Need a Woman's perspective on whether this girl likes me or not
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I'm just not that great with girls, I need to focus on this 'hot' girl first then see what I can do better. And like I said Friday is the only possible time I can do it in person, I can't help that.
I would have done it today if she still worked Tuesday's and the exam wouldn't be an issue because that's tommorow and it's open book anyway so I'm not really studying too much today, just reading over 3 or 4 topics so that wouldn't be an excuse.
I thought of doing this again about the 1st of October but I didn't want to come out too randomly, we've talked a few times and we're all good so now I have no other choice.
Maybe I don't have a lot of urgency to do it but nothing is going to happen by this Friday, I'm 99% sure of that. And by nothing is going to happen, I mean she isn't going to get a boyfriend, I'm not going to ask any one out, I'm probably not going to meet another girl. Of course there is the 1% chance but I doubt it'll occur.
All I know is if it doesn't work out with this girl, I don't want to be in a situation where there is still something going on (in my mind) with a girl I like after a year which doesn't involve us going out. If I like a girl, I want to find out within a month (or less but enough time to establish something, know each other and interests and ask her out before the feelings get really strong)
I thought of doing this again about the 1st of October but I didn't want to come out too randomly, we've talked a few times and we're all good so now I have no other choice.
Maybe I don't have a lot of urgency to do it but nothing is going to happen by this Friday, I'm 99% sure of that. And by nothing is going to happen, I mean she isn't going to get a boyfriend, I'm not going to ask any one out, I'm probably not going to meet another girl. Of course there is the 1% chance but I doubt it'll occur.
All I know is if it doesn't work out with this girl, I don't want to be in a situation where there is still something going on (in my mind) with a girl I like after a year which doesn't involve us going out. If I like a girl, I want to find out within a month (or less but enough time to establish something, know each other and interests and ask her out before the feelings get really strong)
My friend rang me a few minutes ago to talk about a few things and he wants us (group of friends) to see 'Warrior' on Friday Night, depending on where we see it, this might mean I have to change the time which I ask the girl out (I originally was going to do it around 8 or 9pm when it will be less busy) but these are just preliminary plans, I was planning to go out to a club around midnight so I might see if I can see 'Warrior' Saturday Night, I might have to work around this but whatever happens I will ask this girl out on Friday! I'm sick of delays and such, I don't want to extend it by another week. Whether I have to ask her out before, during or after her shift I will!
Make asking her out a priority. Don't let other things get in the way. Otherwise, it's called procrastination.
For what it's worth, in the time this thread's been running I met a girl, hung out with her, just went out on a date tonight, and kissed her, with another date to come this weekend...
I just came out of a relationship that broke my heart two months ago, and I'm not even that fast a worker.
Just get on with it man.
I just came out of a relationship that broke my heart two months ago, and I'm not even that fast a worker.
Just get on with it man.
jeezzzzzzzz everyone loves taking a dig at me about the time factor haha, I can't control it as much as I want to. I can only do it on a Friday which is why it has to be this Friday.
And if I get rejected, I think it won't be the actual rejection that will hurt. I think it will be the thought of wasting more than one year on this girl.
And thinking like this isn't affecting me asking her out. Like I said I'm preparing for the best, expecting the worst so either way I can react to either answer, either answer won't surprise me.
And if I get rejected, I think it won't be the actual rejection that will hurt. I think it will be the thought of wasting more than one year on this girl.
And thinking like this isn't affecting me asking her out. Like I said I'm preparing for the best, expecting the worst so either way I can react to either answer, either answer won't surprise me.
Lol, I'm sorry man, but really... you do just have to do it.
why not text her now? See if she wants to go for a drink, no pressure?
Dude, man, enjoy life and chill. You will hear more no's in life (and not just from girls) then yes's. That is a fact. And another thing, if a woman feels that you are desperate either she will not want to go further with you having second thoughts or want to you use for what you got (word to the wise). Be you, stop trying so hard and relax and you will evidently hook up with a nice babe. Your game will laid you the one who is down for it.
