Girlfriend Was Raped

[O.G.]

I separated from my girlfriend for a little while, in part due to the current distance. After 3-4 months we stayed very close and were practically in a relationship. I let her go out and try to get some of the comfort that she can find close by, she goes out with some guy for a couple weeks after most definitely knowing him for a little while. Things apparently don't work out and she comes back to me, as she the relationship was kind of just a comfort thing and she knew the whole time she wanted to be with me and could only love me...So we're back together, distance isn't as much of an issue. Apparently she goes over this guys house as a friend while we're in a relationship they're just kicking back probably smoking and this guy rapes her. As she explains, he kept holding her down, sticking his dick in her mouth, smacking her with it, tearing her clothes off, and ended up fingering her but couldn't manage to get his dick in. This went on for I don't know how long, and that's apparently it. Well I can't find this guys facebook or anything, but I know what town he lives in, about an hour away, and what school and teams he plays for.

I already have a relative plan of action, I'm just looking to you guys for advice, pointing out other possibilities, and keeping my ass in check.


Thanks.

 

[Cleave]

O.G. this is a very slippery slope! I feel like this guy 100% deserves an serious ass beating but I would really think about your course of action before doing anything. Last thing you want is to hospitalize this guy (or worse) and end up getting yourself neck deep in some seriously bad sh*t! I wish I knew more about the legal recourse of ways to handle this kind of stuff that wouldn't put you in serious jeopardy but I don't so I will let some of the other members speak on some of the other alternatives for how to handle this. I just wanted to say, BE CAREFUL whatever you end up doing! And I am extremely sorry to hear that this happened!!!

 

[O.G.]

Also skeptical of if my girl is telling the truth. It makes me feel like sh*t thinking about it, but it's possible.

 

[UKGuy]

Sorry this happened. The son of a bitch that did this shouldn't get away with it either way.

 

[O.G.]

She won't let me do anything. She says she doesn't want to get any more stress.

I'm doing something about it no matter what.

 

[Elias]

I am in a long distance relationship myself and now I cannot stop thinking what I would do if this happened to my girl.

I'm doing something about it no matter what.

Yes. I would too.

 

[scythe]

Cut his pee pee off and feed it to him. I would.

 

[Pegasus]

Uhh guys, I know this evokes strong feelings ,but you should not provoke violence through this site.

 

[rolv]

Talk to a lawyer. See what cause of action you or your girl has against this man.

Most, if not all, lawyers are walking lie detectors. By talking to your girlfriend and asking her questions, the lawyer will be able to tell whether she's telling the truth and if she's hiding something.

 

[MrBigDick]

Also skeptical of if my girl is telling the truth. It makes me feel like sh*t thinking about it, but it's possible.

OK, here's my issue. First off, IF this truly did happen to her, I'm horribly sorry and the guy that did it needs to be held accountable and punished to the fullest extent of the law. I know it's easy to say that you want to go over there and feed him his cock for breakfast and I honestly don't blame you, I'd feel the same way. BUT, DO NOT take the law into your own hands! I work for the local courthouse and I see this sh*t on a daily basis and the person who ends up taking the law into his or her own hands always ends up in jail needing their own attorney. If this guy did it, get the police involved and let them handle it. As much as us good guys like to play the cowboy and whip the sh*t out of some asshole like that, the law tends to frown upon that.

The other thing here that concerns me is you above statement, that you're not sure if this chick is even telling you the truth. HAVE YOUR FACTS straight before you go and do anything. If there's a shread of doubt in your mind that she's telling you the truth, you'll cause yourself even more trouble if you try and intervene and do something about it. If I may ask, why is it you think she's not being 100% honest with you about this incident?

 

[Elias]

I am in a long distance relationship myself and now I cannot stop thinking what I would do if this happened to my girl.



Yes. I would too.

Yeah, as I said, I would do it too. All the guys would feel the same that 'let's go and do something'. But for your sake mate and for your future, as MrBigDick wrote, don't take the law into your own hands. Don't let your feelings turn into actions.

 

[Magneto]

violence never solved anythng but that's easy 2 say.. I would wna do something 2 fuck this guy up too. I thnk it depends on how much d relationship means 2 u. If it means a lot 2 u then this guy needs to be held down with a broomstick up his ass so he realises wat predicament he put a woman in. A man should never force or physically manhandle a woman! Period! No matter wat she said or done. A woman is that little delicate creature that gives us pleasure n comfort! This guy crossed the line!

 

[MrBigDick]

violence never solved anythng but that's easy 2 say.. I would wna do something 2 fuck this guy up too. I thnk it depends on how much d relationship means 2 u. If it means a lot 2 u then this guy needs to be held down with a broomstick up his ass so he realises wat predicament he put a woman in. A man should never force or physically manhandle a woman! Period! No matter wat she said or done. A woman is that little delicate creature that gives us pleasure n comfort! This guy crossed the line!

While I agree with everything you've written here, the only thing I differ in is your statement that "a woman is that little delicate creature that gives us pleasure n comfort".............they're not all like that my friend........I hate to tell ya. BUT, I DO understand what you're saying and agree with you otherwise.

 

[Batwoman]

OK, here's my issue. First off, IF this truly did happen to her, I'm horribly sorry and the guy that did it needs to be held accountable and punished to the fullest extent of the law. I know it's easy to say that you want to go over there and feed him his cock for breakfast and I honestly don't blame you, I'd feel the same way. BUT, DO NOT take the law into your own hands! I work for the local courthouse and I see this sh*t on a daily basis and the person who ends up taking the law into his or her own hands always ends up in jail needing their own attorney. If this guy did it, get the police involved and let them handle it. As much as us good guys like to play the cowboy and whip the sh*t out of some asshole like that, the law tends to frown upon that.

