drfrankencock
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Congratulations LLN!!! Yours is the lucky 2000th post on this thread. You get to make a wish! Don't tell anyone what it is though.
Just Talking
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The work itself isn't the problem, just the severe lack of socializing. It wasn't like I was partying a lot or had a group of friends, but I would like to be able to talk to the few I have like I was before. Just enough time to have a chat every few days is all.
Unfortunately I have no cell phone as I only have like 4 numbers I need at any one time, which I don't find to be worth paying $35+ a month to do so. Right now the person I talk to the most is my boss as I work with her often.
I suppose this is just another thing to get used to. I'll do my usual of letting these thoughts flutter away, they should eventually.
Maaaaan, well I got hired at this new place... it's apparently on the 500 top firms list.
What I LOVE about this new place (I start the week after next) is that there's LOTS of "diversity" in the office. before I've been referred to as an "Affirmative Action hire" which is both disrespectful to my abilities and my intelligence, then being surrounded by a lot of people not like me at that other job far away from home, made me really sad and then being disrespected at the job left and right made it even worse. It's worse because you can't really tell if they're hammering you because they believe you're incapable, or they're operating on preconceived notions of your inferiority, so every mistake you DO make is more "well of course he would, because..."
Here the firm is way more "brown" and it feels like everybody is less uptight. I hope to enjoy my time here. I'm making way more at this new firm, and I'm hoping to increase my level up tremendously! everybody talks about "we're good about getting your hours confirmed" but nobody really follows up on those promises... hopefully I'll get these hours built up and I'll be able to go sit for the AREs
in the mean time, I'm still finishing off some of these projects I started working on... Got a full basement renovation with underpinning happening right now... super excited to see something I designed come to fruition
What I LOVE about this new place (I start the week after next) is that there's LOTS of "diversity" in the office. before I've been referred to as an "Affirmative Action hire" which is both disrespectful to my abilities and my intelligence, then being surrounded by a lot of people not like me at that other job far away from home, made me really sad and then being disrespected at the job left and right made it even worse. It's worse because you can't really tell if they're hammering you because they believe you're incapable, or they're operating on preconceived notions of your inferiority, so every mistake you DO make is more "well of course he would, because..."
Here the firm is way more "brown" and it feels like everybody is less uptight. I hope to enjoy my time here. I'm making way more at this new firm, and I'm hoping to increase my level up tremendously! everybody talks about "we're good about getting your hours confirmed" but nobody really follows up on those promises... hopefully I'll get these hours built up and I'll be able to go sit for the AREs
in the mean time, I'm still finishing off some of these projects I started working on... Got a full basement renovation with underpinning happening right now... super excited to see something I designed come to fruition
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burtybasset
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By the time you get to my age you've met and known a lot of people if you were lucky. Sad part is they are starting to die. Seems like weekly someone else is dying.
We hear it all the time. Life is short live it. Love the ones you are with. Tell people now you love them never know what tomorrow brings etc
I happen to have faith. I'm somehow protected in a way from the agony some feel. The regret. The fear of the unknown. I pray for their souls. If I knew them and feel they are in paradise then I'm happy for them. But sad for those that will miss them.
Want to say. I love you guys n girls. This is my private secret place from my real life. It's meant a lot to me. Even though we go at it at times there's a few hundred that are like a slice of family to one another.
I appreciate you and love you
We hear it all the time. Life is short live it. Love the ones you are with. Tell people now you love them never know what tomorrow brings etc
I happen to have faith. I'm somehow protected in a way from the agony some feel. The regret. The fear of the unknown. I pray for their souls. If I knew them and feel they are in paradise then I'm happy for them. But sad for those that will miss them.
Want to say. I love you guys n girls. This is my private secret place from my real life. It's meant a lot to me. Even though we go at it at times there's a few hundred that are like a slice of family to one another.
