Emotionally Abused Men

[Iguana]

I just got back from court. I am officially divorced. Part of me is sad, part of me is relieved. It was a very unhealthy relationship from the beginning. Still, the optimist in me pines for what could have/should have been.

But, this was not my choice... and I'm ready to take my life back one piece at a time.

 

[Editor]

I just got back from court. I am officially divorced. Part of me is sad, part of me is relieved. It was a very unhealthy relationship from the beginning. Still, the optimist in me pines for what could have/should have been.

But, this was not my choice... and I'm ready to take my life back one piece at a time.

Congrats mate. You'll have a much better life.

 

[MrBigDick]

I just got back from court. I am officially divorced. Part of me is sad, part of me is relieved. It was a very unhealthy relationship from the beginning. Still, the optimist in me pines for what could have/should have been.

But, this was not my choice... and I'm ready to take my life back one piece at a time.

I feel you bro. I was very happy when I got my final divorce judgment in the mail that I was officially divorced. The sadness didn't hit me until later on when I saw other couples out in society, holding hands and such. That bothered me alot at first but now I'm cool with it. Then again, I've been divorced now 6 going on 7 years so I've had time to adjust.

It'll get easy bro as time goes on. Right now, the wounds are still freshly sewn up.

 

[DruidV]

I'm stuck in a dead end marriage and it seems that the B.P.D wife may soon drop the D-hammer on me for recently resisting her capricious whim and will. I have been preparing for this for a while now, and when i read this article it chilled my blood.

The really scary part is not that this describes my wife perfectly, which it does. No, the really scary part is that it describes the attitude and demeanor of so many westernized women in the states and abroad today. As I sit and read through account after account of the venomous unbridled abuse, the true hatred you guys have suffered at the hands of these women that professes to love you, my blood then begins to boil!

I stay with her because for now, there is no where else to go, and I will never give up my son to her while breath remains in my body! I don't recommend staying and resisting in an abusive relationship to anyone, but I feel I need to protect him from this woman's abuse, and the family court system which will only attempt to kidnap him from me, hand him over to her and attempt to perpetually extort my wages for her support.

Fortunately I happen to have the resources along with contact with the right legal consultants. It will cost me dearly to employ them, but I have every confidence that their methods, along with a recent climate of growing backlash against the corrupt family court system, will aid me greatly against her in the long run. It will be worth every cent.

Again, I don't advise rocking the boat till you are ready to tip your hand, and when you do tip your hand it better be a nuke...
I made my bed and I'll lie in it, but at least I can fluff the pillows at her a little every once in a while, till she finally leaves...

Wish me luck...

 

[MrBigDick]

I do wish you luck, but I must interject here, the family court system isn't as corupt as you're making it sound. Yes, I do happen to work for the family court system and I can tell you I see just as many women get fucked in court as men do. Just sayin'...........

 

[FlyingDutchman]

Who said men were the assholes?

 

[mistydawn]

I do wish you luck, but I must interject here, the family court system isn't as corupt as you're making it sound. Yes, I do happen to work for the family court system and I can tell you I see just as many women get fucked in court as men do. Just sayin'...........

This is true, women also get the shaft. As far as kids go, women are seen as the nurturer and responsible. I am sure many of you were raised by alone by your mother...most are. Fathers are few. Fortunately, I was raised by a mother and a father in a functioning home.

DruidV, does your wife abuse the child?

 

[mistydawn]

I read the article. I know it does happen. My cousin was with a horrible woman. Very mean and abusive. I have had female friends that were bad with boyfriends. One comes into mind right away...Lisa.

Nagging...nagging is abuse? What is nagging? It is when a person keeps going on about something. My parents nagged. It is annoying but I would not call it abuse. One time my father was walking behind my brother nagging him and my brother told him to "get some new material". I just laughed now thinking about it. My roommate nags about things and I get sick of it. Never did I ever think of it as emotional abuse. And believe me, I have gone though BAD mental and emotional abuse. I know very well what it is. It sucks bad.

