Anal

[Ivor]

For those of you who don't know me, giving pleasure to a man does nothing for me. I know he could be with someone else tomorrow that can give him pleasure too. If she has a pussy and a mouth he is gonna feel good and bust a nut. Other women can give him the same as me. Men go to hookers they don't even know and have a good time.

Reading this makes me sad. Misty, do you have a long-term boyfriend right now, someone you consider more than a casual lover? Do you really think he'd if he walked out on you tomorrow, he'd be happy fucking some random anonymous woman straight away and would have sex that's just as good as the sex he has with you?

You seem to have either a very dim view of men generally, or of yourself, or both. We are not robots that are perfectly happy as long as we've got somewhere warm to stick our cocks. At least, I'm not like that and I think the majority of men are not like that. Believe it or not, we have emotions too - emotions that play a huge part in sex, just as they do for women.

And if giving a man pleasure does nothing for you, why the hell should your partner give a sh*t about pleasuring you? Ultimately, what's the point of sex at all, beyond actual procreation? Might as well have separate beds and just masturbate - you've got your vibrator, he's got his right hand - no point working up a sweat and getting the sheets dirty...

 

[someone_like_u]

I just talked to my girlfriend just a few minutes ago about the issue. Told her I was not comfortable with the idea as it seems a sudden change in mind for her. Apparently she has given the thought for quite some time now and just didn't tell me. I'm not to sure what to think about that.

Be happy I was also doing my own research without telling my husband. Only when I was comfortable to try again with all the advice I received, did I mention it to him. He was also taken aback. Shocked even because we normally talk openly about everything. I didn't want to give him hope or feel obligated to try again until I was ready. I hope that helps you to understand her mindset and why she all of a sudden is willing to try again.

 

[Batwoman]

Anal sex is often a "taboo" topic so I think that many people (both male and female) who are attracted to the idea think about it long and hard before mentioning it to their partner.

 

[TheSnitch]

I slept with this chick, I fell asleep after and I woke up to her putting my dick in her ass. It was weird, but awesome.


I didn't talk to her again after that. I always felt bad, but not really.

 

[Steve23]

I slept with this chick, I fell asleep after and I woke up to her putting my dick in her ass. It was weird, but awesome.


I didn't talk to her again after that. I always felt bad, but not really.

You slept with her, her weird putting your peen in her butt while sleeping was awesome, so why didn't you talk to her after that?

 

[TheSnitch]

I just stopped being attracted to her.

 

[someone_like_u]

Do I get orgasms from anal sex alone? No (at least not yet ). Do I have orgasms during anal sex? Sure! It takes a bit of clit stimulation for me to get there..... but I have had great orgasms while my partner was deep inside my ass.

Ok, I've got a question. Is there an actual anal orgasm or is it just a vaginal orgasm that is stimulated through the walls somehow? Because I did have an orgasm during anal but it was definitely vaginal because it was a squirting O I didn't use a vibrator of anything, but I was doing a little clit stimulation beforehand while in doggy position. We then switched to me being flat on my stomach arching my back up towards him, and him being sort of on top thrusting down into my ass. I was a little shocked that it happened but it made my husband wild:biggrin1:

Anyway, thoughts?

 

[CUSP82]

Oh I was looking for the sporting goods section. I guess I'm in the wrong place. I'll go look elsewhere!

 

[Ivor]

Ok, I've got a question. Is there an actual anal orgasm or is it just a vaginal orgasm that is stimulated through the walls somehow? Because I did have an orgasm during anal but it was definitely vaginal because it was a squirting O I didn't use a vibrator of anything, but I was doing a little clit stimulation beforehand while in doggy position. We then switched to me being flat on my stomach arching my back up towards him, and him being sort of on top thrusting down into my ass. I was a little shocked that it happened but it made my husband wild:biggrin1:

Anyway, thoughts?

That's pretty cool! I'd love to be able to make my girlfriend come like that - although she does often come when we're doing it that way, with a bit of clit stimulation as well. I was deep in her arse the first time we ever had simultaneous orgasms, as it happens.

As to your question, I'm not a woman but I'm not sure it can really be answered in a hard-and-fast way. Obviously anal penetration puts pressure on nerves in the vagina but the anus is itself full of sensitive nerve endings. Women have told me it definitely feels different from a vaginal orgasm, which I guess is what counts. My current GF very nearly came once just from me licking her there...

