Need help plz

[impotentosexgod]

Please someone reach out and help me I’m feeling quite worthless and bad and need serious support plz. I can’t live my day to day normally anymore.



I’ll try to summarize and shorten things to the best of my ability.

I’m 22 years old.

Growing up my dad has had insanely low self esteem and he projected it all onto me. I grew up developing my sexual desire to be submissive because of my feelings of worthlessness. Through porn it played a big role in making me even more insecure and worthless because of the things I was watching.

This past 2 years I had a chance with a girl I always had feelings for and that made my self esteem grow insanely. I stopped watching porn all together let alone femdom and weird kinky sh*t. However that girl ended up breaking my heart later on… and yea that really made me feel all the pain I used to hide all at once.

Now, I’ve relapsed to porn and my self esteem is down the drain. I feel so incredibly worthless and like I’m unworthy of love because my dick shrivels up to like 2 inches sometimes less quite often. I just wish there’s a way to let my dick hang around 4 inches+ when I’m not erect. When I’m hard I can reach 5.5+ which is also not very good but it’s not a reason to be severely insecure about it. It’s the fact when I’m flaccid it’s so incredibly tiny that it demotivates me from everything.


I truly believe I can achieve incredible high status in life, I’m 6 foot tall and have a decent body (170 lbs anthletic ) and can achieve a really incredible body if I commit to it ( 195 lbs and athletic ). Plus I’m doing fairly well in school and can probably go on to achieve great things ( PhD )


However, this penis insecurity is really and truly killing all my motivation. Like I’m dead serious about that like I don’t think lll ever be happy considering how small my penis is flaccid. It’s like, my dad is also a highly successful person yet my mom doesn’t respect him, he doesn’t respect himself, and although he’s accomplished what many men dream of, he’s still miserable and sad about his life.


How can I ever truly love myself and take pride in who I am and what I can do if at the end of the day it won’t matter and regardless if I find a wife I’ll always be so dependent and needy on her validation because I’m so scared and worried that other girls wont respect me cause of my, shriveled up turtling little penis.


I have a size genetics extender which I spent like 300$ and It’s wayyy to time consuming and mental consuming. I can stretch my penis up all the way to 6 inches lol, and hold it in that position which at first was very very happy moment for me cause it showed promise and hope that one day I could potentially hang that long lol. However it’s so hard to be in public with the extended on, and it’s so hard to do work at home alone with it on too because it just consumes my brain about how pathetic it is that I’m using this metal device which is even causing me pain to try and make my dick hang lower.



Lol I’m sorry I made this so long, is there a device out there where it’s easy to use and keeps ur dick extended without restricting blood flow so I can even sleep with it. If I can train my dick to just hang around 4-6 inches when it’s soft all the time I would be very happy and confident with it. I don’t need to make crazy gains when hard just I don’t want it to fricking shrivel up.

 

[mistergeorge]

Please someone reach out and help me I’m feeling quite worthless and bad and need serious support plz. I can’t live my day to day normally anymore.

Sure you can. Just keep living and you'll be okay.

I’ll try to summarize and shorten things to the best of my ability.

I’m 22 years old.

That's all you need to know about your problems. I'm somewhere over 50 years old now, but I remember being 22 because it was the beginning of a major life change.

The thing about being 22 is that you only have a few years of life as an adult. Most of your life at 22 has been spent being a child. So you're still working on separating psychologically from all the stuff of childhood while you constantly encounter new life challenges. It can be a tough time. I don't know about other guys here, but I look back on my 20s as the most difficult and disappointing decade of my adult life. It makes sense to me now looking back.

Growing up my dad has had insanely low self esteem and he projected it all onto me. I grew up developing my sexual desire to be submissive because of my feelings of worthlessness. Through porn it played a big role in making me even more insecure and worthless because of the things I was watching.

Okay, but hold on a second. You are not a victim of pornography. You used pornography to do those things to yourself. Until you can begin to see how you are just doing this to yourself, you won't be able to overcome it.

You might want to get some professional help sorting some of this stuff out. You portray yourself as a helpless submissive victim of your father and pornography. I think if you spend a few years working this out you'll find that the self-analysis you posted above isn't exactly helpful to you.

This past 2 years I had a chance with a girl I always had feelings for and that made my self esteem grow insanely. I stopped watching porn all together let alone femdom and weird kinky sh*t. However that girl ended up breaking my heart later on… and yea that really made me feel all the pain I used to hide all at once.

Now, I’ve relapsed to porn and my self esteem is down the drain.

You did that to punish yourself. YOU caused your self esteem to go down the drain. If pornography didn't exist, you would have used something else to abase yourself.

I feel so incredibly worthless and like I’m unworthy of love because my dick shrivels up to like 2 inches sometimes less quite often.

Now it's becoming difficult to take you seriously.

