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Ok well I cannot ejaculate unless I'm jerking off ( I can have sex all day and not cum) I know it doesn't sound that bad but it sucks having to jerk off every time I have sex
 

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You've likely overconditioned yourself with the way that you're masturbating (likely too tight a grip). Try not masturbating for awhile but continue with your other sexual activity. After some time, just about any stimulus will cause you to ejaculate.
 

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You've likely overconditioned yourself with the way that you're masturbating (likely too tight a grip). Try not masturbating for awhile but continue with your other sexual activity. After some time, just about any stimulus will cause you to ejaculate.

Ditto. You've been jerking off way too hard for way too long.
 

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I have been jerking off almost everyday with a very tight grip every day since I was 14
 

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I only get sex once a week , so I think I just need to slowly stop jerking off
 

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I'm in the same boat as you bud. On the plus side, I can have sex for hours. On the minus, I haven't met a girl that really cares for it much after around 45 minutes, 1 hour max. And yes, I'd say I'm addicted to jerking it. I'd stop but it's like a cigarette, sometimes you just need it.
 

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I'm in the same boat as you bud. On the plus side, I can have sex for hours. On the minus, I haven't met a girl that really cares for it much after around 45 minutes, 1 hour max. And yes, I'd say I'm addicted to jerking it. I'd stop but it's like a cigarette, sometimes you just need it.

Yea its almost like I dont feel good or I cant start my day or go to sleep until I do it lol
 

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If you lighten your grip ,you may not get off at first ,but you will get used to it.
 

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I hope your not using that monster grip while you are doing PE.
 

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Me too in the same boat, but little different i bed hump, after having long sex with my partner once she is tired i have to bed hump to ejaculate not always most of the time. Now i have different problem is my EQ goes down, so i am trying to improve on EQ.
 

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well this not jerking off thing as much or as hard isnt working ... i just cant stop my self , im thinking about trying one of those male masturbators
 

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I had your same problem. You just got to commit and train yourself grip lightly and try to get off within 10 min. It will be hard for a bit, what really helped me was using shea butter as lube, after about 2-3 weeks of using that I prematured in about a minute's time. It was really embarrassing, but then I knew I could start re-conditioning myself. Also, are you having sex after drinking alcohol? I can still pm if i want to when I'm sober, but after 3-4 drinks there is no hope of me getting off inside her or even having her get me off at all for that matter.
 

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Quick question although a teeny bit off topic.

For the people who wanna "last longer". Can we start masturbating with a super tight grip to help us in our journey?

When i masturbate (with gusto) i cum within 3-6 minutes. I stroke superduper fast.
 

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Quick question although a teeny bit off topic.

For the people who wanna "last longer". Can we start masturbating with a super tight grip to help us in our journey?

When i masturbate (with gusto) i cum within 3-6 minutes. I stroke superduper fast.

i dont know but i wouldn't recommend it , im pretty sure my dicks less sensitive
 

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yea you might hate it but i only last about 5min in bed and thats only with the stop and go technique for the first 1min so if you can pull off having sex all day without cummin your a lucky man compared to all the men who cum way to early
but if your not cummin while having sex i dont know whats wrong cause thats not normal unless she extremly to loose for you
 

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I had your same problem. You just got to commit and train yourself grip lightly and try to get off within 10 min. It will be hard for a bit, what really helped me was using shea butter as lube, after about 2-3 weeks of using that I prematured in about a minute's time. It was really embarrassing, but then I knew I could start re-conditioning myself. Also, are you having sex after drinking alcohol? I can still pm if i want to when I'm sober, but after 3-4 drinks there is no hope of me getting off inside her or even having her get me off at all for that matter.

thanks bro , and no i dont really drink
 

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Actually this problem is a lot more common than previously thought.
I had it when I was young, found the lighter grip helped as did not spoofing for awhile.
Another thing I did was concentrate on what I was enjoying during sex, tuning in to it.
Also found I have to go hard to get off, which can be an issue with a decent sized dick.