Very complex question, JohnPop, that would bring up a bunch of other philosophical questions. It would take someone with much more writing competence than I to get those ideas across.
But would I have sex if I didn't feel the orgasm? Yeah I would. I actually imagine the world would be a better place today if that was the case. Right now, we subconsciously perpetuate things, rather than consciously, so we lose our control to manage ourselves. That is the reason we have over-population and disenfranchisement. Over-population creates war and conflict.
But I believe there are better sensations than the orgasm. You know you can get to a peak and just plateau and rather than collapse, then you can go up again to another peak and plateau rather than collapse. People that have multiple orgasms are good at holding the energy in rather than letting it disperse. But orgasming is not the main concern at all for me.
Huh? So my female body has been faking orgasms for me so as to avoid conflict? What on earth are you talking about?
Batwoman, men's body will orgasm as well to avoid damaging it's member or for lubrication. This is one reason for premature ejaculation and how it is made worse by self-abusive masturbation. Who is to say that is not the same thing happening with women, but the nature of the defensive orgasm would be for different reasons and with different mechanisms. The thing is the more you orgasm defensively, it's not healthy. Orgasming when fully warmed up for a woman is healthy, but also not orgasming but experiencing something that is similar to what most woman call an orgasm may be healthier. The body is a separate entity, it may do things to defend itself against others and also defend it's self against bad habits and self-abuse.
PS: All I'm doing is explaining a perspective. Everyone has different perspectives. I'm not saying I hold this perspective entirely, but I believe that this point of view does exist and should be respected, just as orgasm-lovers should be respected as well. I think orgasming is great at times and with the right partner. Just I think people that don't orgasm shouldn't be mislead that the orgasm is the landmark for sexual pleasure. It is not the landmark for sexual pleasure. And orgasms are different. Not all are the same. Just because someone orgasmed doesn't mean it was good. What is happening here is people being simply conditioned to believe the orgasm or a sensation is good, I can pour boiling water over my left hand and it feels orgasmic, does that mean that it is good or worthy of being a goal. Maybe if I conditioned myself and everyone was talking about oh yeah "I poured boiling water over my left hand 6 times last night, it was so good". It's just mental conditioning. And it's basically peer pressure.
Masturbation may or not be defensive orgasm, you know to categorize something so firm like this is not realistic, everyone is partial everything is a mix. So what we are looking for then is the end goal. The end goal is health and happiness, if that is achieved through the sexual act, then it is a good thing, and that is the category it should be put in. But that being said orgasm is not the ultimate sexual means of health and happiness, I know from experience. Over analyzing ourselves sometimes makes it hard to experience life the fullest. All the best.
Orgasm is good for girls; it's everything everyone makes it out to be. I think it's a good goal. But it also isn't, it just depends on the details and the circumstance. When too many people embrace a concept without thinking about all the edges or the mechanism behind it, it causes problems for some.
