Going for control

[makeit]

Maybe a crazy story and bullshit. But I remember when I was a child I laughed a lot.
Everyday I couldnt stop laughing like 3 or 4 times a day. I had a hard time controlling my blatter while laughing.
Happened to me more than once I pissed my pants because of this. Till the age of 8 it happened on a more frequent base. From 8 till 12 only when my blatter was quite full. Surprisingly no one ever noticed it . Dark pants for the win!!! When I was older (8-12) 90% of the time i could hold it so it didn't happen that often.

Than i was able to squeeze(performing a hard kegel) hard enough to prevent me pissing my pants.

Maybe this is one of the factors my pelvic floor was very unbalanced.

 

[makeit]

WOW JUST WOW

Had an edging session on my own in the dark. Man it never felt that good before. Actually better than sex.
I was discovering spots. I'm circumcised and my head is a lot bigger than my shaft (in girth). Rubbing the edge on the sides of my head make go wow. I was moaning, my cock never was bigger, harder than this before. Had a crazy big orgasm.

Add some thrusting in doggy. Now i understand implenting thrusting while masturbating. To be able to do this I must be on a very high level of arousal. The interest just wont go away like it normally does. FUCK PORN =D

I really was in a space a high arousal and really was in the moment. I'm so enthousiast. Put the pc back on especially for this.

About duration, it was 14 minutes. Really have to be diciplined to go longer but hey being this long in this high state of arousal is a fucking massive win. Didn't use start and stop, but tried to surf in the state by going slower, rub somewhere else,... The other good news is that if I can find this state of arousal more often I will be much more motivated to edge. (read addicted)

 

[Jay1983]

The coronal ridge and frenunum are some bomb hot spots. So is the circumcision scar :thumb:

 

[closed224]

Self discovery priceless.

 

[longerlastingnoob]

Well done man, now onwards and upwards.

 

[makeit]

Hey guys,

My libido is at the moment super super low. A big cause of this is the break up I think. Need to arrange a lot of stuff, lot of thoughts in my head,... I am also not living a very healthy life at the moment.

What are the best effective things to do/eat to get my libido back??

 

[makeit]

Had another Vicotry!!! Wasn't that horney when I started my session but I was able to come in a state of high arousal. It's about pleasure and not duration but the session went on for 22 minutes.

Pushed with my fingers on my pelvic floor area when rubbing sensitive spots near ponr and noticed I still have little spasms. They are much weaker then they tend to be. I remember in the beginning my dick would bounce when I had a Ik. So now it's personally really confirmed that the orgasm is caused by these little spasms. So its a case of getting used to the sensations.

So again much much improvement. Only the second time I keep pushing and rubbig the real sensitive spots. Had to stop and pause a few times during the sessions. Never longer than 20 seconds though.

Now its really time to start edging more. 3 times a week.

 

[makeit]

A few questions.

I need to be in this state of high arousal to keep interested and to keep my erection.
But when I go here I am constant dangerly close to ponr.
Will I be able to be in this state of high arousal and staying away from ponr after a while?

Or need I to be able to have and keep and erection in a much lower state of arousal and then when I want to come to an orgasm let myself go to the high state of arousal?

 

[makeit]

Came back yesterday from a Festival. Had a great time!!

Went for an edging session today. Went not that good. Couldnt get in a state of high arousal, which i really need to be in to stay interested. State of high arousal and plateau edging is not the same right?? Maybe i most first master plateau edging.

Edged for about 10 minutes and after a while I could reach ponr but stayed away from it. Which is good!!
But I went a bit to far away from it I suppose. Lost interest and lost my erection. Couldn't get it back up.

Tomorrow another day, another chance!!!

 

[makeit]

Maybe it's best to begin to add kegels instead of doing only reverse kegels?

 

[longerlastingnoob]

Take a break from exercises and then see if there's a difference.

 

[makeit]

So no edging, no rk or k, no stretching?? okay will do

 

[makeit]

Long time since i've been. I am moving at the moment and from today I have internet. Quitting exercices skyrocketed my libido. At the beginning I was constant horney, getting hard and keeping hard is so easy now. I am able to get hard just from rubbing while reading something not sexual. So massive improvements. I wont do the excercices and focus on edging.

