Balls deep vs not balls deep

[Park Lib]

This whole discussion reminds me once again that I really find the male obsession with size to be misguided -- what a lady experiences during sex with a man depends so very much on his control and learning what she likes, not on how big he is.

If most of the guys on this site spent 1/100 as much time learning about female sexuality, how to talk about sex with their partners, and how to read the signals of their ladies during sex than they do worrying about penis size..... well, they would end up with much larger gains in the Lover Department than a bit of added penis size could ever contribute!

Ok Batwoman I'll give you the skinny on this, fo' reals. Basically it's all about the dong when you need to end an argument. "Yeah that's probably the case but mine is huge and well end of really".

I do like to read these threads, very interesting and I'm learning all the time. Communication is the key to most things really.

 

[Cavalier]

This whole discussion reminds me once again that I really find the male obsession with size to be misguided -- what a lady experiences during sex with a man depends so very much on his control and learning what she likes, not on how big he is.

If most of the guys on this site spent 1/100 as much time learning about female sexuality, how to talk about sex with their partners, and how to read the signals of their ladies during sex than they do worrying about penis size..... well, they would end up with much larger gains in the Lover Department than a bit of added penis size could ever contribute!

How very true. I wish I knew 30 years ago what I know now about what my wife needs, wants and enjoys sexually. All those multiple orgasms now have nothing to do with size. She was like that before I made any gains.

 

[SuperDD]

No doubt about communication etc.

I was simply wondering about the differences and I think Qandisa made an excellent point about being able to go all out without caution. I understand not all women would want pounded, and a guy running in 6 or 7 inches of his 10 inch cock nice & slow making love would satisfy women who liked nice & slow, but the ones who like a hard pounding may not be able to relax with the 10 incher.

Just what I took away from her answer anyway

 

[BigO]

When it comes down to it some extra size is nice but a healthy wiener is the best wiener.

 

[islander]

I like the ball slap. A lot.
But I don't like the nervousness feeling I get worried if he pulls out too much he will miss going back in. It's painful for me and him when there is a miss.
Especially with dudes that have heavy penises or a big ol head.

I like feeling the skin to skin contact. Especially on my back. Stacked. The full body weight on me. Not because I'm trapped because I can buck anyone off. It just feels so good so close and you feel him breathing and every muscle working. I love that

 

[Phoenix7672]

Hmm counter question for the ladies -- Say if a guy is too big length-wise, what about if he stimulates your clit through other means (since body to body is out)?

Apparently I'm long enough to cause problems with some now, and I'm shooting for at least an inch more, which puts me in a position like Zman's post before.

 

[Pegasus]

Look guys I think this can be got around with skill and angles . You may not be able to hammer but you will be able to go balls deep,

 

[kickinthemebs]

Haha I had an image of sex-buckaroo in my head there

Not because I'm trapped because I can buck anyone off. It just feels so good so close and you feel him breathing and every muscle working. I love that

 

[Qandisa]

Hmm counter question for the ladies -- Say if a guy is too big length-wise, what about if he stimulates your clit through other means (since body to body is out)?

For me, no. Yes the balls slapping against the clit is great, but that's only part of it. For me the excitement and thrill in it is when he's just giving it his all. I want to feel his body against mine, I want to know that he's not holding anything back, I want that wild and desperate reckless abandon. When a guy is too big to be able to do that, it's just not as enjoyable for me.

And that's why I keep saying that a bigger dick is NOT always better - sex isn't just about the dick, it's about the whole experience, and it gets to a point where a bigger dick takes away from that.

ETA: For me, having sex with a guy that's too big to go all the way really isn't much different from just fucking a dildo. It's okay, but it's missing something. My main FWB is under 6" but he's fierce and rough and wild and when he has me bent over, my hair wound around his hand and is slamming in full force - there is absolutely nothing better. Nothing. I will take that over a bigger dick any time, any day.