 

[Batwoman]

I think everything is all sort of wired up together for females. Stimulation in your ass definitely can affect your vaginal parts (I know that I feel it that way) plus it stimulates the nerve endings around your anus (a lot!). I also feel connections between my clit and my ass..... sometimes when one is getting attention, the other responds. How you experience your orgasm probably depends on how much stimulation you are getting and where. I know that the fullness of having him in my ass definitely contributes to the power of my orgasm, plus it makes it feel somewhat different to be squeezing on something anally. But is the orgasm completely different? No, I don't think so. It all just feels wonderful, similar yet different. Variety to be savored!

 

[Rando]

I mentioned earlier that I love having my prostate massaged and being anally fucked by a girl with a strapon (and I'm straight, go figure). I also like to use hands free prostate massagers and just focus on different sensations. Anyway, if I focus really intensely on the feelings in my sphincter, right where the toy is entering me I can get a mini-orgasm out of it. There are tons of nerve endings and I believe that part of the anatomy is identical for men and women so theoretically I think it should be possible for women as well. It is probably difficult to achieve during anal sex for women, I could only do it a couple times by myself when I'm able to intensely concentrate. The payoff isn't that great, the orgasm isn't huge or anything, but it's a weird and different feeling, so maybe it's worth it to try.

 

[Batwoman]

Not sure that last bit was a useful addition, Rando.

I confess that I have recently thought a lot about what it would be like to use a strap-on on my man. He enjoys anal play, and has used wands and butt plugs upon occasion. Sometimes I lie prone on his back and rub myself on him.....my sex against his butt and the base of his spine.... and we both find that hugely erotic. Having him under me feels really really good. I can get very turned on that way, and he loves it too. We have talked about how it might feel for both of us if I could penetrate him while we were doing something like that, and we are both intrigued.

We've talked about strap-ons but have not yet gotten as far as trying one. I think it would take a lot of time to get him really ready, he doesn't relax anally easily and is very tight. Just as some of you guys worry that you might hurt your partners or have a negative experience, I am worried about that. I don't want to rush anything or ruin anything!

 

[Rando]

Removed the last bit BW.

The relaxation thing is key, but I think it's just a function of really getting used to things poking around back there, so as you mentioned, patience and taking it slowly are very important. That being said, the first couple times my partner used a strapon for me, it was a bit hard to enjoy as it's a totally different feeling and it can be hard to get over the feeling that you have to go #2. Once you can get over these (minor) obstacles it is totally worth it from the guy's perspective and it sounds like a lot of women enjoy it too. It is crazy that we have so much info at our disposal regarding this topic and we still must show great care. Kinda makes me feel bad for the poor couples who didn't know much about anal sex before the act and went way too fast, didn't use lube, whatever. So I guess I can see why a lot of women are turned off to the idea.

 

[someone_like_u]

I think everything is all sort of wired up together for females. Stimulation in your ass definitely can affect your vaginal parts (I know that I feel it that way) plus it stimulates the nerve endings around your anus (a lot!). I also feel connections between my clit and my ass..... sometimes when one is getting attention, the other responds. How you experience your orgasm probably depends on how much stimulation you are getting and where. I know that the fullness of having him in my ass definitely contributes to the power of my orgasm, plus it makes it feel somewhat different to be squeezing on something anally. But is the orgasm completely different? No, I don't think so. It all just feels wonderful, similar yet different. Variety to be savored!

I agree with you about the connection between the two, esp. if both have had stimulation I was most definitely enjoying everything in the moment and was highly stimulated(he'd been gone too long, and there's no comparison to the real thing )
The fullness of him in my ass really is a different kind of arousal/pleasure and the unexpected orgasm was icing on the cake. It was hard to explain to him afterward, all the sensations/feelings/enjoyment I was having.

Well, bottom line is, we both enjoyed it and it was a great new experience for us.

 

[BigO]

I agree with you about the connection between the two, esp. if both have had stimulation I was most definitely enjoying everything in the moment and was highly stimulated(he'd been gone too long, and there's no comparison to the real thing )
The fullness of him in my ass really is a different kind of arousal/pleasure and the unexpected orgasm was icing on the cake. It was hard to explain to him afterward, all the sensations/feelings/enjoyment I was having.