I appreciate you and love you
Islander. Great post. I think love and conflict go hand in hand. I also tell you all things I try to share with the Mrs. I've gotten alittle weird over the years. More confident and now less, not very manly anymore. I've love reading your posts. Keep it up. I hate funerals, kinda hope mine is first. Can't imagine going to my Dad or Moms funeral
Hey!
I'm sorry you're seeing it happen left and right. I think you remember when my really close friend was murdered. Not so much lived a long life, but she lived a very full life, and she loved everybody.
That loss was devastating to me but it also really catapulted the "I want no unspoken words" sentiment to my friends and family. I know what you're saying... i think the only thing that kept me from falling apart over her death and becoming recluse was the fact that we kind of tidied up our relationship just before she was killed. I loved her like you can't imagine, even my mom said "In another life, you two would have been great together"
No words unsaid to anyone is my life policy now. Love hard, live Hard, advocate hard, Stand up for what you believe in, forgive easily, and never miss an opportunity to tell someone you love them... That's the only way I can see myself dying happy. My friend taught me that with the way she lived. I can only hope to be like her.
Hope you have that comfort and have the ability to help people move forward themselves.
Well I never miss an opportunity to tell others and myself to love ourselves. I also do not want to miss an opportunity to tell you guys and gals, I love you. I really do. I know that I thought love could not be found or given over digital media, but I was very mistaken. I LOVE YOU. Thanks Islander for bringing that up.
Anxiety swarms.. how do I overcome it? I shouldn't feel this way because of this sh*t I'm caught in the middle of. No I'm not ranting, I'm just talking. Someone smack me silly and let me buy you dinner, or something.
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anyone read this? https://www.pegym.com/articles/sex-data-reveals-surprising-results
lol is all i can say, too bad people always end up with the wrong person.
maybe it is that women feel that they can do something to men and get more and therefore searches more but men feel like they are hopeless in a situation like that and can not "solve it", therefore searches less.
"there is nothing i can do about that headache" lol
lol is all i can say, too bad people always end up with the wrong person.
maybe it is that women feel that they can do something to men and get more and therefore searches more but men feel like they are hopeless in a situation like that and can not "solve it", therefore searches less.
"there is nothing i can do about that headache" lol
I am terrible keeping surprises. This will be a very hard week and a half. You know when your planning an awesome day or weekend and you'd tell your best friend all about it. I can't tell my best friend because the BFF is the receiver. I want to scream!!!
That is all
That is all
just finished my first week at this new job... pay is amazing (can't wait for my first payday)...
It was just like being in architecture school, only i'm getting paid for it. Good people good crowd, people walking around all the time. stuff happening, just feels kinda "good" I love it. Cranking out work... last job had a hard time with delegating and being clear on instruction, this time, i learned to make people give instruction clearer than just "oh hey" Trying to get used to all the projects and understand them.
I'm doing pretty HIGH security stuff too... it's so awesome! Blast proof buildings et. al. HUGE bump in my resume experience. I love this job *starry eye*
It was just like being in architecture school, only i'm getting paid for it. Good people good crowd, people walking around all the time. stuff happening, just feels kinda "good" I love it. Cranking out work... last job had a hard time with delegating and being clear on instruction, this time, i learned to make people give instruction clearer than just "oh hey" Trying to get used to all the projects and understand them.
I'm doing pretty HIGH security stuff too... it's so awesome! Blast proof buildings et. al. HUGE bump in my resume experience. I love this job *starry eye*
That's awesome sbe!!!!
Well just had a date with an old friend. Think I'm going back on my promise to myself no more fwb. Lol
Let's see if I can. I want to break my promise. I think I need to haha
If he can keep it on the down low then yup I'm going for it.
T minus a few more dates....
Well just had a date with an old friend. Think I'm going back on my promise to myself no more fwb. Lol
Let's see if I can. I want to break my promise. I think I need to haha
If he can keep it on the down low then yup I'm going for it.
T minus a few more dates....
