Yeah this could be true. I have been thinking about leaving her over this but I still do love her and Ill probably see how this go. I just hope that everytime i see her I dont think about this and associate her with pain.
I cant satisfy her
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Yeah this could be true. I have been thinking about leaving her over this but I still do love her and Ill probably see how this go. I just hope that everytime i see her I dont think about this and associate her with pain.
Hey this-moment,
David X said it pretty well:
Rule #1: Who cares what they think. (as in don't worry about what she's thinking)
Rule #2: You're the most important in the relationship.
When a man leads, knows what he wants and is not seeking approval then he's free.
These rules are deep, if you REALLY understand them you will be freer.
David X said it pretty well:
Rule #1: Who cares what they think. (as in don't worry about what she's thinking)
Rule #2: You're the most important in the relationship.
When a man leads, knows what he wants and is not seeking approval then he's free.
These rules are deep, if you REALLY understand them you will be freer.
"Love is a mystery! Oh lofty, divine mystery! There is a greatness in that thought, a great beauty. It is as wonderful as the stars that, in spite of the best efforts of all those poets, storytellers, and scientists, love remains a mystery. A mystery that trumps all."
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This sounds pua .
Actually if you just want stray pussy it sort of makes sense , forget a relationship of any depth though.
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Dude you are already have great size/girth! As already mentioned she is either playing head games with you or she is just oblivious and doesn't realize the impact to what she is saying. Its the same if you told her your EX had nicer boobs and nicer ass which got you hornier and made you a lot more passionate in bed. How would that make her feel? Obviously only a DICK would ever say something like that to his GF/WIFE which you are not. There are tons of great people out there in the world and sounds like you are still fairly young. Don't beat yourself up over a girl who doesn't understand what LOVE IS! 
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You may not be her best lover. You will be someone's someday.
We can't be the best for all of them. Some people just are not good sexual matches but that does not necessarily make either one a bad lover.
If intimacy is awkward then maybe she's not the one for you. It happens.
Move on and find yourself a better match.
We can't be the best for all of them. Some people just are not good sexual matches but that does not necessarily make either one a bad lover.
If intimacy is awkward then maybe she's not the one for you. It happens.
Move on and find yourself a better match.
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Yeah i think were not good fits or something we are probably in a relationship with a expiration date but ill probably try to make things work for now.
I hate to be this guy but after last night I know without a doubt size does matter. I had sex with my gf late last night and out of curiosity I asked her how good it was and she said "It was pretty good but from her tone of voice in her mind she was probably thinking it was mediocre". Now I know I never should have went there but I did and i asked how I compared to her ex. I could tell she felt very uncomfortable with this question and just said "I don't want to make you jealous" But I kept prying. Eventually she ended up telling me sex with her ex was way better and i didn't compare. I then asked why he was so much better and again she didn't want to tell me so I knew it was bad. She said it was because his dick was bigger.
I felt sic to my stomach and it was so painful hearing those words. I just wanted to crawl into a hole and die! I then asked her if she had sex with him more and she said yes and that a lot of the times she initiated it. 90% of the time im the one to initiate sex with her. I also put in a LOT of effort, I finger her and eat her out for a good while before I even penetrate her. I go above and beyond because its important to me that my partner is satisfied. This whole time Im thinking Im doing the job for her but now I hear from her that I dont satisfy her. Her words "Your not bad but your not good, mediocre". I also asked is this the reason you don't feel up to having sex most the time and she responded with yes. I go above and beyond in the bed with her and her ex never even ate her out or did much of foreplay but yet I don't compare.
So to break it down: her ex put in way less effort than i did but yet got way more unsolicited sex than me just because he was larger. Whenever we have sex most the time its like its a chore to her like "duty calls". It would feel nice to be wanted/desired but it hurts so much that im not because of my dick size
This kinda destroyed me in ways that I have never experienced. I couldn't sleep at all last night after this and had work in the morning. For 8hours at work I was extremely depressed and I had to pretend like nothing was wrong because of costumer service. I dont want to be mellow dramatic but I feel like Im having a mental break down. Ive been having thoughts of suicide and the only thing keeping me from acting upon this is PE. Wow if it wasn't for PE and this site I would be in way worse shape than I am now. This site has been a blessing to me. Her ex was 8inches and she was there when he measured so its not an exaggeration. I know that with dedication and time that i might be able to reach this length in some years. This thought does help and is basically the only thing keeping me going but this doesn't change the fact that I feel utterly destroyed.
I know some of you guys are going to say that she is just playing head games with me but this coudn't be farther than the truth. This girl loves and cares about me and she didn't want to tell me this but I was the one to open pandoras box. The tone of her voice when she was telling me this wasnt in a mean way but a "im being completely honest way".
This girl is amazing and she still loves and wants to be with me even though sex could be way better. i love her to and Im glad that she chooses to see the positives I bring to her life instead of breaking up with me like some girls have done because of their bfs size. I know this probably sounds really pathetic and weak but imagine what this does to a mans confidence knowing that what he brings to the table sexually is something that has to be over looked.
