Thanks for the advice. I really, really appreciate it.
What I'd like to try is:
stretching - all directions, hold for 30 seconds each direction, then massage f before moving on.
50 jelqs/30 v-jelqs (repeated 3 times, as suggested)
3 moderate ulis held for 30 seconds for max engorgement and internal stretch.
This just feels great, like I'm getting maximum pumpage and stretch. I have only been doing the ulis for less than a week, so maybe it will catch up with me. But right now, I feel awesome.
I know my routine posted earlier was seen as extreme, but I do that and still have sex 2-3 times per week, good sex, hard erections, no problem. I do occasionally have red spots, but no serious pains.
I am still, even after much reading, not sure if I am doing the v-jelq correctly, though. Basically, I have 60-70% erection (+-) and scoop with alternating hands from the very base of my penis to the glans, squeezing up as I go, with my urethra in the center of the v. As I am finishing one hand, I am starting the other. Does this sound right?
And do I really really need to give up on the ulis? What if I went to a 2-day on, 1-day off routine doing the above? Would that be safer than doing this 5 days on and 2 off?
If you much more experienced PE pros tell me I must, I will do so, but I am trying to listen to my body, this feels like a very nice routine for me.