 

[CUSP82]

Sorry didn't mean to interrupt this thread; just looking for my car keys! ( oh my my)

 

[Jaw Breaker]

For me, no. Yes the balls slapping against the clit is great, but that's only part of it. For me the excitement and thrill in it is when he's just giving it his all. I want to feel his body against mine, I want to know that he's not holding anything back, I want that wild and desperate reckless abandon. When a guy is too big to be able to do that, it's just not as enjoyable for me.

And that's why I keep saying that a bigger dick is NOT always better - sex isn't just about the dick, it's about the whole experience, and it gets to a point where a bigger dick takes away from that.

ETA: For me, having sex with a guy that's too big to go all the way really isn't much different from just fucking a dildo. It's okay, but it's missing something. My main FWB is under 6" but he's fierce and rough and wild and when he has me bent over, my hair wound around his hand and is slamming in full force - there is absolutely nothing better. Nothing. I will take that over a bigger dick any time, any day.

What's "too big" in your opinion?

 

[akaTrex]

If most of the guys on this site spent 1/100 as much time learning about female sexuality, how to talk about sex with their partners, and how to read the signals of their ladies during sex than they do worrying about penis size..... well, they would end up with much larger gains in the Lover Department than a bit of added penis size could ever contribute!

Sergey Bubka set the WR Pole vault of 20' 2.25" with a 17.6 in Long Pole....Hummmm

 

[Qandisa]

What's "too big" in your opinion?

I'd say up to 7.5" is fine, after that.... depends. As I've said before my ideal range is in the 6-ish to 7.5", yes FWB is just a little shy of that but he's still an incredible lover. And as I've also said before yes there are times when I've wished he had a little bit more length - but never when fucking. The only time I've thought that has been when titfucking because I can't lick it while he's doing that. But for fucking, I wouldn't change one damn thing.

 

[Cool-Since-92]

What about girth? At what point would girth become an issue?

 

[john fin]

I'd say up to 7.5" is fine, after that.... depends. As I've said before my ideal range is in the 6-ish to 7.5", yes FWB is just a little shy of that but he's still an incredible lover. And as I've also said before yes there are times when I've wished he had a little bit more length - but never when fucking. The only time I've thought that has been when titfucking because I can't lick it while he's doing that. But for fucking, I wouldn't change one damn thing.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-...-problems-going-balls-deep-pelvis-pelvis.html

This all corresponds to a tread I made a while back. SuperDD have a look through it should answer a lot of your questions Length is nowhere near as important as girth... its more of an ego pleaser (for the male) but can end up ruining sex if you like it fast/rough i.e. balls deep. I'm not going to get to long otherwise I'll be hovering over my partner and wont be able to relax!

 

[SXEUXT]

I actually think girth is less of an issue 'long-term', don't you think? With enough time and practise any girl can take 6 inches of girth. I mean, babies come out of there, right? In terms of width, the vagina is more adaptable than length I guess... Qansida or TPW may have an answer on this as well?

 

[Cool-Since-92]

I mean, babies come out of there, right?

I highly doubt that child birth is fun and enjoyable.

 

[Zman007]

I actually think girth is less of an issue 'long-term', don't you think? With enough time and practise any girl can take 6 inches of girth. I mean, babies come out of there, right? In terms of width, the vagina is more adaptable than length I guess... Qansida or TPW may have an answer on this as well?

You may want to do a bit of research to find out what it takes for a woman's body to actually pull that feat off, how much damage it causes, and how sex and normal expansion are a very very different situation. Its a terrible argument.

 

[SXEUXT]

I never meant it in an 'anything goes' way, which is how you guys seem to have read it. I understand that you can be too big for someone at a certain moment. I just meant that eventually, after working towards it, any vagina can accomodate large girth.

 

[Cool-Since-92]

I would imagine so, if married but I'd also think some women might find very large girth to be uncomfortable. Like some positions may not be enjoyable any more, blowjobs become an issue, no more anal (if your into it), and the list goes on. Atleast that's what I've heard and read from guys with large girth on this forum.

Opinions vary from person to person though .