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About dancing and swearing
About dancing and swearing
Toadstool Tip 1;
Know how to dance.
Dancing is often associated with sexual performance, and showing confidence on the dance floor will attract a lot of female attention to yourself. Don't just think in a bar or club, think 'moving your body.' Knowing how to move your body to a rhythm you both can follow will bring you a long way.
It's also fun to dance. Showing her that you can make a fool of yourself and still have a good time shows her you're fun to be around; it shows confidence.
Knowing how to dance shows skill.
Toadstool Tip 2;
Do not make your first impression with a swear word. It immediately shows her you lack class. Women love to be fancy. Show her and her friends you have class by expanding your vocabulary.
Toadstool Tip 3;
Learn to start making decisions for her. These aren't commands she must follow, but rather recommendations.
Tell her what to wear. Say "Wear those shoes with that shirt... It really brings out your eyes/hair/curves, or some other feature."
When you take her out to dinner, tell her what to order. "The such-and-such here is really good. Order that."
About dancing and swearing
Toadstool Tip 1;
Know how to dance.
Dancing is often associated with sexual performance, and showing confidence on the dance floor will attract a lot of female attention to yourself. Don't just think in a bar or club, think 'moving your body.' Knowing how to move your body to a rhythm you both can follow will bring you a long way.
It's also fun to dance. Showing her that you can make a fool of yourself and still have a good time shows her you're fun to be around; it shows confidence.
Knowing how to dance shows skill.
Toadstool Tip 2;
Do not make your first impression with a swear word. It immediately shows her you lack class. Women love to be fancy. Show her and her friends you have class by expanding your vocabulary.
Toadstool Tip 3;
Learn to start making decisions for her. These aren't commands she must follow, but rather recommendations.
Tell her what to wear. Say "Wear those shoes with that shirt... It really brings out your eyes/hair/curves, or some other feature."
When you take her out to dinner, tell her what to order. "The such-and-such here is really good. Order that."
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About being interesting
About being interesting
Toadstool Tip 4;
Be interesting. Have stories.
Women are great conversationalists. Have something to intrigue her about yourself.
This ultimately means you should lead an interesting life. Tell her about that time you got lost while backpacking. Tell her something about yourself that she wouldn't expect.
What is interesting is subject to interpretation so you will start to attract women who are intrigued by the things you're interested in.
About being interesting
Toadstool Tip 4;
Be interesting. Have stories.
Women are great conversationalists. Have something to intrigue her about yourself.
This ultimately means you should lead an interesting life. Tell her about that time you got lost while backpacking. Tell her something about yourself that she wouldn't expect.
What is interesting is subject to interpretation so you will start to attract women who are intrigued by the things you're interested in.
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I have 5 boys and have been aswering toy phones longer than cell phones. They are much more cost effective. Repped.
More about the phone
More about the phone
When you are with a woman, don't take the call unless you really need to. Few things are anywhere nearly as cool as when she asks "Aren't you going to get that?" and you respond, "No, baby. I am busy with you right now. The phone can wait."
More about the phone
When you are with a woman, don't take the call unless you really need to. Few things are anywhere nearly as cool as when she asks "Aren't you going to get that?" and you respond, "No, baby. I am busy with you right now. The phone can wait."
About compliments
About compliments
Delivering a sincere compliment is a skill and so, practice, practice, practice! Get into the habit of complimenting people all the time. And don't limit this to only incredibly hot babes. If you do, you will not come across as sincere. They hear stuff like that all the time. So does Cuspie, so don't try it on him either.
Instead, look for things to compliment all the other people, (male, female, young, old, pretty, ugly, etc.) that you interact with: the girl at the check out stand, the old lady at the farmers' market, the cop writing you the ticket, and so on. It will become a habit and a skill. Once you look for things to compliment some one on, you will notice all kinds of material with which to work.
After you do that for a while, when you do deliver a "I like your earrings. They are tres piratey" to the hottie at the bar, it will come across as sincere and natural, because it will be.
So next the next time that you are playing rugby and are locked in a savage scrum, take a moment to look at the guy in front of you and say "You have the sweetest smile." (Safety tip: make sure that he, or she, has teeth first, lest your remark come across as insincere.)
About compliments
Delivering a sincere compliment is a skill and so, practice, practice, practice! Get into the habit of complimenting people all the time. And don't limit this to only incredibly hot babes. If you do, you will not come across as sincere. They hear stuff like that all the time. So does Cuspie, so don't try it on him either.
Instead, look for things to compliment all the other people, (male, female, young, old, pretty, ugly, etc.) that you interact with: the girl at the check out stand, the old lady at the farmers' market, the cop writing you the ticket, and so on. It will become a habit and a skill. Once you look for things to compliment some one on, you will notice all kinds of material with which to work.
After you do that for a while, when you do deliver a "I like your earrings. They are tres piratey" to the hottie at the bar, it will come across as sincere and natural, because it will be.
So next the next time that you are playing rugby and are locked in a savage scrum, take a moment to look at the guy in front of you and say "You have the sweetest smile." (Safety tip: make sure that he, or she, has teeth first, lest your remark come across as insincere.)