 

[MrBigDick]

I read the article. I know it does happen. My cousin was with a horrible woman. Very mean and abusive. I have had female friends that were bad with boyfriends. One comes into mind right away...Lisa.

Nagging...nagging is abuse? What is nagging? It is when a person keeps going on about something. My parents nagged. It is annoying but I would not call it abuse. One time my father was walking behind my brother nagging him and my brother told him to "get some new material". I just laughed now thinking about it. My roommate nags about things and I get sick of it. Never did I ever think of it as emotional abuse. And believe me, I have gone though BAD mental and emotional abuse. I know very well what it is. It sucks bad.

I would have to agree, I don't see nagging as emotional abuse either. Emotional abuse is more like when the person you're with does something to disrespect you or hurt you and when you call them out on it, they turn the argument around and make YOU out to be the bad person and themselves out to be the victim. I dated one just like that and she was a master manipulator when it came to that sort of thing. Good thing she's gone now........and funny, her name is "Lisa" also........

 

[GTO]

I read the article. I know it does happen. My cousin was with a horrible woman. Very mean and abusive. I have had female friends that were bad with boyfriends. One comes into mind right away...Lisa.

Nagging...nagging is abuse? What is nagging? It is when a person keeps going on about something. My parents nagged. It is annoying but I would not call it abuse. One time my father was walking behind my brother nagging him and my brother told him to "get some new material". I just laughed now thinking about it. My roommate nags about things and I get sick of it. Never did I ever think of it as emotional abuse. And believe me, I have gone though BAD mental and emotional abuse. I know very well what it is. It sucks bad.

I would have to agree, I don't see nagging as emotional abuse either. Emotional abuse is more like when the person you're with does something to disrespect you or hurt you and when you call them out on it, they turn the argument around and make YOU out to be the bad person and themselves out to be the victim. I dated one just like that and she was a master manipulator when it came to that sort of thing. Good thing she's gone now........and funny, her name is "Lisa" also........

It could be considered mental and emotional abuse...

 

[MrBigDick]

This is true, women also get the shaft. As far as kids go, women are seen as the nurturer and responsible. I am sure many of you were raised by alone by your mother...most are. Fathers are few. Fortunately, I was raised by a mother and a father in a functioning home.

DruidV, does your wife abuse the child?

I've seen women get the shaft, I've seen women ordered to pay the man child support.............I've seen all the traditional things men have gotten hit with by the court system inflicted upon women also. For instance, there was a case in which this mother was living in some kind of women's shelter because she could lay off the drugs and the father had full custody of their child and the judge ordered her to pay more child support because she was now working a full time job and she didn't like that she was ordered to pay more and the judge more or less told "get over it, this child is also yours, support her"........not those exact words but that was the message conveyed.

 

[ThinJohnny]

DruidV, by BPD, do you mean Bipolar Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder?

 

[DruidV]

I've seen women get the shaft, I've seen women ordered to pay the man child support.............I've seen all the traditional things men have gotten hit with by the court system inflicted upon women also. For instance, there was a case in which this mother was living in some kind of women's shelter because she could lay off the drugs and the father had full custody of their child and the judge ordered her to pay more child support because she was now working a full time job and she didn't like that she was ordered to pay more and the judge more or less told "get over it, this child is also yours, support her"........not those exact words but that was the message conveyed.

Have you seen any women self immolate on the courthouse steps, followed by a total media blackout about it? Me either...

The Organized Silencing of a Man Publicly Burned to Death | A Voice for Men

 

[DruidV]

DruidV, by BPD, do you mean Bipolar Disorder or Borderline Personality Disorder?

Yes...

 

[Pegasus]

I would have to agree, I don't see nagging as emotional abuse either. Emotional abuse is more like when the person you're with does something to disrespect you or hurt you and when you call them out on it, they turn the argument around and make YOU out to be the bad person and themselves out to be the victim. I dated one just like that and she was a master manipulator when it came to that sort of thing. Good thing she's gone now........and funny, her name is "Lisa" also........

Yea verily, though nagging can be part of the whole package.

 

[jinngabriel]

so sad. I am living under the shadows