Getting your Ex back

[NeedGirthBad]

Hello Forum,

I have a time tested question that probably has been brought up here many times... but here it is again: How can I get my ex to either get back with me and/or sleep with me again?

Some useful information:

1) We just recently broke up after a pretty huge fight but somehow we are still on talking terms.
2) We had been together a few days less than a year when we broke up
3) She's not seeing anyone else or interested in any other guy atm
4) She still accepts presents from me?
5) Things are still a little rough and awkward since the fight happened Thursday.
6) She's a very prideful person
7) We haven't been sleeping together much recently

Is it possible to break through this awkward cycle and get her back into my arms/bed? (Please no moral crap guys)

Thanks

 

[closeed258]

Get on your hands and knees and beg!!

 

[mistydawn]

This is a question I think all of us have asked. IF you are wanting to get back into a relationship. Just ask her to get back together. If you know you hurt her, and are genuine, tell her you are sorry for hurting her and is there anything you can do to make it right.

If you just want sex, go find someone else.

 

[NeedGirthBad]

This is a question I think all of us have asked. IF you are wanting to get back into a relationship. Just ask her to get back together. If you know you hurt her, and are genuine, tell her you are sorry for hurting her and is there anything you can do to make it right.

If you just want sex, go find someone else.

Hmm,

It might be too soon to ask to get back together but it is definitely something I want to consider. I don't want only sex, but I feel like catering towards her physical desires (or reigniting them) will help my chances of future success in getting her back. The attraction level between us has definitely decreased because of all the recent fighting and annoyances. I guess I just want to turn her on and generate attraction and fond feelings again.

 

[GTO]

This is a question I think all of us have asked. IF you are wanting to get back into a relationship. Just ask her to get back together. If you know you hurt her, and are genuine, tell her you are sorry for hurting her and is there anything you can do to make it right.

If you just want sex, go find someone else.

This actually is the simplest way you can go on this - and the one that makes the most sense.

 

[BigO]

stop talking to her, I dont mean be nasty or anything like that. tell her how you feel about her and give her the option to get back with you. If she doesnt take you back then stop talking to her, when some one knows you want them and they can call you at their convenience it puts it all in there control.
If you stop being there for her under her conditions and dont talk to her you will know with in one week if she wants you back or not. if she doesnt you avoided being a begging fool but if she does want you she will call.
This does not work if you give in and call her, remember you are not trying to be an ass, tell her you love her but your not playing games, dont be mean, be honest and then stick to the plan. Trust me.

 

[BigO]

This is a question I think all of us have asked. IF you are wanting to get back into a relationship. Just ask her to get back together. If you know you hurt her, and are genuine, tell her you are sorry for hurting her and is there anything you can do to make it right.

If you just want sex, go find someone else.

This is the other option, mine basically follows this,
Misty is saying tell her you love her and you want to fix it, Im saying if it doesnt work, wait it out

 

[NeedGirthBad]

stop talking to her, I dont mean be nasty or anything like that. tell her how you feel about her and give her the option to get back with you. If she doesnt take you back then stop talking to her, when some one knows you want them and they can call you at their convenience it puts it all in there control.
If you stop being there for her under her conditions and dont talk to her you will know with in one week if she wants you back or not. if she doesnt you avoided being a begging fool but if she does want you she will call.
This does not work if you give in and call her, remember you are not trying to be an ass, tell her you love her but your not playing games, dont be mean, be honest and then stick to the plan. Trust me.

Thanks guys,

I suppose it wouldn't be so bad to say my piece and let her come to me. But I guess a good part of me feels like I owe her something in the sense that it's my job as a man to make her want to get back with me by creating a sense of passion. I know she will miss me and will eventually call, it's always been that way. But considering where we are at now I can't help but want to "sweep her off her feet" again.

 

[BigO]

You can definately try that first, my suggestion is for when you feel as if shes taking advantage of the situation. Dont go over there or call though, try sending her some flowers with a little letter telling her you love her.'
What you dont want to do is keep calling and going there, that is not good. You can also leave her a letter on her car window, there are many little romantic ideas to try but do it in a way that she sees you love her, just dont be convenient fr a couple of days.
I wish you the best, I have been there before. Nothing worth having comes without a little effort and sometimes even a little pain, Ive been with my wife for 14 years and at times shes made my life crazy but in the end Id take it all 100 times over to have her in my life for one more day.
Try the sweep mode, let her know you love her and if it requires it be gone for a bit. She sounds like shes worth it!

 

[mistydawn]

Hmm,

It might be too soon to ask to get back together but it is definitely something I want to consider. I don't want only sex, but I feel like catering towards her physical desires (or reigniting them) will help my chances of future success in getting her back. The attraction level between us has definitely decreased because of all the recent fighting and annoyances. I guess I just want to turn her on and generate attraction and fond feelings again.

