Interesting experience today...

[closed212]

Not really sure what to make of it, I was cool when it all happened but it's slowly creeping up and bothering me. When I take a step back I know it shouldn't but it's such a constant reminder of my physical inability to pleasure my partner. It probably only bothers me because I'm so young (only 18) and sexual immature (if you will) but it is what it is.

Girlfriend and I were having sex today, we had bananas on my desk (brother ran in and left them, my little brother, much earlier). After we finished having sex she mentioned how the banana looked like a penis and yeah one thing led to another. We put a condom on the banana and it turned into a dildo.

At first she felt uncomfortable and it wasn't going smooth but after awhile she let loose. I had her relax because I didn't want her tense, I didn't want her to feel uncomfortable at all. I love pleasuring my partner, it gives me so much satisfaction. After the banana session I kind of asked her how was it (both of us are inexperienced and I was curious, I knew what was coming to be honest though).

She was always addicted to my fingers and loved it when I fingered her more than intercourse, when we tried this she told me she had a different build up. Not a clitoral build up (which is the only one I give her and only when she is on top), I'm assuming this was a vaginal orgasm build up. When I went deeper she said "oh it's this pressure" and told me to stop but I had a feeling she was just new to the sensation, sure enough it wasn't any "pressure" and she liked it, a lot. When she told me to stop I did stop but I kept grinding it deeper after time and she liked it.

I asked her if she ever had a build up like this with me and she said no and she loves the banana more than my fingers now...

Banana stats (LOL); 7 inches not including the stem but I was holding the banana past the stem which gives it a solid 6-6.5 inches.
The girth of the banana was 5.10 inches and sorry I was really curious to know the difference between the banana and my dick so I decided to measure haha.

My stats are as such;

BPEL: 6.0"
Girth: 4.80"

It's weird because I guess I'm not THAT far off from the banana but the .30" difference in girth really does something, I'm sure the added length helped too.

So yeah that's my story for today, not sure how I feel about it because deep down it does really suck but I felt like telling someone. I also attached an image of the banana and my dick in comparison.

 

[Koh]

In the meantime, just improve your prowess in the bed, be it with fingering, eating out, or penetrative; your gains will come soon enough.

 

[Dontrike]

Like Koh said your gains shall come in time and you just need to practice. If you are still being bothered by this then bring it up with her and maybe gain some insight.

 

[Pegasus]

Umm being as this banana was much the same size as your dick I would think it isn't an issue.

 

[MrBigDick]

Don't let the size of the banana bother you. Use it to FOCUS on achieving the goals you have set for yourself and use it as motivation. Don't let the size of a piece of fruit effect your mentality.

 

[GTO]

Don't let the size of the banana bother you. Use it to FOCUS on achieving the goals you have set for yourself and use it as motivation. Don't let the size of a piece of fruit effect your mentality.

LOL - yeh. I've had bananas that I've measured and was like "damn! The banana's got me beat pretty good!" So what was my revenge? I ate the bastard. And it was damn good too!

 

[thenewdude]

Don't even compare. You are average in both areas which is just okay with most of the women in the world. Do PE for you and you alone.

 

[BigO]

This thread is going bananas.

 

[Stumpy]

Remember too that you were doing something new ... different ... a bit naughty.

I highly doubt that the size of the banana was the crucial factor. I'd suggest that it was the novelty of the experience coupled with the way you were really paying attention to the way her body was responding.

So there's probably a couple of lessons there for you:
- pay attention to your partner and 'listen' to what works for her;
- and the longer couples are together, the greater the need to try and make things fresh and exciting.

Oh ... and lesson #3 ... keep up the PE.

 

[MrBigDick]

LOL - yeh. I've had bananas that I've measured and was like "damn! The banana's got me beat pretty good!" So what was my revenge? I ate the bastard. And it was damn good too!

Yeah, I suppose eating the SOB is one way to fix it's wagon..........lmao

 

[closed212]

Thanks for the posts guys and we haven't been together that long, only six months. She told me she felt the banana more and I can totally understand, when we have sex only certain precise positions will stimulate her with my dick since it isn't that thick. I need to aim that sucker lol.

Well anyways after the whole ordeal later that night while she was about to go home she whispered "want to get me a dildo?", my heart sunk and I acted very immature. I sort of pushed her away emotionally and didn't give her an explanation because it was something so touchy to bring up, I guess I couldn't handle it at the time.

I'm going to bring it up to her today but my concern with this whole dildo thing is; SHE NEEDS BIGGER. She seems to have a naturally large vagina.

My worries include her liking the dildo so much that she won't get ANY satisfaction from me and it'll all be an act for her (our sex), I don't want sex where I'm the only one getting pleasured and her having to act to get through it and AFTER I finish ask me to use the dildo on her. Not only will that make me feel like sh*t but I sure as hell won't be in the mood to dildo her.

