Any one that doesn't bone-press generally gets ~12.5cm, e.g. Ponchietti et al (Italian study) uses NBPFSL, while BPFSL is nearly 1" longer at ~14.2", like the Brasil study (
Penile anthropometry in Brazilian ... [J Pediatr (Rio J). 2007 Sep-Oct] - PubMed - NCBI). The Brasil study is amazing since it clearly outlines their exact methodology, and spells out how they measure (calling it RSLmax), and they get 14.2cm at the median.
Wessells is incorrectly ascribed as being one of the smaller averages, but that's simply because they make a major distinction between BP and NBP. At NBP it's a 5.1" average, but the BP is an inch longer.
Comparing your BP to an NBP measurement is silly, and a bunch of 5" guys may think they're average because they compare their most favourable BP to an NBP measurement, but that's actually below average (though just a smaller size, not what anyone reasonable would consider really little. We can't all be above the median, after all.) While I think 6" is a little high even for BP, most studies that use that methodology do get in the high-5"s, around 5.75".
The Lifestyles study came out with great data, but unfortunately very little on their methodology. Part of why the Brasil study used RSLmax was because measurements came out significantly different between different people measuring
the same penis when they used NBP. Just based on the numbers and the scant info on their methodology, they sound BP or 'lightly BP' (ie it's pushed in, not jammed in.) I'm fairly certain they had a massive sample bias, since they only took volunteers hence those measured were more likely to be bigger, or at very least those who were small were far less likely to volunteer. Since men tend to think in length, you'll notice in their numbers (check mraverage.com ) there are so few lengths <4.5" there, yet quite a few girths <3.5", since those thinner-dicked guys likely still volunteer as they feel no embarrassment over it - as they shouldn't. For that reason I think their median is a better indicator than their average, so 5.65" is what they get. This is in-line with my assertion that avg NBP is ~5", and avg BP is ~5.75".
Oh and to the tangential discussion about a girl having slept with 3 other guys that are all ~7", the answer is almost certainly this: she really doesn't give a damn about your dick size. To most women I've known (or conversations overheard), penis size is mostly just a throwaway joke and not thought of much more. Even to the most cock-obsessed women (and I've dated quite a few
) she won't obsess over any penis 1/1000th as much as its owner does. The odds of all 3 other guys being your size or bigger are incredibly small, only if you think she recons dick size the way you do. To someone who doesn't care, a 7x6 isn't much different from a 6x5. She could also just have had an impression of one as bigger than it was, and our memories tend to distort over time (the number of women who claim their first lover was enormous is impossibly high. Penises, in general, I think I bigger than one would expect them to be, so the first usually seem big.)
I don't want to invalidate all my last points, but if it is a control thing, it may be because you care about it too much and she'd rather you concentrate on other things. I'd just measured myself at 7.75" BPEL (though with a lot of pushing) so I usually put myself at 7.25", statistically plenty big. My gf used to talk about my dick a lot at the start of this relationship, but I think got sick of how obsessed I'd get over it. She stopped talking about it so much and would instead always be asking me to do non-penis things sexually, which are much more important to nearly everyone than anything you can do with your dick. Eventually she mentioned how huge one of her exes was, I think in a bid to get me to stop just slapping her in the face with my dick and nothing else.
Now, don't think me terrible (though I probably should've stopped reading sooner) as this isn't weasel-worded, but we both have each other's email passwords and everything, and often have our accounts up, so nobody was 'sneaking in'. I'd just searched on what I thought was my account and an old email between her and said ex came up. In it he'd claimed a 7" dick. 7"! We're the same length, but he's huge somehow. Her BJs are plenty toothy already, so he couldn't have been much thicker either. The exchange overall sounded pretty focused (by him) on his penis too. This was a guy who she had great chemistry with, but things fell apart when they couldn't make a relationship work (after falling in love), so I know they got in to some massive fights -- one had him steal the key to her place and let himself in while she was in the shower -- and it was really awful overall. This is almost certainly not your situation, but it's one I was in and can hopefully help you understand someone's motives a little better. She got burned by some big-dicked guy who (like all guys) is obsessed with his own dick after she indulged that obsession, and is skittish about it now.
