some girl

[shane_syndrome]

ok well i talked to brooke last night and she was saying how shes young and still wants to screw around, so pretty much she said she wants to be with me and do stuff with other guys and she said if it means that much to me shes going to tell mike to fuck off but shes going to still have fun with other guys she also said I can do it aswell but she doesnt want me telling her about it. ( i told her i still want her to just be honest with me , and she said she will tell me about the stuff she does)

so pretty much she wants to be a couple that sleeps with other people , i dont know if i can deal with that becasue i get jellous easy but i really dont want to lose her so i dont know what im going to do.

 

[O.G.]

Just cut it off with her, or establish that you are just friends with benefits. I don't know your personal life, but to me it seems like this is in no way a real relationship.

 

[Batwoman]

Sound like she wants "friends with benefits" and Shane wants a real relationship. That kind of imbalance in expectations only leads to pain. Shane, I think you are only going to get hurt by staying with her. You need to face the fact that she doesn't want the same things that you do, and cut yourself completely loose of her. If you get emotionally all tied up in her, it will be devastating to hear that she is sleeping with other guys (and you will hear the details sometime, I'm sure). It's very different when you see the real person your lover is sleeping with, rather than just hearing and knowing that they might be doing it sometime. Save yourself the grief -- find another girl.

 

[Pegasus]

Glad I am not a teenager.

 

[shane_syndrome]

I dont think i can cut it off with her becasue she actually was my first love and we have been through so much together , we decided to just be friends and stay close and she said she needs to get ontop of her sh*t before shes ready for a real relationship and she is going to let me know when shes ready to be with me , but i cant just keep waiting for her right?

its going to be hard to find a new girl , but her best friend said shes mad at her right now becasue shes being the biggest slut she ever met , and she was saying how im the nicest guy and i look better then all the other guys so she shouldnt do this to me and shes willing to pretend where in a relationship just so we can make her jealious but i dont know if that will go over to well becasue some of her friends thought it would be funny to say i slept with all of them and she stoped talking to me for a while and shes still not talking to any of those friends.

 

[Batwoman]

Don't lie, don't pretend anything. It only screws you up. Also, lies like that tend to have a way of spinning out of control and doing collateral damage. What if some really nice girl you haven't even met yet hears certain things about you that aren't true but come out of lying, and you miss the chance of something good as a result? Just bide your time, be honest and open, and it will all be better for you in the end.

 

[shane_syndrome]

thanks , im not going to lie to her becasue she said shes done lieing to me so im going to try to keep a mutual trust between us ... its so weird we havnt stoped talking since and shes still like i love you baby every 5min , she even said she wants to have a daughtor with me and name her skye , and get a dog named duke.

 

[Batwoman]

I know you like her, but that sounds pretty screwed up to me. Don't let yourself be jerked around. How can she "love" you if she is out looking for other men? And the whole "I want to have your baby" thing sounds creepy. Be careful.

 

[amazingthing4her]

Shane RUN AWAY. Do not waste anymore of your time and energy of this girl. Once a cheater always a cheater she will not change her ways. All I see in a situation like this is heartache and std's. But good luck I know how the heart can mess with the brain.

 

[shane_syndrome]

my friend has a place on a beach , theres a million people there any givin hot day and im in the single digets of body fat and 180 lbs (built like a fitness model) so im bound to meet someone this summer if i stay with him all summer , he asked me to come up and i told her about it but she freakd out and doesnt want me to go ( guess she knows ill hook up with other girls) ... its almost like she wants to keep me to her self but sleep with other guys :S

 

[Batwoman]

its almost like she wants to keep me to her self but sleep with other guys :S

Almost like that? I'd say it's exactly like that.
She's an immature girl with problems, stay away from her if you value your own peace of mind.

 

[shane_syndrome]

Ok I have decided im going to the beach for the full summer and having a good time even though it will be hard and shes going to try and convince me to stay with her all summer.

 

[Aguares]

These guys are pretty much on cue. Let go of her for your own sanity and health. She wants to keep you in check but, will do her own thing when she can. No one sane wants to think of their partner sleeping with others unless they live that kind of lifestyle. That takes an awful lot of confidence and personal security. It doesn't sound like you guys have this. She doesn't want a serious relationship but, still wants to be selfish and keep you under her umbrella while she screws around. That's not a relationship. That's what I call ownership. She's using your feelings and lack of confidence to her self thought best interests. She believes she has you hen pecked and wants to keep it that way. Go do YOUR thing.

 

[shane_syndrome]

well she just toled me she freakd out at this mike guy becasue there not even dating and hes telling every1 they are

 

[O.G.]

Still makes no difference. This girl is going to cause you a lot of grief. She has a lot of issues, she is consciously manipulating you, but at also half the time she doesn't know she is doing it as well. She's fucked in the head, you don't deserve this. Get your morals in line, follow your principles, and get your head straight. Get rid of this bitch. If she turns her act around she'll be there, otherwise do your own thing, learn from this experience and don't stress or dwell on it.

 

[shane_syndrome]

okay well I blocked her on fb and msn , im going to try to pretend it doesnt even bother me.

 

[O.G.]

No, don't pretend my man. Actually overcome the problem, don't hide it. Rise above.