Well, bottom line is, we both enjoyed it and it was a great new experience for us.

That is cool that you were able to get on the same page as your partner and enjoy this. My wife and I are discussing this lately andIt seems as if we are heading down the same path.
I think that before I was maybe a bit too pushy about it but not meaning to br. This thread is helpingalot and my wife has actually read some of it. I think that all the advice here is well thought out and needed for many who wish to make anal as enjoyable as it should be.

 

[someone_like_u]

That is cool that you were able to get on the same page as your partner and enjoy this. My wife and I are discussing this lately andIt seems as if we are heading down the same path.
I think that before I was maybe a bit too pushy about it but not meaning to br. This thread is helpingalot and my wife has actually read some of it. I think that all the advice here is well thought out and needed for many who wish to make anal as enjoyable as it should be.

Good for you guys BigO. I think my biggest hangup years ago, was me being uptight, dead set against it, you know? I grew up in a house where relationships/sex wasn't talked about, no sex before marriage(oops), that kind of stuff, so I just had in my head that anal sex was a definite no no. I've definitely loosened up over the years and have learned to enjoy everything about sex and my partner.

There is a taboo about anal sex that keeps some from exploring it with your partner, but in my opinion, if both partners are willing, go for it, there's nothing wrong with it and it can be quite enjoyable

 

[Total_Honesty]

Censored

Whoa, why the hell? Why was mistydawn's posts censored? Isn't that a little harsh?


I mean, if she doesn't like anal sex, then we should all be able to understand. I've known woman who don't like anal sex and they don't get chastised. Misty posts on here and she gets degraded. No, I don't agree with her stance, but it is what it is and she deserves more respect than she gets.


Props to you, mistydawn. Do what you got to do.

 

[someone_like_u]

Whoa, why the hell? Why was mistydawn's posts censored? Isn't that a little harsh?


I mean, if she doesn't like anal sex, then we should all be able to understand. I've known woman who don't like anal sex and they don't get chastised. Misty posts on here and she gets degraded. No, I don't agree with her stance, but it is what it is and she deserves more respect than she gets.


Props to you, mistydawn. Do what you got to do.

I don't know if Misty will respond to this thread again, but I think she censored her own posts because she feels she can't honestly state why she doesn't like anal and her experience with it, why some women don't like/let along enjoy it. She has very valid points and I appreciate her sharing them with us.

We're all here to learn and grow as people/lovers/humans. We all come from all over the world and I enjoy reading all of your different outlooks, and although I don't agree with Misty's viewpoint on anal, I respect it. Many women feel the way she does. Is it wrong, no, just a different take on the subject.

I think, we, as adults, should be able to post our opinions, open and honestly, without getting into pissing matches with other members.

Just remember, opinions are like ass holes, everyone has one! And some don't like their's to be penetrated, but I happen to enjoy it

 

[Batwoman]

Yes, misty censored her own posts. I asked her to either remove some or let me move them to another thread since they had nothing to do with anal sex, and the debate they were causing was getting in the way of the central discussion. She chose to remove them. She is more than welcome to post about anal sex here (and she knows that)..... but I do want to keep this thread on topic. I think is fine for people to disagree -- we do that all the time here -- but it makes it really hard to read threads when they get involved in heated exchanges that are far beyond the topic at hand.

 

[someone_like_u]

I mentioned earlier that I love having my prostate massaged and being anally fucked by a girl with a strapon (and I'm straight, go figure). I also like to use hands free prostate massagers and just focus on different sensations. Anyway, if I focus really intensely on the feelings in my sphincter, right where the toy is entering me I can get a mini-orgasm out of it. There are tons of nerve endings and I believe that part of the anatomy is identical for men and women so theoretically I think it should be possible for women as well. It is probably difficult to achieve during anal sex for women, I could only do it a couple times by myself when I'm able to intensely concentrate. The payoff isn't that great, the orgasm isn't huge or anything, but it's a weird and different feeling, so maybe it's worth it to try.

Ok, let's get this thread going again. Rando, since you have great experience with anal/as a guy, what do you suggest as a first anal toy/prostate massager for us to use on my guy?