Keeping it up during intercourse.

[propump]

I met a super hot girl I really like but I am having a problem finishing during sex. She really turns me on too. I have no real problem getting it up at the beginning and go hard for a good amount of time. But as hard as I try I just can not finish?

Has this happened to anyone? Does anyone have any advise on what to do?

PS. I relied heavily on masturbation for the past year or so so im thinking that has something to do with it

 

[SeaCock]

You sound like me! Your first paragraph could be my lead in on a thread!

I too struggle delivering the goods...many times it because I've lost wood! Im not sure how old you are, but I'm older and have a history of the issue going all the way back to high school. Not always, but some time when I was younger.

So I'm try to un-train the heavy handedness I do when masturbating. I am a mechanic, not only do I have rough hands, but very strong.

So I'm planning on wrapping him during the day with a condom with hand lotion inside...masturbate only with rubber gloves, cut back on jacking off. Even at my age I have pound one out 3 or 4 times over a couple days. Most of those without my girl friend.

If your younger I would solve this ASAP!


Trust me its not as much fun as you would think...my soon to be X ask me what I was doing for sex???? Yeah I know! What a dumb question!

So I told her I had some short vids on my lap top. She ask how the long clips were. I told her most are shorter...3 minutes or less. She kind of freaked to hear I could cum in less than 3 minute. So she ask; why I could cum so fast on solo sessions where I was alone and she would have to take a beatin every time?!?!?!?! I'm a one the hour pre session kind of of guys!

PS- I'm 52 almost 53!

 

[propump]

I'm in my mid 20s so I guess Im young.

It sucks cause she tells me she enjoys it but she hates it that I cant enjoy myself and finish.

I stopped watching porn and masturbating cold turkey almost a month ago but had to jay it to some porn cause I had real bad case of blue balls last time after we fucked.

 

[somebodyelse]

One of the things that really threw me off was trying to please her. Doing everything in bed to make sure she was happy. Tell her to do some things to make you happy.

I think, the moment i let go and stopped thinking about maintaining my erection to please her and just let my body respond naturally to her stimulus, I raced towards orgasm without delay. It happened pretty fast fo rme. like, right around 10 minutes.

It's a lot harder to orgasm when you are forever concentrating on making her orgasm or just even maintaining your hard-on. The psychological pressure of keeping it up so she can be happy even caused me to lose my erection.

 

[litopita]

One of the things that really threw me off was trying to please her. Doing everything in bed to make sure she was happy. Tell her to do some things to make you happy.

I think, the moment i let go and stopped thinking about maintaining my erection to please her and just let my body respond naturally to her stimulus, I raced towards orgasm without delay. It happened pretty fast fo rme. like, right around 10 minutes.

It's a lot harder to orgasm when you are forever concentrating on making her orgasm or just even maintaining your hard-on. The psychological pressure of keeping it up so she can be happy even caused me to lose my erection.

Very good post my man. I repped it 3 times (don't ask me how i did it, i just did ). Keep spreading the message.

Cheers

 

[propump]

One of the things that really threw me off was trying to please her. Doing everything in bed to make sure she was happy. Tell her to do some things to make you happy.

I think, the moment i let go and stopped thinking about maintaining my erection to please her and just let my body respond naturally to her stimulus, I raced towards orgasm without delay. It happened pretty fast fo rme. like, right around 10 minutes.

It's a lot harder to orgasm when you are forever concentrating on making her orgasm or just even maintaining your hard-on. The psychological pressure of keeping it up so she can be happy even caused me to lose my erection.

I was worried about that the first time but not really the other times i feel like. But what you are saying is what I really think is happening to me. Some mental block?

I am also rock hard during foreplay. Could shortening foreplay to a minimum help?

 

[somebodyelse]

It really is a mental block. You focus so much on trying to please her that it really screws with your mind.

I was deep into it. I was so deep in the mode of being the pleaser that when she was giving me oral, I would kegel to make sure I stayed hard... I didn't want her to think I wasn't enjoying myself. I was enjoying the hell out of myself, but I was scared that if I went soft (which worrying about yourself going soft WILL make you go soft) she would be unhappy and it would possibly make her feel bad. So here I am, holding her hair back, watching my peen getting sucked and stroked, and the only thing I'm thinking about is making sure it stays hard for her.

It took her bringing it to my attention as to what I was doing, LMAO! When she told me that, she said she was going to make it her priority to please me and that I shouldn't worry about anything else. The fact that I know she was trying to please me, i had to fight off thoughts of making sure she knows I was being pleased. Just take whatever she threw at me. that in and of itself was a major flip. When I stopped worrying about her pleasure, (her pleasure was my pleasure) I was able to climax sooner.

The mind is an amazing and treacherous thing.