I don't like texting too much for things like this, I've learnt from my past mistakes plus it would just continue to drag on and on, I want a final answer. Plus I'm at work till 10 pm tonight (it's thursday afternoon ATM). Plus I dont think she has my number do the first response will be 'who is this?'
Thanks. Today on my break I went with a mate went to high school with and now works at the same place to get something to eat. We were just talking and he brought her up (just generally, talking about how hot she is) and I just said if i think I have a chance with her Im going to go for it ( I didn't want to tell him I was asking her out) and he said how she is out of my league and it would look weird if a hot girl like that went out with me. It's not that I'm ugly, its just she's that hot apparently. Lol not what I want to hear from a mate.
He's full of sh*t. Nobody is out of your league. But if you think it, it will become a self fufilling prophecy, she will sense it subconsciously and reject you. We share our emotions and influence others subconsciously all day. You walk in a room joking and laughing, being sociable, and pretty much anyone you meet will vibe off you. If you're moody and sad, people won't want to talk to you because you'll bring them down.
Same with a hundred other moods. Including being horny. As long as you don't break any social taboos, that rubs off on girls too.
If you walk up to her feeling like you deserve her, that she fancies you, then your approach and conversation will reflect your image of yourself, she will pick up on it, and likely find it attractive. Whether that's enough on its own, who can say. But I can tell you that if you're buckling up internally, putting her on a pedestal, making a big deal of every interaction, feeling like she'll almost certainly reject you because you're not good enough for her, then she will also pick up on this, find it unattractive ...
... and then the only way she'll give you a chance is if you can give her something unique that she wants... like a fast car, hard drugs, or an enormous cock.
And that second place is a pretty depressing way to see your interactions with women, right? It's also, I believe, the way many many men do feel.. I mean look on this site how many guys are paranoid if their cock is big enough. Because they think it matters. They maybe think that this is all they can offer a girl. That it's a replacement for genuine attraction, since they couldn't possibly achieve that.
Now if you allow yourself to be in that second place then yes, she will be out of your league. But do you see what I'm saying here, she's not emprically out of your league, just like any other girl, because of any reason other than your own image of yourself.
I am an average looking guy I guess. Not deformed, but no supermodel either. According to typical ideas of "good looks" I'm tall, which is good, but quite skinny which isn't. I'm blonde, which is good, but quite pale and can't tan, which isn't. I wash and smell nice, which is good, but my teeth aren't great, kind of off colour from smoking and coffee, which isn't. But when I talk to women I believe that I am attractive to them, and you know what, I've been told a lot more often since taking that view. I know I am a good lover, and I know I can show any woman who wants to find out an amazing time they won't forget. I might not be their biggest (unlikely) or their best, but she'll remember, and want more. I don't say this to people I meet, but I believe it.
When you believe in yourself it shows, and it makes people you talk to curious as to what's so good. Your self image is the only thing that holds you back.
Furthemore, when you believe in yourself, you don't fall into honey pot traps like this so easily either, because you know you can get other, maybe better opportunities elsewhere if it doesn't work out. And if you believe that when talking to a woman, so will she. And crucially, you will.
Ryan, this isn't all necessarily directed at you, I just kept rambling ... I do that ... but I thought it was worth posting it all anyway.
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Spanky,
Ryan wasn't the only one reading that post. It was good for me to read it too. Thanks for posting.
Ryan wasn't the only one reading that post. It was good for me to read it too. Thanks for posting.
Well now I'm working today so it looks like I will be doing this after my shift which actually finishes one hour before I intended to do it. Only thing that throws me off is now I'm going to be wearing work clothes instead of good clothes plus she might possibly be on her long break when I finish so I might be doing it at 8pm like I was going to anyway but in my work clothes. And by 'good clothes', I don't mean anything extreme. I obviously just view my clothing when I'm not at work as a lot better than my work uniform 
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Like Spanky said, if you portray confidence, she won't even notice you're in your work clothes.
Its not a big deal but the time may have to change, I think I will have to cover one of her short breaks as well so we would have at least been talking before I ask her out at the end. But I suppose of the opportunity is there I will do it then.
So now I'm working till 10 pm and she is working 7-10 so I finish same time as her now,about 4 hours away