Sorry for the long post guys but i just really had to get this off my chest. I just feel so beaten down.
Fuck, this story sucks for more reasons then I can care to state. First of all, you're about the same size as me and this story is a few times familiar with me as well. It's why us guys who are slightly aove average, or average, know, in the modern era of things, average, equals small to most women. And women are willing to recycle a POS around to have bigger. I know for some women, size truly does not matter, but for many it does and you have found yourself with one of those.
My honest and most humble bit of advise to you, is to seriously find yourself a woman with a smaller vagina then your current. I intentionally look for and have a nose for finding these women. Women who want big dicks have been doing it to us men, so what's fair is fair. Women with smaller, tighter vaginas, most always will not want and certainly do not NEED a big dick. It's all relevant my friend.
Speaking from experience, you might love this girl, BUT TRUST ME, the information she has provided you, will erode that love and create serious resentment towards her. Let her go find her big dick, who likely will treat her like a big dick and go find yourself a girl with a small, nice, tight fit vagina. My response here might not be popular, but I base this on years of my own personal experience. You are not small and sliding your dick into a girl you fill up and reach the back of her canal with an inch to spare, will send tingles up joy up your spine, cause in that moment, you know, "I got this" and go to work on her.
Unfortunately, the reality is, we are not all physically compatible. Size does matter to many women, unfortunately for some of them, bigger really is much better. The good news is, for many others, if not most, the need for a giant dick is not even in the equation. Go find her and live a happy life.
G spot g spot g spot. Do some research and learn that spot and how to use it. After their top of her head comes off a few times your dick size will mean nothing. I have good size and never knew how to use it at 7.25 long and 6.25 girth. Now I slow down take my time after learning their right areas. There is nothing more amazingly beautiful when you make your woman squirt. It is an experience. Drop her like a bad habit if she is not satisfied.
Oh I have been with my wife for years and love her very much and I know I have disappointed and satisfied her at times. I am not perfect but if your girl thinks your dick is to small then go another route. Be creative. Good luck
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There are women who have no time for g-spot or other "work". They want to be fucked till they bleed by a huge cock haphazardly thrust into them by a man who doesn't give a sh*t about their feelings.
Sadly, this appears to be a common trend among young girls at this point in time. Porn may have something to do with it, but there are lots of societal issues that also may contribute to this form of sexual dysfunction.
I'd say that among people under 30, women have become the new men.
Sadly, this appears to be a common trend among young girls at this point in time. Porn may have something to do with it, but there are lots of societal issues that also may contribute to this form of sexual dysfunction.
I'd say that among people under 30, women have become the new men.
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In their search for ways to appeal to a porn depending generation, they *think* this is what males like to hear.
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While I agree that a little tact and diplomacy on the part of the girlfriend could have gone a long way, I do not think that making her the sole culprit in this situation is fair. By his own admission, the OP asked for her honest opinion and despite her reluctance, continued to insist she tell him.
Also, as others have mentioned, I do not think it is really a size issue but perhaps an issue of confidence and maybe a lack of sexual experience of both parties as indicated by the mention of awkwardness. This is normal as good sex between couples takes practice and some time to learn their partner's "hot buttons".
This-moment, since you have decided to remain in a relationship with this gal, why not turn this devastating experience into something you can learn and grow from? (no pun intended)
For example, rather than ask her how good you were, why not ask her instead what makes sex in general good for her. That way there is absolutely no need to discuss previous relationships and you will then have a starting point in which to begin. Oh and don't forget to tell her what makes sex good for you too.
Also, as others have mentioned, I do not think it is really a size issue but perhaps an issue of confidence and maybe a lack of sexual experience of both parties as indicated by the mention of awkwardness. This is normal as good sex between couples takes practice and some time to learn their partner's "hot buttons".
This-moment, since you have decided to remain in a relationship with this gal, why not turn this devastating experience into something you can learn and grow from? (no pun intended)
For example, rather than ask her how good you were, why not ask her instead what makes sex in general good for her. That way there is absolutely no need to discuss previous relationships and you will then have a starting point in which to begin. Oh and don't forget to tell her what makes sex good for you too.
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I kind of get the feeling some really like it that way. Maybe it's just what they got used to from all the guys influenced by porn.
Either way it sorta kinda translates to porn porn porn.
Peg, I generally agree that a woman who tells her man that is probably trying to fuck with his head or his self esteem, but in this case it seems like 'this moment' had to pry the info out of her, so it sucks but I'm inclined to believe she was being genuine.
I don't think there is any question that 'this moment' does not have a small dick. However, it is possible that her ex lover had very large girth, perhaps over 6 inches. I'm not a woman so I don't know, but the sensation could be incredibly different given that 3/4 to possibly a full inch difference. Who really knows.
Either way dude, it is what it is. There will be a million other girls who would be happy and perfectly satisfied with your cock and oral skills, and another million who you would be too much for! So like Darin said, those are the girls you need to go for.
