Reducing penis sensitivity?

[Mike1985]

Hi guys. Totally new here - searched the forums, but didn't find much on this topic, or maybe I didn't look hard enough. Point me in the right direction please!

I want to last longer in bed, and I'm uncircumcised. My penis is pretty sensitive. I usually last longer in bed under the following conditions:

1. I'm tired
2. I don't feel like having sex
3. I haven't masturbated in a while, so I can stay hard even when I think of the nastiest things to keep me from ejaculating too quickly.
4. Doggy position (missionary makes me cum way too quick, and in doggy I can really concentrate on relaxing my pelvic muscles and just use my legs to thrust, and relax my abs and breathe.)

I'm aware of kegels, reverse kegels, etc. and have been doing them for a long time. My PC muscles are very strong.

I truly think that the sensitivity of the head of my penis is the problem, and I'd like to fix it. It hurts when my gf performs oral on me, and my penis feels sensitive during sex, since we don't use condoms.

Here are the things I've tried to reduce the sensitivity of my penis:

1. Put Orajel on my penis to numb it before sex, then wash it off before insertion.
2. Put Listerine on my penis twice per day, because the burning sensation overstimulates the nerves and numbs it a little.

These things work! But only a little. I want to last even longer. For maybe 5 minutes or so would be perfect.

Here's what I'd like to try putting on my penis: Sensodyne toothpaste, and Vicks Vaporub.

A few people on the internet have said that these things might work, but I really don't know, since it's hard to find who to believe, or if they're joking.

Please tell me if putting Sensodyne or Vicks on my penis would reduce the sensitivity, and if it's safe. I know it doesn't SEEM safe or like a good idea, but since Listerine and Orajel worked, why not go a step further?

Essentially I want to build up "calluses" on the head of my penis and deaden the nerves a little bit. Rubbing it often only irritates it and makes it MORE sensitive, but using mild chemicals seems to work.

 

[steve123]

The sensitivity of your penis should be cherished and not something you "burn away". Trust me, sex is not fun to go that long if you can't feel it!


If you was me, i would try to PE or kegel/reverse kegel to build up some stamina and get the best of both worlds.

 

[Mike1985]

Maybe you can give me some guidance on Kegels. I do them all the time, and I find that they actually make the problem worse! During sex if I do even the hint of a Kegel - it's all over. If I clench my PC muscles in an attempt to prevent an orgasm, it only makes the orgasm come faster and my penis becomes more sensitive!

Do you think the problem is an imbalance of the kegel and the reverse kegel? I've never really focused on reverse kegels at all. Maybe I need to do them all the time, and forget about the kegel for now (which I've been doing ever since I was 12)?

These days when I urinate, I push the urine out using the kegel, not the normal way (which is the reverse kegel, right?) Maybe instead of stopping the stream of urine while I pee, I need to focus on pushing out as much urine as possible, thus getting used to doing the reverse kegel?

I've noticed that during sex, if I try to tense my muscles as if I'm trying to pee, I last longer. This is the reverse kegel, right?

The only thing which would make sense to me at this point, would be to focus on the reverse kegel, and to forget about the normal kegel for now. I think I do them so much, that my PC muscles are constantly tense. I mean, I'm so good at kegels that I can do multiple orgasms and stay erect after ejaculating and keep going. But it's not fun at all - I'd rather have a big and long build-up while I'm having sex, and have just one orgasm in the end.

 

[Mike1985]

Been reading some more on this forum. Seems like I have a pretty bad imbalance going on. I'll completely stop regular kegels and will do lots of reverse kegels.

A lot of the time when I'm masturbating or having sex, and I try to do a kegel, I can't, because it feels like I'm experiencing a constant "involuntary" kegel already. If that makes sense.

 

[Mike1985]

and it looks like my caffeine consumption might be a factor! The more relaxed I am, the stronger my erections will be, and the longer I will last. True?

 

[sweetie52]

True-and what's the problem?

 

[TTBB]

If you are wanting to apply anything to your penis .. i would say stay away from vicks vapor rub and toothpaste they are not designed to go on sensative skin.. look into Topical anesthetic creams containing lidocaine or prilocaine..stick to applications that are designed (been tested) for use on the penis
i would also suggest the squeeze technique when you feel you are close to coming...as a way to prolong

i will send a link for this thread to Pegasus .. if anyone can help you sort out your kegels or answer your questions he can..

 

[Going411x7]

You want to read the ingredients of whatever you attempt to place on your penis, especially the glans and the sensitive nerves underneath it. (It is one of THE most sensitive areas of your body). That tissue was not meant for man-made products.

WHEN IN DOUBT, DON'T!!!!!

 

[Pegasus]

You do indeed seem to have a muscle imbalance going on. What you have done, is similar to working quads but not hamstrings, or pecs but not R cuff. You will need to build your reverse kegel up to match your standard kegel.
Ok so standard kegels are contraction stop piss, reverse is expansion piss harder. These are for the front version which is your starting point ,there is also a back version of each(aka root lock).
Tell me about your current reverse routine.

 

[wheelbite]

pegasus, what would be a good reverse kegel routine to do? I feel I have decent reverse kegels, but I dont have a routine, just I make sure I reverse kegel sometimes during the day

 

[Pegasus]

Ok so the starting point is one second contractions followed by one second relax. You can do these in sets of 10 or 20 throughout the day. When you are doing a 100 plus you can increase the time of contraction to 5 sec then later 10 sec holds. Of course only in extream spasm cases, would you be doing only reverse , in most cases you would also be doing some standard kegels. When you can do 100 10 sec holds, look in Minuteman's sig for a variety of exercises to work through

 

[Mike1985]

I guess for starters I'll try to "push out urine" harder when I pee, and make that "try to pee" motion when I have an erection. I have to get used to those muscles, the same way I'm used to the "regular kegel" muscles.

