I need to talk about it... My ED story

[Dutchie]

Ever try masturbating with her? That may be rewarding and fun.



Other than that kegel Kegel KEGEL & no porn (that was my problem).

I'm kegeling for about 5 weeks now and have seem some improvement. I only kegel with a flaccid and mix fast contractions with long (30 sec). Is that the best way to kegel? I never kegel with an erection, any extra benefits if you kegel with an erection?

 

[John Dough]

The erections I get when i'm alone are way better than when i'm with my gf,

I can't talk and keep an erection at the same time. If you talk to your gf during sex, try not talking.

 

[Dutchie]

Hey guys, I promised to update my progress:

Big bummer: yesterday evening I was at my GF's, tried to have sex but unfortunately it didn't worked out. Had an erection pre-penetration, jumped on my GF --> erection was gone. This morning we couldn't have sex cause her menstruation was starting. Some guys might say they don't care, but I really don't want to go there at that time of the month.
Ironically, though not suprisingly, I had a good erection that morning. I knew I couldn't fuck her --> no pressure --> erection. Now I know it's 100% psychological.

I'm just going to keep trying, there is some progress so I think eventually it will happen.

One last question: What is the most easy way to start penetration? Everytime we "start" having sex things go wrong..

Keep you guys informed

 

[Dutchie]

I can't talk and keep an erection at the same time. If you talk to your gf during sex, try not talking.

I don't talk when we try to have sex, so I don't think that's the problem..

 

[enlargen]

He guys, first let me introduce myself:

No first of all, I've been lurking on this forum for a month or so and I want to tell you guys this forum rocks! I've always been interested in penis enhancement and people here are really open and friendly towards each ohter. I think I'm at the right place to share my problems and I hope I could get some advice.

I'm 21 years old and I live in the Netherlands. I never felt comfortable about my erections when it comes to sex. To be honest, i never had decent sex altough i had a LOT of oppurtunities. When a girl is lying in my bed, i just don't make the move because I'm pretty certain i wouldn't get it up. I tried it 2 times this year and both of the times it failed, my confidence was really below 0. I'm only 21 but i can't have sex!

Now things are slightly different, 3 months a go i met a wonderful girl which is my gf right now. She knows about this and she is extremely cool about it. We managed to have sex a couple of times, but that was with an 60% erection. I think i may also suffer from PE because most of the time it don't last for more than 15 seconds. Pretty sad isn't it....

When we are and kissing most of the time I get an ok erection, but it fades away when i take off my underwear. I don't even get a full erection when she's giving me a blowjob! The hardest erection I can get is when we are kissing, is there a logical explanation for that?! Some might say it's because i'm anxious or nervous, but i don't think that's the problem. Maybe I'm thinking about my erection too much?

I'm afraid my gf eventualy will leave me because of this and i think about my "problem" at least 2 times per hour. Yeah I know, it really f*cks me up. Because I've been reading here for a while I find out about kegels, jelqing and supplements.
I've started kegels a month a go and i jelq for a week (2 days on, 1 off). I also take the following supplements:
Ginkgo Bilboa
Tribulus
ZMA
Horny goat weed
Gingseng

I've seen some improvements when I'm alone, but not when i'm with my girl.

Now for the masturbation part:
I can get rock solid erections when I masturbate in a sitting position (used to watch porn, i've quit a month a go) but when i'm lying flat, i can only get a 80% erection. The erections I get when i'm alone are way better than when i'm with my gf, so the ED is psychologial right?

WHAT TO DO?! Do I have to keep trying? (I've tried to have sex 10 times or so), do I have to see a therapist? I really don't know...

It do feels like a relief when typing this, i never talked about this with males.
Sorry for my disorganised post and grammar, but I really hope some people recognize my problem and want to help me.

If you want to know some more, ask freely, I'm 100% open because i really want to get over this. My problem hits me on so many levels..

Greetings, Dutchie

Holy sh*t are you me? Your story is EXACTLY the same as mine. I've had so many opportunities to fuck and I've failed them all. Three times there were three different girls in bed with me and we tried to have sex and I couldn't get it up. Then there were other times where close female friends were sleeping in my bed and we were cuddling etc. If I made a move I could have fucked them but I had no confidence in my hard-on. Apart from these gold-opportunities there have been plenty of girls that I could have fucked that I had pulled in clubs etc. that were totally up for it but I didn't make the move. It feels fucking horrible.

Then I'm the same as you regarding watching porn and lying in bed. When I'm sitting watching porn my dick is at its best. This is the position I'm used to and hardon is hard and reliable. When I'm lying down, just like you said, I'm at around 80%. sh*t sucks man! I don't get great morning wood either.

Unfortunately I currently don't have an answer for you but let's be friends and try to help each other with whatever progress we make. I've jerked off far too much my whole life and am trying to reduce it. I've decided to quit porn entirely (I've actually decided this many times but never follow through because it's difficult). I also do kegels which I found to improve my hardness tremendously. These things definitely help. Another thing I'm going to try and do is jerk off only once a week. Good luck!

 

[Dutchie]

Sorry for not replying, I haven't been on this forum for a while.

MAJOR UPDATE though!

