Keep getting performance anxiety with Friend with Benefits, third time

[anythingrandom]

she has an okay body and is pretty, give her a 7/10

do not see her more than a FWB, my penis has never achieved a full erection, but i did manage to see improvements in hardness. What should I do?

TO THOSE THAT EXPERIENCED THIS, HOW LONG DID IT TAKE TO FINALLY GET IT ALL DURIGN SEX?

 

[Pegasus]

Background please.

 

[MySword]

Agree with pegasus...need way more info to help out in any way...

 

[NCGUY1972]

What is a FWB? Maybe you are having sex with the wrong person or for the wrong reasons? I never rated women on a scale either I was attracted to them or I wasn't. Dont pick them apart just appreciate them.

 

[anythingrandom]

So I am 20, she is 22. We met and I picked up she had the hots for me. I have a medical history and took drugs where side effects were "decreased libido" and so now although im 14 months off...it still stirrs in my head. I also have the performance anxiety because i really want to last like a pornstar. I am well hung naturally (7.1', 5.2') and just want to get a full erection.
EDIT: Can get an erection thinking about women and with some stroking...can get to 100% erection.
EDIT2: Medical History was Epilepsy....I took Tegretol (or Carbamazepine)

1st time:

Rushed it and was through foreplay in 5 minutes, no erection

2nd time:

same deal, was the following day and funny thing is i had morning wood a few hours before.

3rd time:

had about 35 minutes of good foreplay, made her have an orgasm....took half a cialis pill and got to about 45% erection. I kind of feel like my performance anxiety after this occurence will be worst because I am conditioned from past experiences.



My penis pretty much goes numb whenever I have sex. HELP! PS: During times of erections, such as masterbating....my erection doesn't last long...how can i fix this? THANKS

 

[anythingrandom]

bump

 

[NCGUY1972]

how much do you masterbait?

 

[MrsLooking4more]

You are right Jazz, sounds like a lot of this is in your head but the brain is powerful and I know from experience that some of those epilepsy meds make you have anxiety too. First of all you mention you want to last like a pornstar. You do realize that they last because they are on film and can be recorded three different times to make one shoot. Is not real and you need to remember that, you might need to reduce or limit your porn viewing so it doesn't skew your head.

How many times do you masturbate? Too much hand action desensitizes your penis. Lay off it so it can regain is normal feel. My husband had ED when he joined the forum, we are now ED free and enjoy a very active sex life but believe me performance anxiety played havoc with him during recovery.

Relax do your routine and stay off the things that do not help your penis or mental health. Have confidence this woman finds you attractive and is willing to work with you. Don't let your brain short circuit your improvement. Good luck!

 

[anythingrandom]

You are right Jazz sounds like a lot of this is in your head but the brain is powerful and I know from experience that some of those epilepsy meds make you have anxiety too. Firt of all you mention you want to last like a pornstar. You do realize that they last because they are n film and can be recorded three different times to make one shoot. Is not real and you need to remember that, you might need to reduce or limit your porn viewing so it doesn't skew your head.

How many times do you masturbate? Too much hand action desensitizes your penis. Lay off it so it can regain is normal feel. My husband had ED when he joined the forum, we are now ED free and enjoy a very active sex life but believe me performance anxiety played havoc with him during recovery.

Relax do your routine and stay off the things that do not help your penis or mental health. Have confidence this woman finds you attractive and is willing to work with you. Don't let your brain short circuit your improvement. Good luck!

I have been away from any contact from my penis for 4 days, looking to increase it! Thank you so much everyone.

The thing is, i recently beat epilepsy i was able to because i am a very cocky guy. I believe i can get everything done and its because of this mindset i beat epilepsy (discouragement worsens epilepsy) so when it comes to feeling sexy, i have it! Its just the thoughts i get about "what if my sideeffects will never go?" That screws me up!! Im thinking of taking up yoga, maybe even psychotherapy!! Any suggestions?