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About hats and neckwear.
About hats and neckwear.
Never wear a hat which has more personality than you do.
The same is true for neck wear or shoes.
It is great to wear a fedora or an ascot but you don't want anything you wear to ever be your most important aspect.
About hats and neckwear.
Never wear a hat which has more personality than you do.
The same is true for neck wear or shoes.
It is great to wear a fedora or an ascot but you don't want anything you wear to ever be your most important aspect.
-Be comfortable in your own skin; you shouldn't care what people think or say about you, be assertive enough to give your own opinion, and be happy and confident in any situation.
-Have good posture; dont slump or hunch over.
-Always look people in the eyes.
-Have good posture; dont slump or hunch over.
-Always look people in the eyes.
If you are serving two of something; food, drink, splitting a candybar, whatever; always give the portion you think is nicer/better to the other person. Always.
Learn the do's and don'ts of mens fashion.
1. Never go to the store (no matter the time of day) in your damn pajamas; if you're sick and need medicine put on a pair of jeans and a hoodie to cover your bed head. The farthest you should ever go in that attire is your front lawn (or to a party that it would be wanted or acceptable)
2. Brown shoes and black pants/slacks...NO!
3. Avoid wearing color combinations that resemble holidays: Red and Green, Orange and Black, Blue and Orange.. etc etc
4. Know when to dress for the proper occasion, it's much harder to be overdressed then under-dress!
5. Women are not the only people who can wear accessories! Try buying a belt, get a half way decent watch (non digital), try finding a necklace that isn't too masculine or feminine (better if you can find something with meaning). You should treat shoes like an accessory as well; your wardrobe should consist of more than just a pair of tennis shoes or sandals fellas! AND NO CROcS!!!
6. Blue jeans and a V-neck shirts are sexy for a lot of women but mind the chest hair. (perfect time to wear a belt too)
7. Don't be afraid to try pink/salmon; if you can rock a dress shirt in this color it shows confidence!
8. Different situations (dates) require different attire; jeans and a t-shirt are great for a ball game but maybe not the best choice for a romantic dinner.
9. No man should wear skinny jeans (my opinion only)
10. Believe it or not your draws (underwear) when you get to that point with a woman can gain you some points as well. You should probably keep at least 1 or 2 pair tucked away for special occasions (single and out clubbing and planning on taking someone home..etc etc) NOT that they should have hearts or crazy stuff like that on them but they shouldn't look like you've had them for the last 3 years!
The only reason I'm bringing this stuff up is because women are very keen on first impressions as well as believing their man has a sense of fashion. They don't want to be embarrassed to be seen with you out in public because your dressed sloppy or under dressed amongst her co-workers, family or friends.
Some might question my accessories tip but think of it this way. If you have a necklace that isn't too bold yet is interesting in its subtleness and has some meaning it opens up a door way for communication. For instance my son was born with a heart condition, I found a pendant that depicts an actual heart; I've had more girls ask me about it than I can count and every time I tell them the story I swear their panties drop an inch. Also in the day and age of cell phones many people (men) don't wear watches anymore; it is now shows form of sophistication to wear one.
Biggest tip is not to follow the fashion trends unless you have the disposable income and knack for knowing whats "in" and whats "out" because it changes too quickly. Stick with the classic stuff (looks not brands) and your wardrobe won't make you look "out of style" so quickly. Basically if you're advertising the clothes your wearing (the name is across your chest) your destined to be the guy still wearing Tommy Hilfiger. The best clothes are the ones that fit you properly not the name or label!
If you ever have a question about fashion your best bet is to either
A. Find a gay friend to help you
B. Know of a girl (who can dress properly herself) that can help you buy clothes (not your mother)
And if your goal is to bring a girls eyes down to your package you can actually make a subtle change to the color of our jeans to make their eyes focus to it....lol
1. Never go to the store (no matter the time of day) in your damn pajamas; if you're sick and need medicine put on a pair of jeans and a hoodie to cover your bed head. The farthest you should ever go in that attire is your front lawn (or to a party that it would be wanted or acceptable)
2. Brown shoes and black pants/slacks...NO!
3. Avoid wearing color combinations that resemble holidays: Red and Green, Orange and Black, Blue and Orange.. etc etc
4. Know when to dress for the proper occasion, it's much harder to be overdressed then under-dress!
5. Women are not the only people who can wear accessories! Try buying a belt, get a half way decent watch (non digital), try finding a necklace that isn't too masculine or feminine (better if you can find something with meaning). You should treat shoes like an accessory as well; your wardrobe should consist of more than just a pair of tennis shoes or sandals fellas! AND NO CROcS!!!
6. Blue jeans and a V-neck shirts are sexy for a lot of women but mind the chest hair. (perfect time to wear a belt too)
7. Don't be afraid to try pink/salmon; if you can rock a dress shirt in this color it shows confidence!
8. Different situations (dates) require different attire; jeans and a t-shirt are great for a ball game but maybe not the best choice for a romantic dinner.