I just wish there’s a way to let my dick hang around 4 inches+ when I’m not erect.

If it's in your pants most of the time, what's the difference how long it is when flaccid?

When I’m hard I can reach 5.5+ which is also not very good but it’s not a reason to be severely insecure about it. It’s the fact when I’m flaccid it’s so incredibly tiny that it demotivates me from everything.

Respectfully, I think you're focusing on the wrong body part. Your flaccid hang demotivates you from everything? You just described very complex set of personal esteem issues and family relationships.

I truly believe I can achieve incredible high status in life, I’m 6 foot tall and have a decent body (170 lbs anthletic ) and can achieve a really incredible body if I commit to it ( 195 lbs and athletic ). Plus I’m doing fairly well in school and can probably go on to achieve great things ( PhD )

Oh, great things...high status. But can you overcome your self-esteem issues? Can you overcome a neurosis? No disrespect to your father, but you seem to be describing him as somebody who couldn't overcome these basic things which are so important to finding happiness.

Maybe the benchmarks you measure yourself against (big strong masculine body, status, high achievement) are driving you down too - or at least you are using those things to cause you to feel like you don't measure up.

However, this penis insecurity is really and truly killing all my motivation. Like I’m dead serious about that like I don’t think lll ever be happy considering how small my penis is flaccid. It’s like, my dad is also a highly successful person yet my mom doesn’t respect him, he doesn’t respect himself, and although he’s accomplished what many men dream of, he’s still miserable and sad about his life.

You're working on passing it on to your own son if you don't find a way out. I seriously recommend getting some professional talk therapy that will help you to begin challenging some of your thinking because, again with respect, you're doing this to yourself and you might have had a good teacher from what you're saying. But don't hold this against your father. He learned it somewhere too. Don't hold it against your mother either.

How can I ever truly love myself and take pride in who I am and what I can do if at the end of the day it won’t matter and regardless if I find a wife I’ll always be so dependent and needy on her validation because I’m so scared and worried that other girls wont respect me cause of my, shriveled up turtling little penis.

Really difficult to take seriously. Just so pathetic, aren't you. Come on now. Of course you love yourself and take pride in who you are. You just listed a few things about doing well in school, your physique, your drive to succeed. In the right light those are all really great things. Focus on the things you have in your life. Make lists of all your successes, big and small, all the things you enjoy. This is something I do myself when I'm feeling down. It works. It takes effort to build yourself up. It doesn't always come naturally even for the most successful and happy people you will meet.

I think if you start focusing on the goal of making yourself happier and adjusting your mindset when you feel bad instead of just going with the negative feelings you will start to do a lot better in general. This is probably going to be part of a life long effort you will have to make. So start cultivating now. It will pay off in the long run if you can take it on as a challenge.

I have a size genetics extender which I spent like 300$ and It’s wayyy to time consuming and mental consuming. I can stretch my penis up all the way to 6 inches lol, and hold it in that position which at first was very very happy moment for me cause it showed promise and hope that one day I could potentially hang that long lol. However it’s so hard to be in public with the extended on, and it’s so hard to do work at home alone with it on too because it just consumes my brain about how pathetic it is that I’m using this metal device which is even causing me pain to try and make my dick hang lower.

I hear you. I really do. Maybe it's so frustrating and consuming because it's not what you really need in your heart.

What if you could be happy without changing your penis? A lot of guys with your measurements are perfectly content with what they have and super happy with their lives.

lol I’m sorry I made this so long, is there a device out there where it’s easy to use and keeps ur dick extended without restricting blood flow so I can even sleep with it. If I can train my dick to just hang around 4-6 inches when it’s soft all the time I would be very happy and confident with it. I don’t need to make crazy gains when hard just I don’t want it to fricking shrivel up.

I'm sorry I made my response so long too. I just had a moment this morning before I go for a run.

I really hope you will go to work on your mind. The same device that is causing most of your troubles is the same thing that can solve those troubles. You just need to train it to go to work for you.

I hope something I've said will be helpful.

 

[CUSP82]

Okay you have been given great advice but I will tell you now unless you fix your brain an attitude you could have a dick that hangs to your knees and it won't help you at all. Your problem is your mind!

 

[impotentosexgod]

Sure you can. Just keep living and you'll be okay.



That's all you need to know about your problems. I'm somewhere over 50 years old now, but I remember being 22 because it was the beginning of a major life change.

The thing about being 22 is that you only have a few years of life as an adult. Most of your life at 22 has been spent being a child. So you're still working on separating psychologically from all the stuff of childhood while you constantly encounter new life challenges. It can be a tough time. I don't know about other guys here, but I look back on my 20s as the most difficult and disappointing decade of my adult life. It makes sense to me now looking back.



Okay, but hold on a second. You are not a victim of pornography. You used pornography to do those things to yourself. Until you can begin to see how you are just doing this to yourself, you won't be able to overcome it.