A friend of my had some levitra pills and he gave me one (10 mg). I splitted the pill in 2 pieces so I took 5 mg 1 hour before we ended up in the bedroom. It worked out and finally we had sex. The morning after we tried to have sex another time but it failed.

Does this mean it isn't pure psychological? It certainly wasn't a placebo effect because I kept an erection for a long time with minor stimulation. I still have 5 mg left, is it wise to take it the next time or do you guys think it will only make my problem worse?

 

[kingpole]

Healing from ED is a slow process sometimes taking months. Now if you can get erect or even semi erect. Do your kegeks erect. You want to visually see your erection bob up and down. You may need to work at it. Read the links in my signature.

 

[swami]

Sorry for not replying, I haven't been on this forum for a while.

MAJOR UPDATE though!

A friend of my had some levitra pills and he gave me one (10 mg). I splitted the pill in 2 pieces so I took 5 mg 1 hour before we ended up in the bedroom. It worked out and finally we had sex. The morning after we tried to have sex another time but it failed.

Does this mean it isn't pure psychological? It certainly wasn't a placebo effect because I kept an erection for a long time with minor stimulation. I still have 5 mg left, is it wise to take it the next time or do you guys think it will only make my problem worse?

hey man it MIGHT be psychological, but you can try a couple times with viagra/levitra and lower dosage

in any sexshop you can get under the counter kamagra, or you can buy them of an anabolics board, just google anabolen and you will find sources.. in amsterdam you can get viagra pretty much anywhere

maybe smoke some weed to help you relax?

if the problem persists, it's time to get your bloodwork drawn at a doctor.. you need to measure total testosterone and tsh.. total testosteron if it's way low that ain't gonna help, tsh > 2 might indicate an issue with thyroid and perhaps get a cortisol saliva profile done, it might be that you're way too stressed out.. these tests can also be bought at zrt online which does bloodwork via fingerpricks you can send over to usa and get results in two weeks

in the meanwhile you can go to "de tuinen" and get yourself some pycnogenol and l-arginine, google it for dosage, this is supposed to help your wood

apart from that i recommend going to the gym and doing hardcore aerobic exercise 30 minutes a day, bike, jogging whatever

also you can get garlic pills from de tuinen, also perfectbody.nl has cool mint cayenne pepper capsules which may help

i assume that everyone in this world is low on vitamins so get a multi if you don't use it

 

[normalguy]

...maybe smoke some weed to help you relax?...

First, this is not a really good advice to give here! If you smoke weed and are happy with it, fine! But don't encourage others to do so, especially on the purpose to relax oneself!

Dutchie, the fact that Levitra worked only means that your body responded to the drug you took. This kind of drug is designed to induce erections and works whether you have ED or not (and this causes irresponsible use of them) unless you have a severe underlying medical condition. Kingpole gave you great advice. Yeah, curing ED takes time and effort but what you want is being able to have an erection by yourself and not rely on a pill that you'll have to take an hour before sex and to which you might not respond after a while if you take it chronically...

 

[swami]

First, this is not a really good advice to give here! If you smoke weed and are happy with it, fine! But don't encourage others to do so, especially on the purpose to relax oneself!

Dutchie, the fact that Levitra worked only means that your body responded to the drug you took. This kind of drug is designed to induce erections and works whether you have ED or not (and this causes irresponsible use of them) unless you have a severe underlying medical condition. Kingpole gave you great advice. Yeah, curing ED takes time and effort but what you want is being able to have an erection by yourself and not rely on a pill that you'll have to take an hour before sex and to which you might not respond after a while if you take it chronically...

well it DOES help relax and i'm not telling him to take it forever, just find out if you need to relax more and if so don't go on smoking weed all the time DUH

it's the same advise with viagra, try 50 mg couple days then 25 mgs and then taper off and see if it works without viagra, so a mental crutch so to speak

so this is to rule out minor issues and for a short time

if he really has an issue he will need to resort to a doctor who can help him with bloodtesting

 

[Dutchie]

Thanks Swami for your advice.
I am a "healty" cannabis smoker so smoking some prior to sex is worth trying. I'll go to my GP this week to rule out any underlying medical issues. I'll also ask my GP about the Levitra, maybe he'll prescribe me more, we'll see.

Anyway, I'll let you guys know!

 

[Noseybailey]

Being a newbie myself and having similar problems, I highly recommend following the newbie routines and don't overdo the jelqs! This gym is full of wonderful info and I truly have better erections. Just follow the recommendations and you will find improvements.

 

[blksxmn]

If i can add my 2 cents, smoking can damage the blood vessels of the penis. The penis has some to of the tiniest blood vessels in the body. If you are going to smoke anything at all . you are going to need to fuel you body with foods that repair tissue like BEANS! and high level Lysine foods like Mackerel and fish like that. Orange juice, flesh healthy salads too. grapefruit is a natural artery cleaner of plaque. Pharmaceuticals and medicines can hinder erection too. Sinus issue will also be a erection stopper believe me. . . . to many supplements can overload the nervous system causing erection problems. i experienced this happening to me and when i stopped taking them my erections came back to super steel because i just stay as natural as possible. Food and water. . .low stress lifestyle and plenty of kegels!!! cut back on porn for sure!! connect with you girl mentally and deeply and you will see major erection power!! KEGELS ARE SUPREME!!