9. No man should wear skinny jeans (my opinion only)
10. Believe it or not your draws (underwear) when you get to that point with a woman can gain you some points as well. You should probably keep at least 1 or 2 pair tucked away for special occasions (single and out clubbing and planning on taking someone home..etc etc) NOT that they should have hearts or crazy stuff like that on them but they shouldn't look like you've had them for the last 3 years!
The only reason I'm bringing this stuff up is because women are very keen on first impressions as well as believing their man has a sense of fashion. They don't want to be embarrassed to be seen with you out in public because your dressed sloppy or under dressed amongst her co-workers, family or friends.
Some might question my accessories tip but think of it this way. If you have a necklace that isn't too bold yet is interesting in its subtleness and has some meaning it opens up a door way for communication. For instance my son was born with a heart condition, I found a pendant that depicts an actual heart; I've had more girls ask me about it than I can count and every time I tell them the story I swear their panties drop an inch. Also in the day and age of cell phones many people (men) don't wear watches anymore; it is now shows form of sophistication to wear one.
Biggest tip is not to follow the fashion trends unless you have the disposable income and knack for knowing whats "in" and whats "out" because it changes too quickly. Stick with the classic stuff (looks not brands) and your wardrobe won't make you look "out of style" so quickly. Basically if you're advertising the clothes your wearing (the name is across your chest) your destined to be the guy still wearing Tommy Hilfiger. The best clothes are the ones that fit you properly not the name or label!
If you ever have a question about fashion your best bet is to either
A. Find a gay friend to help you
B. Know of a girl (who can dress properly herself) that can help you buy clothes (not your mother)
And if your goal is to bring a girls eyes down to your package you can actually make a subtle change to the color of our jeans to make their eyes focus to it....lol
Tell her how good she looks. Girls spend a lot of time getting ready and they do it for us, so let them know you notice their effort. Make her feel beautiful and trust me, you'll both be happier.
About cooking
About cooking
Learn to prepare three complete meals: soup, salad, entree, dessert, wines, coffee/tea, the works. There are lots of books and online resources to help you out. Practice them and get them right.
Invite her over and share some wine while she talks to you while you do all the work. Sexy as hell:
1) she is at your place
2) you are displaying expertise
3) you are doing it for her
About cooking
Learn to prepare three complete meals: soup, salad, entree, dessert, wines, coffee/tea, the works. There are lots of books and online resources to help you out. Practice them and get them right.
Invite her over and share some wine while she talks to you while you do all the work. Sexy as hell:
1) she is at your place
2) you are displaying expertise
3) you are doing it for her
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Better yet, compliment something specific, like her earrings, or her shoes. Saying "you look good" is vague and simple. Show her you're paying attention to how good she looks. Did she get a hair cut? Did she colour her hair, or her nails?
When she comes over looking great in a simple sun dress, it didn't happen by accident. Tell her that: "You make that dress look good."
Yes, definitely notice little changes in her appearance, and then tell her about it if it looks good. It shows that you are paying attention.
I can also attest to Toadstool's advice about dancing. At my sister's birthday party, she invited everyone out to a club. It was the first time I'd been clubbing in a long time, but I'm used to dancing in public. All the guys were around the edges of the dance floor, sitting in the booths or at the tables, trying to look cool. All the girls were on the floor dancing. I was on the dance floor. All the women's eyes were on me (some of them were giving me the creepy stalker eyes, which at least lets me know that they want me), and I had my pick. I chose one and just wrapped my arm around her waist, and she was mine; as long as I was dancing with her, she wasn't paying attention to anyone else. Then I moved on to the next one.
Damn, it was awesome. Which reminds me, I should do that again some time. It's quite the ego boost.
Be passionate in everything you do. If you enjoy your life you will be able to attract quality people in it.
P.S. I was thinking about giving the tip of "spotting the little things" but u guys got there first
Also glad to be back in this great thread after 3 months out of the gym.
P.S. I was thinking about giving the tip of "spotting the little things" but u guys got there first
Also glad to be back in this great thread after 3 months out of the gym.When one of you post all of these things I'll be hopping on a plane! Excellent thread! Rep!!
When you get up to get something ask her or others if they need anything.
If she is venting just listen. Don't offer advice or fixes. She will ask if she wants it.
PMS is real. Gets worse with age. So however she handles it now get ready. Please wait until it's over that few days. Talk to her about the verbal lashing and mark it in your calendar to remind you 28 days later it's a coming again
When you get up to get something ask her or others if they need anything.
If she is venting just listen. Don't offer advice or fixes. She will ask if she wants it.
PMS is real. Gets worse with age. So however she handles it now get ready. Please wait until it's over that few days. Talk to her about the verbal lashing and mark it in your calendar to remind you 28 days later it's a coming again
Be careful with this. In my mind nicer/better = bigger; which in her mind could be interpreted that you expect that she eats a lot (i.e. fat or FP fat potential) My fiance was pissed because she thought I was "shoving food at her". After I explained the bigger is better concept, she politely asked me to take the larger share.
