"It feels like its in my stomach"

[Closed039]

I wanted to get the woman's perspective on the sensation my girlfriend is experiencing as well as get perspective, from male and female, on the perceived anatomy of her vagina.

I'm no stallion at 6.5x5.25 NBP, but its not small either. In my experience, most girls have felt comfortably snug and I've been able to go balls deep and hard. My current SO is opposite to the extreme. First, the entrance to her vagina is very tight, perhaps the tightest ever. Next, her middle vagina is absolutely cavernous and "tents" to gigantic size, which causes me to be unable to feel her walls during sex. (I mean I can feel them, but loosely). It also farts every time I pull out of her as the "tent" decompresses. Finally, her vagina seems to be VERY shallow, as I am unable to go balls deep in missionary or doggie. Missionary she keeps her legs pressed together to prevent me from going to town and says "it feels like its in my stomach." Doggystyle she pulls away. Moreover, I can feel her cervix with my fingers when I go deeply into her, which I assume is only about 3.5-5 inches.

Is this normal? Is there a position we can do that will prevent her cervix from being bashed? Why does her vagina tent to such an extreme size. I don't think this is a "loose" pussy because her vagina is extremely tight at the entrance and it takes lube and/or time for me to penetrate her.

I attached pictures to explain what I am describing. Thanks in advance.

Edit: How do I reformat the pictures to acceptable size?

 

[islander]

The entrance has the bony structure so it can be real tight. The rest can be big. She's very aroused by you. Congrats.
The cervix moves during orgasm. Sucks up the semen. So since many girls feel SO good during intercourse they don't necessarily orgasm.
If she's not in pain when your hitting it then don't worry a out it.
We move out if the way for pain and if your body is hitting us too hard. It's just too much lol. Don't go so hard.
If she stands up and lays over the bed she will have more traction and can't push back on you. She will be fucking you back and feel better lol!!

Keep practicing but no nothing sounds odd

 

[Sean Jacobs]

Hello PEskeptic.

My current SO is opposite to the extreme. First, the entrance to her vagina is very tight, perhaps the tightest ever.

Good for you. :becky:

Next, her middle vagina is absolutely cavernous and "tents" to gigantic size, which causes me to be unable to feel her walls during sex. (I mean I can feel them, but loosely). It also farts every time I pull out of her as the "tent" decompresses. ? Why does her vagina tent to such an extreme size. I don't think this is a "loose" pussy because her vagina is extremely tight at the entrance and it takes lube and/or time for me to penetrate her.

This is a reasonably common problem. During sex her vaginal walls expand, pulling in lots of air. When you pull out it collapse back down and the air is expelled. Two things will help: 1. She probably has weak pelvic muscles (PC muscles). She can perform exercises like Kegels and squats regularly. This will strengthen the pelvic muscles which will keep the vaginal walls strong and prevent them from expanding. 2. During sex avoid lots of deep and fast penetration which can drive the air into her vagina.

Finally, her vagina seems to be VERY shallow, as I am unable to go balls deep in missionary or doggie. Missionary she keeps her legs pressed together to prevent me from going to town and says "it feels like its in my stomach." Doggystyle she pulls away. Moreover, I can feel her cervix with my fingers when I go deeply into her, which I assume is only about 3.5-5 inches. Is this normal? Is there a position we can do that will prevent her cervix from being bashed?
I attached pictures to explain what I am describing. Thanks in advance.

You are going to have to work on your style during sex. At my current size I have to be very careful with my wife. I can’t thrust deep, or do any fast hard thrusting without causing her pain. Take your time and be aware of how deeply you are thrusting. Try to “ride lower” on her, in other words move your pelvis down lower so you can’t thrust as deeply. This will take practice.

I hope you find the solution so you can have a long and happy sex life with your woman.

 

[gemini666]

sorry this might sound single minded and unhelpful but I envy you... I would love get up in someone and she cant take all of it... it means that you have arrived!!! congrats bro... don't know if that is every mans dream but it is mines

no disrespect to any women reading this lol

 

[MrB8]

sorry this might sound single minded and unhelpful but I envy you... I would love get up in someone and she cant take all of it... it means that you have arrived!!! congrats bro... don't know if that is every mans dream but it is mines

no disrespect to any women reading this lol

Is your goal to have less sex or to make it unpleasant for your partner?

Would it not be more fulfilling to know that your partner enjoys it as much as you do?