The other thing here that concerns me is you above statement, that you're not sure if this chick is even telling you the truth. HAVE YOUR FACTS straight before you go and do anything. If there's a shread of doubt in your mind that she's telling you the truth, you'll cause yourself even more trouble if you try and intervene and do something about it. If I may ask, why is it you think she's not being 100% honest with you about this incident?

LISTEN TO THIS ADVICE. MrBD knows what he is talking about.
No matter how much this guy might deserve anything you can imagine dishing out, it is NOT worth fucking up your own life to do it. If you do anything serious to him, you can bet he will report it to the police, and the next thing you know, you will be the one in police custody -- not him. Of course rapists deserve punishment, we all totally agree on this. But don't try to do it yourself. The best revenge is the most thorough. Get your girl to go to the cops and encourage her to file charges against him. Use the law to get the guy.

Now, about your girl. You know the best way to make her feel terrible? That would be for you to indulge yourself in going after this guy. She already told you that she does NOT want that to happen, and if it does, it will just add to the stress and horror she feels about the rape. So do both of you a favor, and drop your ideas of personal revenge. Encourage her to seek help, both counseling and by reporting this guy to the cops. She will thank you for behaving in a mature way and helping her get through this, rather than making it worse.

 

[NSF001]

Hey man I am terribly sorry to hearwhat happened to your gf. I can agree with your feelings, personally I definitely agree with a confrontation. I don't imply it get physical or highly emotional, but getting the facts right is imperative. I once had a gf who was in a situation where something close to what happened with your gf could have happened. She didn't let me help her and I felt like sh*t knowing that I could have made it easier for her. I judged myself as a coward for whatever reason. I would redo my actions if I could. At any rate, best of luck, and don't do anything irrational. Emotionally volitale times are terrible for making decision.

 

[Batwoman]

Hey, since when is this about YOU? I really don't care if any of you guys feel that your "courage" or "manliness" is threatened if your girl gets raped. SHE was the rape victim!!!!! SHE should come first! Yes, you may feel like a victim to, and in a way you are -- crimes like this affect everyone close to the victim. I agree with that. But IT IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE TO PUT YOUR FEELINGS AHEAD OF HERS when a girl gets raped. You want to know what courage is? It is supporting your girl and helping her through a really horrible time, not indulging your own need to be macho by confronting her attacker. All that will do is make it worse for her. Do you really need to do that to feel like a man? I hope not.

 

[The Maul]

OK, here's my issue. First off, IF this truly did happen to her, I'm horribly sorry and the guy that did it needs to be held accountable and punished to the fullest extent of the law. I know it's easy to say that you want to go over there and feed him his cock for breakfast and I honestly don't blame you, I'd feel the same way. BUT, DO NOT take the law into your own hands! I work for the local courthouse and I see this sh*t on a daily basis and the person who ends up taking the law into his or her own hands always ends up in jail needing their own attorney. If this guy did it, get the police involved and let them handle it. As much as us good guys like to play the cowboy and whip the sh*t out of some asshole like that, the law tends to frown upon that.

The other thing here that concerns me is you above statement, that you're not sure if this chick is even telling you the truth. HAVE YOUR FACTS straight before you go and do anything. If there's a shread of doubt in your mind that she's telling you the truth, you'll cause yourself even more trouble if you try and intervene and do something about it. If I may ask, why is it you think she's not being 100% honest with you about this incident?

Normally I would advise you the most violent way to deal with this but seeing as how you dont even know what happened or if anything did in fact happen im going to have to agree with BD on this one

 

[NSF001]

Hey, since when is this about YOU? I really don't care if any of you guys feel that your "courage" or "manliness" is threatened if your girl gets raped. SHE was the rape victim!!!!! SHE should come first! Yes, you may feel like a victim to, and in a way you are -- crimes like this affect everyone close to the victim. I agree with that. But IT IS TOTALLY UNACCEPTABLE TO PUT YOUR FEELINGS AHEAD OF HERS when a girl gets raped. You want to know what courage is? It is supporting your girl and helping her through a really horrible time, not indulging your own need to be macho by confronting her attacker. All that will do is make it worse for her. Do you really need to do that to feel like a man? I hope not.

Batwoman, while I agree with where you are coming from, what I didn't say is that I didn't do things for serving a selfish need. My ex later on near the break up insinuated to me that I should have been more aggressive to help her through that. It's then that I revisited my actions.

Apologies if I involuntarily irated you.

 

[millia]

Normally I would advise you to kill the son of a bitch. But we all know the repercussions of that. Don't take violent actions towards him. That would be the worse thing. Get all the facts straight first. And listen to everyone else's advice as well.
My current girlfriend told me she got raped her freshman year in high school (~4 years ago) and I wanted to go kill the mother fucker still. I hate that sh*t.
Let me know if this guy is ever traveling to florida 0

 

[Magneto]

Mr BD I know women can be total scheming bitches at times, my ex who I was with for 5 yrs did the scheming sh*t on me but wat I tried to say is that no matter wat they do a man should not lay a finger on em. The other thing is that its not abt courage or manliness being questioned. As a man I feel the need to protect my woman. But yeah violence is not the way forward! But then the legal route is not too appealing. He may get away with it n plus u gotta put her through the ordeal of a trial! I think if u went over to his n scared him a lil n just shoved a broomstick up his ass he will realise wat he put her through n I Dnt thnk he would wna tell anyone wat happened!