This post was by minutenman to one of our members, instead of redirecting to the post I've cut it down and put what everyone can take from it.
The fact that most of your edging is not transitioning to sex shows that the problem is mostly in relation to sex itself and how you experience it. The reason I recommend foreplay as one of the more important things is that the gradualness and slow escalation of arousal allow it to spread all over your body (think of it as regulating pressure, if too much pressure is around your pelvic floor each movement creates even more strain)
This all might be just me over-analysing it all but if feel like the only form of pleasure you actually derive is not from the sensations as much as from how long you last, from parameters. I think you need the most is to enjoy the process of both edging and sex in the terms on sensations, which is easier said that done though. This points out that something is missing. In cases like this it seems that it is the emotional/sensational component.
First of all, have a dark room and edge (with or without stu) yourself near PONR, try not to rush but don't try to much. Eventuall as you come near PONR, pick your most comfortable position and go slow, which each thrurst or the pull back try to feel the sensation coming up your spine and spreading throughout your whole body. Do this ensuring that you are always as near as PONR as you can be to ensure optimal pleasure. At some point turn from edging to ballooning and try to find a spot on your penis (usually it is the part on the underside of your glans) and using lube slowly massage that area so that it gives you pleasure. Try to do this as long as you can then switch to slow edging and finally ejaculate ( or choose to stop and ejaculate on another day / time ).In this while process try to squirm, moan try to find a way to express your pleasure.When you ejaculate try ejaculating on the floor or something like that, try to really feel both the pleasure (and to some point abandon) and release in the act.
Many people underestimate just how important is the pleasure in the healing process and most tie the pleasure to how long one lasts rather than how one feels during that period. I had 10 minute edging sessions that could rival those 45 minute sessions in shear power of pleasure and sensation, that would leave me trembling after an orgasm, and I also had an empty 30 minute sessions that felt more like a chore and struggle and which orgasms simply make me tired and empty.This all translates to your love making session with your wife. Some time during the intercourse as you are nearing PONR (but not to close) simply stop while in her and enjoy the sensation of your body being so close to her body, use that time to make out, to gently caress her etc. Enjoy the time together and what goes with it.
Great post, thanks mm.
The fact that most of your edging is not transitioning to sex shows that the problem is mostly in relation to sex itself and how you experience it. The reason I recommend foreplay as one of the more important things is that the gradualness and slow escalation of arousal allow it to spread all over your body (think of it as regulating pressure, if too much pressure is around your pelvic floor each movement creates even more strain)
This all might be just me over-analysing it all but if feel like the only form of pleasure you actually derive is not from the sensations as much as from how long you last, from parameters. I think you need the most is to enjoy the process of both edging and sex in the terms on sensations, which is easier said that done though. This points out that something is missing. In cases like this it seems that it is the emotional/sensational component.
First of all, have a dark room and edge (with or without stu) yourself near PONR, try not to rush but don't try to much. Eventuall as you come near PONR, pick your most comfortable position and go slow, which each thrurst or the pull back try to feel the sensation coming up your spine and spreading throughout your whole body. Do this ensuring that you are always as near as PONR as you can be to ensure optimal pleasure. At some point turn from edging to ballooning and try to find a spot on your penis (usually it is the part on the underside of your glans) and using lube slowly massage that area so that it gives you pleasure. Try to do this as long as you can then switch to slow edging and finally ejaculate ( or choose to stop and ejaculate on another day / time ).In this while process try to squirm, moan try to find a way to express your pleasure.When you ejaculate try ejaculating on the floor or something like that, try to really feel both the pleasure (and to some point abandon) and release in the act.
Many people underestimate just how important is the pleasure in the healing process and most tie the pleasure to how long one lasts rather than how one feels during that period. I had 10 minute edging sessions that could rival those 45 minute sessions in shear power of pleasure and sensation, that would leave me trembling after an orgasm, and I also had an empty 30 minute sessions that felt more like a chore and struggle and which orgasms simply make me tired and empty.This all translates to your love making session with your wife. Some time during the intercourse as you are nearing PONR (but not to close) simply stop while in her and enjoy the sensation of your body being so close to her body, use that time to make out, to gently caress her etc. Enjoy the time together and what goes with it.
Great post, thanks mm.