 

[Qandisa]

Yep MrB8, that's exactly what I was thinking! I still don't understand why anyone would want to be so large that sex is uncomfortable and not as enjoyable for partners. Not to mention having to place restrictions on yourself as to what you can do without causing your partner pain.

"Yes! I've *arrived*! I can't do whatever I want sexually anymore! WOOHOO!"

ETA: Unless of course you're one of those guys that gets off on causing pain to other people, then I can see wanting to be that large.

ETA (again): It reminds me of those people who say they'd love to be really, really tall because it would be so great being able to reach anything and being taller than everyone else. It sounds great, unless you're actually that person - then you get to deal with the reality of it. My 6'6" FWB has a problem buying clothes. Because he's tall and solid he's always feeling like he has to be careful around things because they're just not built for people his size. Have you seen The Incredibles, and what Mr Incredible looked like in that tiny little car? That's what FWB looks like in my car. More than once he's referred to himself as "freak", and he didn't mean between the sheets. So being abnormally big may sound like a great thing, but the reality of it is often quite different.

 

[closed224]

Off topic sorry. What is ETA?

 

[Qandisa]

ETA = Edited To Add

Just an easy way to show this section is stuff that wasn't in the original posting and was added after. For me "after" is usually right after I hit "send" and realize oh crap I meant to say more...

 

[Brand]

Off topic sorry. What is ETA?

And this FWB got me confused...

Btw Quandisa- how big are you? I mean- to you- how big is too big? I am currently in a stage where I want to set my goals clear. I used to have crazy high goals, but I came to realize that what is most important to me is the pleasure of my partner and I would like her to enjoy it instead of being in pain. (though, don't women's vaginas stretch over time- I mean- girth-wise?). Plus, don't some women enjoy a bit (a little bit) of pain? Thanks for the answer.

 

[closed224]

ETA = Edited To Add

Just an easy way to show this section is stuff that wasn't in the original posting and was added after. For me "after" is usually right after I hit "send" and realize oh crap I meant to say more...

Got it. I often ETA like that myself. Thanks

 

[Qandisa]

And this FWB got me confused...

Btw Quandisa- how big are you? I mean- to you- how big is too big? I am currently in a stage where I want to set my goals clear. I used to have crazy high goals, but I came to realize that what is most important to me is the pleasure of my partner and I would like her to enjoy it instead of being in pain. (though, don't women's vaginas stretch over time- I mean- girth-wise?). Plus, don't some women enjoy a bit (a little bit) of pain? Thanks for the answer.

Whether or not a woman's vagina is going to stretch/loosen depends on a lot of factors, which is another way of saying that women are individuals and unique and what's true for one isn't necessarily true for another. Using that common stretching logic most people would think that mine should be relatively loose given my age and the number of partners that I've had but without fail pretty much every partner comments on how tight I am.

As for how big is too big for me... My preferred range is in the 6ish (probably more like 5.75) to 7.5 range. After that then, depending on the guy, it starts feeling like it's too big. I've been with some that were 8 that were fine, and others that were just not comfortable. I'm not sure if the difference was technique or what. I can tell you that my best estimate of my main FWB puts him at 5.75 (although he is a bit above average in girth) and he's definitely one of my favourite lovers ever. I'd much rather be with a guy like him that's "smaller" in size (compared to big dicks) but lets himself be absolutely free and wild and unrestrained with sex. Having to reign things in and keep things controlled like one has to when dealing with a big dick just isn't my idea of fun.

 

[Brand]

Wow, thanks for your awesome reply! You did help a lot!

 

[Phoenix7672]

Yep MrB8, that's exactly what I was thinking! I still don't understand why anyone would want to be so large that sex is uncomfortable and not as enjoyable for partners. Not to mention having to place restrictions on yourself as to what you can do without causing your partner pain.

I don't know...I kinda want to be at that size, but still at the point where after a few times and lots of foreplay things get more and more comfortable, until she can take it without any real discomfort once things get underway. I think it has something to do with the male ego, and knowing you are essentially too much for her, but she is still able to take you.

Granted, getting so big most girls could never adapt...that would just be stupid. It is also one of the reasons why as much as I'd like to be 9x6.5 or even bigger, if I can get to around 8.5x6 any further gains are being based on who I am with for sure.