I don't want our sex to be reliant of the dildo to give her sexual satisfaction because I truly do not see myself using it EACH and EVERY time we have sex and if I don't use it she won't be "as satisfied" and then resent me or be disappointed after sex (which is a mood of hers that I am very familiar of), I'm very observant of her behavior and I tend to analyze everything she does so I really don't want to deal with it if I choose not to use the dildo.

She'll like the dildo so much that she will lose her sexual desire for me and also if she tries the bigger dildo she'll eventually be curious to know what the real thing is like and leave me.

This wouldn't worry me as much if I knew she was staying with me but in August of this year she is going away....to college.

/dilemma.

 

[Murray]

Bro, she should like you for who you are...not the size of your dick. Your dick is enough to pleasure her, and if she feels its not enough just let her go, shes not worth it.
However, if i were you id teach myself some damn good cunnilingus..no banana could ever mimic that .

Good luck bro

 

[closed212]

I do my best at cunnilingus but believe it or not she isn't that into it, she certainly prefers intercourse to cunnilingus. I know she likes me for who I am, she is a loving and caring girl but I know she wants more. Our relationship is really deep and just letting her go isn't something that sits well with me if it came to that (which I don't think it will). I personally would never terminate a relationship based off of something like this but I'm afraid it might be a problem in the future.

Thanks Murray, appreciate the response man.

 

[Murray]

You need to switch things up. Have you tried doggie style? Leaning forward and making as much contact in that position can make even a small dick seem huge! Experiment in anal perhaps? Introduce her to kegels?

For now though, to maintain the strength of your relationship its maybe better to keep your brother out your room, and leave the fruit in the fruit bowl.

Also use anticipation. Don't have sex with her as much as she'd like to, maybe every so often make an excuse not to have sex. After a while of not having it, she will crave your dick and sex will be much more enjoyable for you both!

 

[DarkSide]

Don't forget about the Curvature of the Banana... The curve was pointing up I would assume? Hello G-Spot!!!

Also she asked YOU to buy her the Dildo, hence wants YOU to use it on her... Sounds like fun doesn't it?

Enjoy Yourselves!

Regards,

 

[Nihilanth]

I'm going to bring it up to her today but my concern with this whole dildo thing is; SHE NEEDS BIGGER. She seems to have a naturally large vagina.

My worries include her liking the dildo so much that she won't get ANY satisfaction from me and it'll all be an act for her (our sex), I don't want sex where I'm the only one getting pleasured and her having to act to get through it and AFTER I finish ask me to use the dildo on her. Not only will that make me feel like sh*t but I sure as hell won't be in the mood to dildo her.

I don't want our sex to be reliant of the dildo to give her sexual satisfaction because I truly do not see myself using it EACH and EVERY time we have sex and if I don't use it she won't be "as satisfied" and then resent me or be disappointed after sex (which is a mood of hers that I am very familiar of), I'm very observant of her behavior and I tend to analyze everything she does so I really don't want to deal with it if I choose not to use the dildo.

She'll like the dildo so much that she will lose her sexual desire for me and also if she tries the bigger dildo she'll eventually be curious to know what the real thing is like and leave me.

This is a dilemma most of the guys get into. Allthough I never had relationship (or sex for that matter) with a woman, I understand it.

I can't give you any advice from experience, only tell you what I'd do...

1. Continue with PE. Don't stop with it. It's the only (safe) way to enlarge your penis. She wants bigger penis, give it to her.
2. Make a deal with her. Get her a dildo, but use it after you had sex. You will get to satisfy her She still wants you, for you, and that's the way it works, otherwise there would be much less relationships/marriages.
3. Explain to her how you feel. Tell her EVERYTHING. Well, this is your part, you must decide how much you're going to say. I recently decided not to lie so I'd tell her everything. Also (if she knows about you doing PE) explain that it will take some time for you to grow.
4. When you have sex, don't think about it and certainly don't let her have time (or breath ) to think about it!

 

[Stumpy]

Also she asked YOU to buy her the Dildo, hence wants YOU to use it on her... Sounds like fun doesn't it?

Enjoy Yourselves!

+1`

IMO you're over-thinking this. She wants to have fun WITH you ... isn't that pretty much all that matters?

Sure ... keep doing the PE ... but be careful about 'setting the rules' on how you're girl is allowed to be satisfied.

 

[bahamaboner71]

I would find that A-spot asap, https://www.pegym.com/forums/succes...thanks-those-helped-me-find-4.html#post479606

 

[imac]

It sounds to me like the curve of the banana was stimulating her deep spot and that was building up a vaginal orgasm. It's nothing to worry about, just increase your sexual knowledge.

Read the link bahama posted above there's some useful tip in there. Including a link to a video that shows you how to digitally stimulate her deep spot.

 

[somebodyelse]

Umm being as this banana was much the same size as your dick I would think it isn't an issue.

yea, I was gonna say, that banana doesn't look that much bigger than you, if it's at all bigger than you. Longer, sure, but i'm sure it's the shape..don't even worry about it dude!