Hey @Incogneeetoe
Thanks for posting your progress thread. I will check it out. I wanted to ask if there are top of mind variables that you feel moved the needle to improved EQ.
Any change in diet for instance? Exercise? Keigels? Edging?
I think diet, exercise and edging are all part of it. And, of course, mental dedication.
First, not so much "dieting" as proper diet. I swear by the 5G tea now. Living in Korea I always hear about garlic, ginger and ginseng. They often come in traditional oriental medicine as "good for men". They even call red ginseng "Korean Viagra". I used to laugh it off, but once I started to read into it, I found that there is indeed evidence that it is true. I also found that ginkgo is great for circulation and green tea for anti-oxidants. All of which help keep the erection healthy.
I also like to eat well. So I aim to have lunches that are heart healthy. I eat oatmeal and fruit, or salads without any dressing. It is not much fun, but I figure supper will be better, so I just grin and bare it.
Oh, and lots of water.
Second, I have always tried to stay in shape, but as time went by I was less and less dedicated. So I started to focus on aerobic exercise more. I got rid of my car and use my bike as much as possible. That is a big thing, I think. While biking I get stuck at red lights, etc. When waiting I do kegel routines. Reverse kegels, rolling kegels, etc. The blood flow is always important.
I also do yoga 5 days a week. I have a bad lower back from a car accident a few years ago, so I was doing some yoga anyway. I just added in some poses that also target the pelvic floor. I sleep better because of it, and last longer in bed, too.
I also do pelvic thrusts all the time. I read in tantric books about getting the pelvis moving to get blood flow going, so in my PE routine I do pelvic thrusts and in yoga time, too. I got the wife to join in, and she also likes the routine.
Finally, I have edged for a long time. Literally since the 90s. Not constantly, especially after meeting my wife I did not really have a need. However, once I started to do it with consistency I think it made a difference. Part of it is just getting an erection. As we get older we tend to get less erections. Life takes over, the sex life falls by the wayside and we just get less erections. I found that to be very true. Then one day I read a sexpert talk about erections, and she explained something simple: the more erections you get the more erections you
will get.
It is a very simple concept.
So I set out to try and have at least an erection a day. I would get hard in the shower. No need to ejaculate, as that was not my purpose. And as time went by I found that erections came far more easily and frequently.
It used to be that I needed a good while to get warmed up for sex. But my wife is not really a foreplay kind of girl. She gets horny and wants it. So the longer it took the more stressful it was for me. She tried to put me inside her while still only 50%. Then I would cum quickly and it led to a circle of failed sex and premature ejaculation.
After I started to edge daily I found that I could get hard very quickly. Literally, if my wife hints she wants it, I start to get hard.
I know it is all just anecdotal, but from my point of view it works. I get really hard really fast. My wife complains about my being too hard sometimes. If I haven't had sex in a while and am very horny, my erection sticks straight up and won't move, making cowgirl a difficult position for her.
My refractory period is down to an hour or so. I used to take days to get it back up, now I can in about 45 minutes. Maybe less. In fact, my erection often does not go away. I ejaculate, but the erection stays for 5-10 minutes. And it is hard enough that my wife has used it "just because it is there".