Lastly, although it may be difficult, we shouldn't be too hard on the girl. She is allowed to have preferences and needs, hurtful though they may be. I really don't think she intended to hurt this moment had he not pressed her for information.
I don't think there is any question that 'this moment' does not have a small dick. However, it is possible that her ex lover had very large girth, perhaps over 6 inches. I'm not a woman so I don't know, but the sensation could be incredibly different given that 3/4 to possibly a full inch difference. Who really knows.
Either way dude, it is what it is. There will be a million other girls who would be happy and perfectly satisfied with your cock and oral skills, and another million who you would be too much for! So like Darin said, those are the girls you need to go for.
Lastly, although it may be difficult, we shouldn't be too hard on the girl. She is allowed to have preferences and needs, hurtful though they may be. I really don't think she intended to hurt this moment had he not pressed her for information.
I would like to ask a honest question, now in certain situation when guys ask their significant other how their size compared to previous partners and get an answer that they really didn't expect to hear which causes the guy to curse his partner, or get depressed, or contemplate suicide or breaking up the relationship. Wouldn't it be equally bad if a guy asks his partner how he compared to get previous partners and was lied to in order for the guy not to get his ego crushed. This has never happened to me......(yet) but i know that i would rather her tell me i wasn't big enough, rather than having my partner smile with me in my face and tell me i was the biggest and i was the greatest in bed.
Just my 2 cents still.
Just my 2 cents still.
Sounds like she just doesn't like you man. Im just not buying it. If you are in fact 7" then her story is complete bullshit ...leave her man. No way in hell id stay with that chick ..hah fuck no man. Get yourself a real woman and stop worrying about your size. Thats horseshit. Go and find a better partner it may take a few tries but eventually it will happen good luck bro
I am probably gonna end up leaving this girl. Im ok with the fact that her ex was bigger than me and she enjoyed it more because of that reason but what really bothers me is the fact that she said sex with me is mediocre. I mean I put a lot of effort into it and i try to provide her with a good experience. I have looked up how to do g-spot stimulation and I give her oral all the time. I dont just jump right into it. But yet its still mediocre. Shes in love with me and she was the first one to say it and i do believe she is but for me being in love makes everything better. When im in love there is no mediocre. If i wasnt in love with this girl sex with her would just be mediocre for me to BUT im in love with her and that makes it way better because the feelings amplify it. Im ok with the fact that its not as good as her ex but I would think that it would still be satisfying for her. She says shes not sexually satisfied. Being mediocre is comparative to rating a movie as a "rental" like its not good enough to go to the movies to see but you'll wait to rent it or see it on tv.
Im already starting to associate pain to her and I dont even look forward to seeing her like i use to. I know that every time I see her, kiss her, fuck her ill be thinking about how i dont satisfy her. I know this is just something that is going to erode my confidence. Like others have said there are plenty of women out there that would love my size and i need to go find them instead of sticking with a girl thats not satisfied with what ive got.
I really love this girl but the bottom line is she made me feel like less of a man. Everyone knows that one of the most important things women look for in a mate is how they make them feel but this is also true for guys. Why do some men cheat on their very attractive wife for a women a lot less attractive? The reason is their wife maybe emasculating their husbands and when hes with the less attractive women she builds him up and makes him feel like a man.
I love Suzie and really enjoyed my time with her but shes not the one. I know she wants to be with me and we can definitely make it work but why bother? Stay with her because im weak, needy and dont want to be on my own? Naw f**k that! I use to shoot up heroin and I quit that all on my own without methadone or help from family. On the 21st it will have been a year since i quit and tbh not a day goes by that I dont think about that damn drug. This was by far the hardest thing ive ever faced in the 22years that ive been alive and this in comparison is nothing.
Sorry for the rant guys i just had to get that off my chest. also i really appreciate all the feed back everyone has given me.
Im already starting to associate pain to her and I dont even look forward to seeing her like i use to. I know that every time I see her, kiss her, fuck her ill be thinking about how i dont satisfy her. I know this is just something that is going to erode my confidence. Like others have said there are plenty of women out there that would love my size and i need to go find them instead of sticking with a girl thats not satisfied with what ive got.
I really love this girl but the bottom line is she made me feel like less of a man. Everyone knows that one of the most important things women look for in a mate is how they make them feel but this is also true for guys. Why do some men cheat on their very attractive wife for a women a lot less attractive? The reason is their wife maybe emasculating their husbands and when hes with the less attractive women she builds him up and makes him feel like a man.
I love Suzie and really enjoyed my time with her but shes not the one. I know she wants to be with me and we can definitely make it work but why bother? Stay with her because im weak, needy and dont want to be on my own? Naw f**k that! I use to shoot up heroin and I quit that all on my own without methadone or help from family. On the 21st it will have been a year since i quit and tbh not a day goes by that I dont think about that damn drug. This was by far the hardest thing ive ever faced in the 22years that ive been alive and this in comparison is nothing.
Sorry for the rant guys i just had to get that off my chest. also i really appreciate all the feed back everyone has given me.
