happen.

Next your second paragraph is wrong. If I get to know a good looking guy we become friends and that's it. I never have developed sexual feeling before or after for him. I don't think I'm blocking it out - perhaps I just haven't met someone I really liked - but I doubt this given the number of people I know. Also once I get to know the hot girl she is still hot/good looking - I just don't want to sleep with her. Being good looking and having sex with someone do not have to go together.

Finally you say to experiment. So get a male and female hooker and see what I prefer?

 

[charles-perry]

A prostitute won't help. Having sex with a whore is a purely physical. Your problems are mental.

If you are straight and 100% sure you want to fix this problem, force yourself to find a woman who will willingly sleep with you. Then sleep with her

I have tried - doesn't work - as I've said perhaps 50 times on this forum now.

 

[charles-perry]

Why are we telling this young man what to do? Do you think it's going to help? Not that I have seen. I think he just has to grow up a bit, get a bit more maturity, and learn about life. No one can do it or help him in anyway; it must come from him and him alone.

I have tried to fix the myself and obviously it is not working...
Stop making this a 'we hate C-P so don't help him' thread and encouraging others to not post comments. If you have nothing helpful to say then don't post.
This is a serious problem, I'm on here for help and guidance, not insults.
And this comment applies to all the guys go posted similar comments on the thread before - not just cusp.

 

[Jm123]

Finally you say to experiment. So get a male and female hooker and see what I prefer?

Nope, I mean attempt to fantasize about it. Look at male pictures and attempt to play. Next, possibly look at homosexual porn and attempt to play. Basically give yourself the opportunity to see what feelings are inside of yourself.

Now if that does not work, I would say move onto pictures of girls that you know. The ones that you feel are hot, and attempt to play.

Basically it would appear that there is some mental hang up, preventing you from experiencing your true emotions.

 

[charles-perry]

Nope, I mean attempt to fantasize about it. Look at male pictures and attempt to play. Next, possibly look at homosexual porn and attempt to play. Basically give yourself the opportunity to see what feelings are inside of yourself.

Now if that does not work, I would say move onto pictures of girls that you know. The ones that you feel are hot, and attempt to play.

Basically it would appear that there is some mental hang up, preventing you from experiencing your true emotions.

Oh - sorry I misunderstood your post before - my apologies.

I tried what you said already funnily enough. Male/female pics do nothing for me (nor do magazines etc) in terms of getting me off. 'Shes hot' is possible from someone on a magazine but then I can't imagine banging her. Same with guys.

Porn wise - so long as there is penetration I imagine myself as the 'top' - and I can get off. Oral does nothing for me (female to male or male to male). That said, ever since I have joined the gym, I have gone off porn quite a lot and rarely watch it now (any kind). I'm now ok just imagining f*king a hot woman and getting off with my imagination.

I tried the pics of people I know/playing.... really didn't do anything for me. The 'they are my brother/sister' thought keeps popping up and in fact my dick goes completely flaccid so its not even like I have full control over this. Weird because in my fantasies above involve a 'faceless' woman most of the time. If I try and add a face it doesn't work :S

I'm not making excuses before someone says this - I have tried this - honestly I have.

 

[Dangler]

If you haven't tried, a Psychologist.
If you have & gave up; find a different one.
I believe you have exhausted the issue here at the PEGym. Quit wasting your energy.
Good Luck.