 

[Closed039]

sorry this might sound single minded and unhelpful but I envy you... I would love get up in someone and she cant take all of it... it means that you have arrived!!! congrats bro... don't know if that is every mans dream but it is mines

no disrespect to any women reading this lol

I'm not gonna put you on blast too much because it seems like you at least realized how immature your post was as you were writing it, but NO. ​NO.

 

[Closed039]

Regarding the actual thread. Thanks to those who answered the question. I still don't know how to post a diagram, but I'm clearly not explaining how drastically cavernous and yet shallow her vagina is. To the suggester of kegels, I imagine you are envisioning a vaginal canal that is just a bit looser, mushy almost, that just doesn't feel quite as tight. That is not the case. The vagina actually feels like I am touching the inside of a hollow softball. Same shape, and the walls when I touch them with my fingers feel very hard and muscular. Her entire vaginal canal assumes the shape of basically a fist, if you can imagine it, very shallow and yet very expansive. I'm not going to chalk this up to her being very aroused. I think it is just the way her vagina is and I'm wondering if this is at all common. If she had a penis it would be 5 x 6.5

 

[Closed039]

Additionally can someone confirm that the title of the thread is her describing me banging her cervix?

 

[this-moment]

If she had a penis it would be 5 x 6.5

so she has the women equivalent of a chode.

 

[Closed039]

so she has the women equivalent of a chode.

Correct.


Is there a woman out there who can answer the questions on this thread? Thank you Islander for your response.

 

[TPW]

Hey PEskeptic,

This may be of interest to you. In 1996 with the use of vinyl polysiloxane castings and rods, two studies were done to measure both the depth and shape of women's vaginas from numerous ethnic groups. What was discovered was that there was actually a wide range of vaginal shapes found and described by researchers as the following:

Vaginal Shapes

Parallel Sided

Conical

Heart

Slug Shaped

Pumpkin Seed

So from what you are describing, there is a very distinct possibility that your gal's vaginal shape is not the typical funnel shape but rather one of the above shapes - likely the heart or pumpkin seed shapes. This could explain the tightness at the entrance, the expanse in the middle and the relative shortness of the canal itself. It is likely why you are hitting her cervix and why she complains that "it feels like it is in her stomach"

And although doing kegels are definitely beneficial, it is unlikely to dramatically alter the expansive middle. Better to seek out sex positions that are pleasurable for a woman with a short cervix, especially since there is little she can do to change that. Most will involve those sex positions whereby she can control the depth of penetration - cowgirl, reverse cowgirl or other woman-on-top positions. Side-by-side positions can work well too.

Another other option is to avoid going too deep while in the doggy-style or missionary positions. One pleasurable way to avoid deep (and painful) penetration is to have you or her hold the base of your penis at the point where it becomes uncomfortable for her during thrusting to stop from going further.

Only by communicating and experimenting with various sex positions and techniques, will you discover what is most pleasurable and what isn't for both of you.

 

[Closed039]

Hey PEskeptic,

This may be of interest to you. In 1996 with the use of vinyl polysiloxane castings and rods, two studies were done to measure both the depth and shape of women's vaginas from numerous ethnic groups. What was discovered was that there was actually a wide range of vaginal shapes found and described by researchers as the following:

Vaginal Shapes

Parallel Sided

Conical

Heart

Slug Shaped

Pumpkin Seed

So from what you are describing, there is a very distinct possibility that your gal's vaginal shape is not the typical funnel shape but rather one of the above shapes - likely the heart or pumpkin seed shapes. This could explain the tightness at the entrance, the expanse in the middle and the relative shortness of the canal itself. It is likely why you are hitting her cervix and why she complains that "it feels like it is in her stomach"

And although doing kegels are definitely beneficial, it is unlikely to dramatically alter the expansive middle. Better to seek out sex positions that are pleasurable for a woman with a short cervix, especially since there is little she can do to change that. Most will involve those sex positions whereby she can control the depth of penetration - cowgirl, reverse cowgirl or other woman-on-top positions. Side-by-side positions can work well too.

Another other option is to avoid going too deep while in the doggy-style or missionary positions. One pleasurable way to avoid deep (and painful) penetration is to have you or her hold the base of your penis at the point where it becomes uncomfortable for her during thrusting to stop from going further.

Only by communicating and experimenting with various sex positions and techniques, will you discover what is most pleasurable and what isn't for both of you.

Thank you - the type of response I was looking for.