You might want to get some professional help sorting some of this stuff out. You portray yourself as a helpless submissive victim of your father and pornography. I think if you spend a few years working this out you'll find that the self-analysis you posted above isn't exactly helpful to you.



You did that to punish yourself. YOU caused your self esteem to go down the drain. If pornography didn't exist, you would have used something else to abase yourself.



Now it's becoming difficult to take you seriously.



If it's in your pants most of the time, what's the difference how long it is when flaccid?



Respectfully, I think you're focusing on the wrong body part. Your flaccid hang demotivates you from everything? You just described very complex set of personal esteem issues and family relationships.



Oh, great things...high status. But can you overcome your self-esteem issues? Can you overcome a neurosis? No disrespect to your father, but you seem to be describing him as somebody who couldn't overcome these basic things which are so important to finding happiness.

Maybe the benchmarks you measure yourself against (big strong masculine body, status, high achievement) are driving you down too - or at least you are using those things to cause you to feel like you don't measure up.



You're working on passing it on to your own son if you don't find a way out. I seriously recommend getting some professional talk therapy that will help you to begin challenging some of your thinking because, again with respect, you're doing this to yourself and you might have had a good teacher from what you're saying. But don't hold this against your father. He learned it somewhere too. Don't hold it against your mother either.



Really difficult to take seriously. Just so pathetic, aren't you. Come on now. Of course you love yourself and take pride in who you are. You just listed a few things about doing well in school, your physique, your drive to succeed. In the right light those are all really great things. Focus on the things you have in your life. Make lists of all your successes, big and small, all the things you enjoy. This is something I do myself when I'm feeling down. It works. It takes effort to build yourself up. It doesn't always come naturally even for the most successful and happy people you will meet.

I think if you start focusing on the goal of making yourself happier and adjusting your mindset when you feel bad instead of just going with the negative feelings you will start to do a lot better in general. This is probably going to be part of a life long effort you will have to make. So start cultivating now. It will pay off in the long run if you can take it on as a challenge.



I hear you. I really do. Maybe it's so frustrating and consuming because it's not what you really need in your heart.

What if you could be happy without changing your penis? A lot of guys with your measurements are perfectly content with what they have and super happy with their lives.



I'm sorry I made my response so long too. I just had a moment this morning before I go for a run.

I really hope you will go to work on your mind. The same device that is causing most of your troubles is the same thing that can solve those troubles. You just need to train it to go to work for you.

I hope something I've said will be helpful.

I appreciate this response a lot actually. I think that is a very important thing you said that I’m portraying myself to be the victim all the time which i agree is very pathetic. It is something my dad did a lot and I would always think low of him for it. But how can I judge him when currently I’m no different. I don’t even realize I’m doing it but now that I read it over it’s absolutely true all these problems are mostly me hurting myself and not taking responsibility for it.


You’re right maybe I do need a good therapist. I’m not doing very good in terms of money currently ( spent a lot on rubbish like car jewelry and expensive clothes ). Clearly I’m very dependent to what others think of me and that’s why I spend so much on that sh*t. And why I’m always so stupidly insecure and never content cause I require external validation. Will find a part time job to try and fund the therapy lol.


Yea I think I’m just really hurt and looking to transfer the pain somewhere else to things I can’t control so I have an excuse. The reason I got my heartbroken is all to do with my mental health in the end, she never saw my shrivelled up penis and still left me which shows I got more important problems that I’m not even addressing.

And yea the 20s are really confusing times for me. Responsibility of a man, mind of a child. Idek what I wanna do with my life but I know I wanna be a good father some day and truly do a good job of it. And I can’t think of relationships and being a father until I’ve checked all my mental problems. Thanks for the talk and highly respect it considering your 50 and been there done that. Hope to chat to u later if you ever have the time on ur hands.

 

[impotentosexgod]

Okay you have been given great advice but I will tell you now unless you fix your brain an attitude you could have a dick that hangs to your knees and it won't help you at all. Your problem is your mind!

You’re right, I mean if it hanged really low that could be quite a confidence booster which would help. But ur right none the less it is in my mind. A lot of times at the gym I would get demotivated and cut the workout early just cause I feel how shriveled my penis is ( cause when the blood is going in my muscles it usually increases the shriveling effect lol ). And let me just say it is quite a terrible feeling to feel like I’m putting all this effort on my body to get big muscles and everything but then u look like u have a micro penis. Like it’s a waste of a body and that’s actually a big thing for me. The reason I work out is to work on my sexual attractiveness really. If it hanged low while I’m working out or something I would be so motivated and everything to look like a geek god. But hey, all those Greek god sculptures have small penises too so… maybe I can pull it off haha .


Yea it’s all in my head. Thanks for the responses guys.