Big Al, of MaleEnhancementCoach.com, answers questions about why you may have a difference in stamina when it comes to masturbation and sex, as well as how Stop & Starts and Kegels help penis enlargement, in this Ask the Experts article.

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Q. Why is it I’m able to last for a long time masturbating and edging but not during sex?

I’m a little nervous when it comes time to penetrate and this always seems to set me off early!

Big Al: Performance issues can be very specific.  Consider the sexual response: nature doesn’t need and hardly tolerates interference from the human mind. When the emphasis of what should be a pleasurable, unencumbered experience becomes tainted by expectations then performance suffers.  This happens along a spectrum and can spiral into a vicious cycle if continued.  THIS is precisely why men who attempt to “logic” their way out of psychogenic ED often fail

Understand and do your best to convince yourself the issue is solely within your mind.  To you and your partners benefit you can perform the Stop and Starts technique during the act of penetration so you can adapt to it.  If your anxiety is manageable this would be the optimal route to progress in that area.

Q. I don’t understand how kegels and the start/stop work to make it bigger

Big Al: Consider what happens during the Erect Kegels. With an erection, when you contract the PC the penis visibly “hyperexpands”.  This is tissue stretch at work.  The effects of kegels on erection size have even been noted in Wikipedia:

“Exercises are usually done to reduce urinary stress incontinence (especially after childbirth) and reduce premature ejaculatory occurrences in men, as well as to increase the size and intensity of erections.”

The Stop and Start also stretches the tissues by forcing you to maintain a maximal erection above and beyond what your accustomed to.

This in and of itself can contribute to size, but it’s when you perform these exercises AFTER your enlargement work- where your tissues have already been pre-stretched- that more massive growth occurs.  This is the reasoning behind the particular ordering of the exercises, which have a cascading effect.