 

[makeit]

Okay had two edging sessions last days. I am making good improvements. I implement a lot of thrusting (cowgirl and doggystyle like) in my sessions. I am getting better at controlling it overall. When i feel ponr is coming I can get away from it just by switching a little. Once i got away it's not coming back in 10 seconds like it used to with start stop method. My erection quality is good, every session my erection starts to drop at some point but I can get it back up every time now. Doing edging purely on imagination.

Only point is still the discipline in duration. Last session was 16 minutes. This is an area where i am going to go in small steps. Physically it's not an issue to go longer. Its my mental self that says fuck it and let it blow.

Need more Selfdiscipline!!!

 

[makeit]

It's actually quite funny. I am looking up stuff about pe for the last 6 years in my life. Last 2-3 much more intense.
Yet it's only since I started this thread I made massive improvements.

Soo to all you silent readers. Start A fucking thread!!! You will see you'll understand your problem much better and how to tackle it. People like longerlastingnoob will tell you how to go.

Besides starting a thread the number one thread you should read is the one from ammonite. I'm not there yet but I really believe this is the way to go.

 

[AverageDude48]

Makeit! You are going to be okay. This is an issue for a lot of guys. I believe that there is a physical component as well as mental component. You have to attack both. Seems like you have a good attitude about this. That is going to make the difference. Being positive about things really does change things. Not talking about being a "rah rah" type. Those folks are - in my experience - fake and full of s**t! Confidence is important, too. You are getting there.

Keep up the hard work (no pun intended). Be kind to yourself. One I love bunches and bunches, after listening to me beat myself up, asked me a simple, yet very powerful question: If someone were saying the things that you just said about your self about me....what would you do? My answer: beat his f**king ass! Her provocative question: then why do you speak about yourself so unkindly?

She is right. Treat yourself well. Progress, not perfection! Right?

It really sounds like you are making great efforts and really good progress. Good for you. The great thing here: you are not a victim. Right? Action is power. Lots of guys fall into the "WOW is me....why me?". And play the role of victim. Not gonna help. Have a plan....execute that plan. Like everything else....be consistent and persistent and be confident that one day....not too far away...you are going to beat this thing and in a year from now (or whatever) you are going to look back on this time and think, "Wow, that was fun. Glad that I took action and overcame and can do what I like". And you will have confidence that you are going to be the stud that you want to be (whatever that might mean to you!).

Hey, it is all good. I am very grateful that I can, statistically speaking, always go for 20 minutes. Aiming for more. Generally speaking. There is one woman who turns me on so much that, hand job, blow job, whatever....cant get much past five or six minutes. LOVE THAT! But would like a little longer. Point is...we are not perfect. There is always room for improvement.

And, agreed on the thread. I have a progress log. Take a look at that. I also have some pics. More coming in about two weeks. I am going to measure and post results and add pics to my library | gallery at the one month mark.

Keep up the great work. Be kind to yourself.

 

[makeit]

You are 100% right mister. Whenever I have a weak moment, bad day,.. which certainly happens. I say 3 words to myself. Be a boss.

 

[AverageDude48]

Dude, bad moment....not bad day! If I might respectfully disagree.

S**t happens. To all of us. Learn from it. Be observant. Recognize patterns. Log! Log! Log! And, then, guess what? Yup! Log. Review the logs. I work in IT (but *DO NOT* call me an "IT Guy") and we work a lot off of patterns. I betcha that once you log everything and start reviewing that you will notice a pattern. But......and this is key....you have to freaking look! I always tell my colleagues and friends that it is amazing what you see when you look!

You will find it. Whatever "it" is....you will find it.

Keep on, keeping on!

 

[makeit]

Again 100% right.

Let me ask you a question. You say log everything and notice a pattern. Do you actually write things down or do you log everything mentally?

 

[makeit]

Hi guys,

Had sex with yesterday. Not a great succes, more a fail =). Gave her a nice time with foreplay and oral but the sex itself, popped in less than a minute. Was also wearing a condom. I was fucking her missionary and i tought this is something i can control but then it's there and I came.

I'm walking it off me right now but I have to say I carry it with me in my head. Anyway I'm just gonna keep edging and focus on the results. Results with the real thing will folow!!

She wants to come back this week. I'm thinking about it and I will meet her a second time. Refusing sex is losing!