 

[spanky]

I've had a fair degree of success focusing on involuntary kegels (my thread here https://www.pegym.com/forums/premature-ejaculation-forum/21631-eliminating-involuntary-kegels.html)

Also, I think the longer you can stay hard, and relaxed, before penetration makes a difference. At least it does to me.

 

[Minuteman]

Since you have addressed the problem of the imbalance, i will tacke the problem of the sensitivity of your head.

I noticed during my sessions that it isn't the sensitivity of your penis that is the problem as much as the problem you being to much focused on the fact that you feel good down there. It is hard to put in the words and it sounds like some zen-like crap but next time you have sex/of edging session try to view it this way. During that time that you feel and say to yourself "oh, i'm getting to sensitive down there" try to focus your attention on other part of your body. For example the feeling in your hands as you caress her, or the feeling of your whole body pressed against her, of focus on your lips as you are kissing her. Try to think and act this way, i think it will help much, because for some reason i'm sure that out problem isn't much about sensitivity as much as it is about our perception of that sensitivity (sounds stupid i know, but once you actually observe and apply that it makes sense ).

One important note and a common mistake, do not force the focus away from your penis, you will just focus on it more. Love and enjoy what you are doing with your hands/lips/body to not try to "change the subject" because that is as faulty as thinking about naked granmmas etc, but simply move on.

 

[spanky]

Definitely agree with what MM was saying there. I find the ideal is a combination of muscle relaxation and a tiny shift of focus like this. Not trying to think of something else, but instead sinking into the sensation of your whole body and mind's arousal.

A slightly crude example, I masturbated earlier reading back a load of dirty text messages I sent and received from a girl, imagining her there, and what I'd do with her. This slight distraction meant I wasn't having to consciously keep myself at bay, or even "trust" myself as such, I just wasn't thinking about my stamina, I was just enjoying it from a slightly different zone. I was still aware of shutting down involuntaries at the same time, but I've found this becomes more instinctive and automatic as you practice. Point is I was horny as hell, and sensitive, but not in any danger at all. I was going for about ten minutes and in the end I even had to make an effort to finish.

If you've read any of my earlier threads, you'll know that that sort of distance was way out of my range a few months ago.

Now I've found other ways and scenarios that really do desensitise you, I suspect it's partly fatigue in play, but this takes more time to prepare - as I said up there, and have posted extensively about in the last month or so, there is for many of us a point after 20 minutes or so of constant arousal and stimulation (albeit gentle or stop/start) where you become much less sensitive, and for me, it feels a little numb and "tight" if that makes sense - I can't find the right word.

Awareness is the key though, and being able to slightly move your mind, slightly alter your action, relax the right muscles etc.. as has been said many times here, it's like riding a bike. The theory side helped me immensely, and while I'm still learning, and I still fall, I'm riding further each time.

If you're only looking to "switch off" or "cure" the problem and then hope to hammer away without a care, you are likely to come away disappointed. It is possible to learn to work with the problem and as you do this you should find the problem starts to fade away.

Practice practice practice!

 

[Mike1985]

Thanks guys! I checked out the Eliminating involuntary kegels thread - don't know if I absorbed all the info in there since all these terms and techniques are new to me. Do I understand correctly that it's all about relaxing all the muscles down there and doing reverse kegels as an "extra reinforcement?"

 

[Mike1985]

Another thing I have to work on is: before sex I usually masturbate a lot, because I think it'll make me last longer, but all that does is force me to do a bunch of kegels before and during sex just so I can keep it up. I need to masturbate less, so I can get it up and keep it up using only my mind with no help from kegels at all. And then use reverse kegels during sex on top of that.

 

[Mike1985]

Great news! Just had sex and had great control! I focused on complete relaxation for 4 pumps, then reverse kegel for 4 pumps, and so on. Lasted for 4-5 minutes maybe. And that's just with 2 days of practice!

 

[Mike1985]

Oh and another thing that helped was having to pee a little bit during sex. I could focus on that, instead of the stimulation to the head of the penis.

 

[spanky]

Woohoo sounds great


Personally I think the whole masturbating beforehand trick is a bit of a misdirection. It might work when you're young and able to do things like pull out.. cum on her back or whatever and carry on, but if you can't stay hard and carry on reliably (which I can't any more), I find masturbating beforehand is the same and as soon as I'm on the job again... I'll cum just as quickly.


So I found that reverse kegels really do work as an emergency brake, though sometimes you need a kegel hold instead or you need to just slow down or change position for a breather. It's all ok, but you do need to take the time to understand what you're feeling and what effects you're going to have tensing your abs or kegeling or RKing or whatever.


The biggest component with a partner (for me anyway) is self confidence. Not necessarily that you're perfect, but that you can work with what you have. Once you have a few techniques under your belt and start to feel in control, you can leave your own crap at the door more easily and just run with it. The funny thing I found was that once cumming quickly wasn't such a psychological problem and I had some techniques to work with it, I started to find that yeah, I'd cum quickly from time to time still, but then the next time I'd last and it's all been a bit random since then really. The main thing is that I don't approach sex as beginning and ending with my one orgasm any more, I take far more from it, and as a result, so does she.


I am *really* looking forward to mastering DO/MMO and being able to do new things for her, but as fun as that'll be, it'll only ever be a new and useful trick, not a solution in and of itself.

not sure about the needing to pee thing myself.. but hey, if it helps!