I have read all the responses and Bigopimp has given some good imput. I agree with the path of not contacting her and see what happens. I am basically doing that myself right now.

From what you said above, your thinking is coming at it going for her sex, her physical desires. And you think this will help with getting her back. This is female thinking. Weird to hear a guy saying this, unless the truth is that you really want the sex.

 

[Panther]

Misty I still think your first answer was best. Straight forward and no head games.

Think about this, would you rather be right or happy?

 

[NP97]

Ask her back, if she says no don't talk to her anymore.
Distance yourself, because right now this breakup is probably far easier on her than it is you. Especially if you're still talking and giving her things. You're allowing her to ween herself off of you.
So ask her back out, if yes then great. If no, then whatever. Don't contact her. Maybe she'll come back, maybe she won't. You'll be fine either way if you cut all ties.

 

[NeedGirthBad]

An update:

For the past few days I've been pretty much doing my own thing. I'll answer if she calls but I'm not making any attempts to contact her myself. It's not hard but there are moments when I wish I could just talk to her. Is waiting it out really the only option? She's already telling people we broke up should that be a sign that she has no intention of getting back with me? Or is it too soon to know and I still have to wait for the air to clear for a while?

 

[ManWithPlan]

If you love her and really wants to get her back (not just for sex), then be honest and talk to her. Be sincere and honest to her and to yourself, don't play these head games.

If you just want to fuck her before you can catch another girl, then I don't know.

 

[islander]

I agree with Misty and bigs post.

In no way do I mean to hurt with this statement but if the sex was losing steam due to arguing then it would be difficult to lure her back with sex. Since you did not tell her how you felt she is now protecting herself and annoucing you guys broke up. Tell her asap or let it go.

Good luck and I am sorry this is happening.

 

[NeedGirthBad]

I think there is a slight misunderstanding...

I just thought that returning some of the physical elements of our relationship could make her emotionally less rigid. It's not that I just want to have sex with her or that the sex was dying. It's neither. The relationship was just really rough for the past month and it hit it's boiling point.

Right now I'm trying to remedy the situation. She knows how I feel. But you're right she is protecting herself. Knowing who she is as a person the more I push the more she will pull in the opposite direction. But at the same time our relationship was always built on my pulling her back in. This time I'm not doing that and I don't know if that's to my advantage or my detriment. My real goal is to keep her in my life. A bonus would be having a relationship with her again. But it's really hard. When I was just talking to her and just being cool and acting like friends she called me clingy and was getting upset all the time. When in reality she was the one contacting me a majority of the time. Now I've stopped and i'm in noway doing anything that can be perceived as "clingy" in hopes that she'll come around at some point.

I feel like I have to wait for that very small window when she has softened up on her anger or discontent with me but she still hasn't quite moved on and at that point I can make my move. I feel like talking to her now and trying to force my feelings on her will only make me come off as needy and have the opposite effect of what I want.

Too complicated? Not worth the effort? Good Idea?

 

[islander]

Honestly it totally sucks when one loves and wants someone more than that someone can handle or wants in return.
She may have just been unable to let you go before so the argument, maybe it was bad enough to force her mind to allow her to stay away, gave her a good reason.
It hurts I am sure but if you can not answer her calls on the first try and give her some time maybe you are meant to be together.
But she is in control of this right now and is used to you doing most of the work. She needs to want it, want you. Its what you need and should want too. Try to step back as hard as that will be.
Stinks

 

[NeedGirthBad]

Honestly it totally sucks when one loves and wants someone more than that someone can handle or wants in return.
She may have just been unable to let you go before so the argument, maybe it was bad enough to force her mind to allow her to stay away, gave her a good reason.
It hurts I am sure but if you can not answer her calls on the first try and give her some time maybe you are meant to be together.
But she is in control of this right now and is used to you doing most of the work. She needs to want it, want you. Its what you need and should want too. Try to step back as hard as that will be.
Stinks

She just emailed me and asked "I guess now you're completely ignoring me?"

Ahhhhhhh!

 

[NP97]

She just emailed me and asked "I guess now you're completely ignoring me?"

Ahhhhhhh!

Ignore the email. If she calls you can answer, but keep it short. Try and let the phone ring until it almost hits voicemail.
Don't talk to her, let her come to you.

 

[NeedGirthBad]

Ignore the email. If she calls you can answer, but keep it short. Try and let the phone ring until it almost hits voicemail.
Don't talk to her, let her come to you.

Thanks,

I did that. Then she started Iming me. "Dude..." "ok nevermind" signs off. signs in. "hello?" "are u there?". Then I responded "boss is here"

I hope i'm playing this right. I don't like games I really don't. But she's a little stubborn so......

I am getting the desired result, right?