Your dick is small

[Dangler]

When in doubt, or caught by surprise, I elect to treat the other person with respect, and if it fits, a measure of love.

Some 'insignificant' situations can be set in a direction that can be very rewarding.
What's to lose, as long as things don't go fooking crazy?
The best may be yet to come.

 

[TheZZMan]

I guess I'm gonna double down. If she say's you dick is small, or soft or whatever, then she is equally welcomed to take a comment on her. You say she is hot, I say she is insensitive to your feelings by making a disparaging comment. The basis of a fun and stable relationship does not start by telling you your dick is small. Don't care how "hot" she is. She needs to be able to accept you for what you are and what you have. I guess I'm stuck in my ways.

 

[not2big]

If she said your dick is soft and not small, that’s a whole other story. If that comment came after an extended period of sex, she was probably trying to tell you it was time to take a break and take time to allow your dick to recover back to an erection.

 

[PEispossible]

I recently heard this from a woman I'm seeing. I'm a little less than 7 inches thanks to PE. I have my theories why a woman would say this to a man. I laughed it off when she said it. I felt that it was a female version of negging a guy. What I did was ask for oral and when she couldn't take it all in I said, "Good job, you almost got it in."

Bigger questions:
Deal breaker when a woman disparages your dick?
How do you react when a woman disparages your penis?

I dontt quite undderstand the context , you said she said it first but now its because your dick was flaccid?

youre confusing me , and keep adding to the story, and I really dont know what advice to give you because I dont feel your being honest. or your covering somwething up trying to hide your insecurities or take up for her. either way, sorry I wasted my time on this thread

 

[BigO]

The real story is that we had sex for over eight hours until I couldn't get erect and then she said my pene was chiquita. Personally, I'm not troubled with my situation. We are only dating and to me she is one of the most attractive women I've met - She can tease me about my dick as long as she spends more time worshiping it. Maybe she's a size queen, maybe her partners have been packing more than average, maybe she's into humiliation play, maybe she was being sarcastic, maybe she was insecure about something, maybe she watches a lot of porn, maybe she's trying to make me feel insecure, maybe she's seeing if I get angry or act irrational, maybe she wants to sabotage any future relationship...


Looks like most people have said it's a deal breaker and that they'd cut things off promptly if a woman made disparaging penis comments. As long as it's not mean spirited or too often then I don't mind some teasing banter. Which is really the opposite mentality for me prior to PE. I would have taken innocent remarks as insults targeting my junk.


Now though, I laugh it off and then frame/context it to see if it was mean spirited, really bothers me, not a big issue, or perhaps something I'm being insecure about.

Maybe she meant it's limp and tha was how she said it without realizing it may have been misinterpreted.

I'd say let it go, she had sex all day so I doubt she meant it as you are small.

my immediate thought after reading her saying its Chiquita is that she was comparing it to when you were erect.

I would not be upset with her at all.

 

[FeelHappy]

I recently heard this from a woman I'm seeing. I'm a little less than 7 inches thanks to PE. I have my theories why a woman would say this to a man. I laughed it off when she said it. I felt that it was a female version of negging a guy. What I did was ask for oral and when she couldn't take it all in I said, "Good job, you almost got it in."

Bigger questions:
Deal breaker when a woman disparages your dick?
How do you react when a woman disparages your penis?

As a nerd, I would just ask something like 'you know statistics, do you?'
Since I know that 7" is above average I would just make fun of her to show her that she's acting very wrong.

 

[NiceCADude]

Either she's a size queen and has taken a lot of larger men, and knows you're actually big, but feels you're not big enough for her standard of 'big'.

Or she's just saying that to mess with you.

Either way, I'd take a big cock like yours and laugh at small dick comments as its not true.

 

[orlands]

A girl that I'm seeing is very insecure about her breasts, because its average in the lower end. I told them that their breasts are normal, and it's my preference.She disagreed and told me its very small. I kept my position and said she is out of reality, and that they are normal and most of men prefer the breasts just like what she has.
She was mind blown, very happy. A lot of weight out of her sholders.

 

[Pegasus]

A healthy way to act is not be around people who do not treat you with respect .

 

[paul7979]

Seems to me that you "poked" at her when you commented that she couldn't handle it all. I think that she rightfully "poked" back by calling you small. I'd brush it all off as an "in the moment" comment. Not everyone is witty and thinks through what they say. She may have meant it as a joke and it came out wrong. Just me thoughts.

 

[Pegasus]

If your woman is not showing you respect you need a new woman . Yep it can cost you. Sometimes you cut off a finger to save an arm

 

[marikonyalti]

It lowers a person's self-esteem, no matter how many sexual partners he has had. I personally would be offended to hear that, even though I have a size greater than average, even though I understand that size is not really important, but there is pressure on a psychological level, and that's bad.

 

[TheAce]

I wouldn't fret it. Just give it to her even better next time. Before PE I would make my woman cum like crazy through oral and G-spot play, then my dick. But now with the added length and girth I can give her multiple orgasms with just PIV. Just keep working on yourself and ignore any sh*t-tests from a woman...

 

[uniball]

A buddy of mine who is also small told me that going limp forced him to get better at using his mouth. She sits on his face to let him tongue punch her pussy while he play with her tits.