Finally lost my virginity!
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Okay this is getting a little fucked up. The same night this girl said she got a hotel room for us, I was approached by another female customer and asked if I wanted to hang. I turned her down because even if it's just FWB two timing seems like a really shady thing to do for me. Fast forward to today and this chick is back. She again asked if I wanted to hang out after I'm done working. I sort of agreed but not quite and she wants to "party" with me when I get off at midnight.
Here's what's bugging me. The first girl is overweight which is kind of a turn off for me, but she has a nice personality as well as a cute face, and we share a lot of common interests. The girl that wants to hang with me tonight is slim with a good looking body and cute as well. Honestly, I'd chill with her without a second thought if the first girl weren't in the picture.
Even though I just have FWB with the first girl, it would feel like a betrayal if I did anything with this other chick that I find more attractive. She suffers from horribly low self esteem as it is. She's basically infertile which makes her undesirable to a lot of men who want kids, myself included.
I want to go with this second chick, but it just seems like it would be a really fucked up thing to do. The first chick is okay with our FWB arrangement, but she has all but said I'm the perfect guy for her.
And I swear I'm not making any of this sh*t up. I was utterly surprised when just as I made arrangements to spend a night with the first girl, I'm approached by a second one who judging by her demeanor and mannerisms probably wants to mess around, and now she's back gunning for me again. I feel stuck.
Here's what's bugging me. The first girl is overweight which is kind of a turn off for me, but she has a nice personality as well as a cute face, and we share a lot of common interests. The girl that wants to hang with me tonight is slim with a good looking body and cute as well. Honestly, I'd chill with her without a second thought if the first girl weren't in the picture.
Even though I just have FWB with the first girl, it would feel like a betrayal if I did anything with this other chick that I find more attractive. She suffers from horribly low self esteem as it is. She's basically infertile which makes her undesirable to a lot of men who want kids, myself included.
I want to go with this second chick, but it just seems like it would be a really fucked up thing to do. The first chick is okay with our FWB arrangement, but she has all but said I'm the perfect guy for her.
And I swear I'm not making any of this sh*t up. I was utterly surprised when just as I made arrangements to spend a night with the first girl, I'm approached by a second one who judging by her demeanor and mannerisms probably wants to mess around, and now she's back gunning for me again. I feel stuck.
But on a serious note, you made it clear to her you wanted to be friends with benefits, not exclusive. If she gets her feelings up that's her fault for hurting herself. Sex does not mean you owe her any emotions, and just because she wants you does not mean you have to spare your enjoyment in life to baby her emotions.
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When it rains, it pours...funny how that happens, isn't it? 
Based on what you have written, I have to agree with TheHardFlaccid. You both agreed to a FWB arrangement with no indication of exclusivity therefore you are free to see others; just as she is.
It is admirable that you have concerns for your FWB feelings but her low self-esteem issues are not your responsibility to repair. And if you remain with her simply out of guilt or obligation (for losing your virginity with her), you will likely grow to resent her and that is not fair to either of you. If FWB wanted a serious relationship with you, she needed to tell you that upfront and allow you to make that choice. She didn't; therefore you are not the only one accountable here.
Besides, you may spend time with the second girl and discover you two really don't "click" after all but you won't know that until you spend a bit of time with her.
If it is really bothering you, then perhaps you can let your FWB knows what's going on although with a FWB relationship you are not really obligated.
Whatever happens; be sure to use protection. Always.
Based on what you have written, I have to agree with TheHardFlaccid. You both agreed to a FWB arrangement with no indication of exclusivity therefore you are free to see others; just as she is.
It is admirable that you have concerns for your FWB feelings but her low self-esteem issues are not your responsibility to repair. And if you remain with her simply out of guilt or obligation (for losing your virginity with her), you will likely grow to resent her and that is not fair to either of you. If FWB wanted a serious relationship with you, she needed to tell you that upfront and allow you to make that choice. She didn't; therefore you are not the only one accountable here.
Besides, you may spend time with the second girl and discover you two really don't "click" after all but you won't know that until you spend a bit of time with her.
If it is really bothering you, then perhaps you can let your FWB knows what's going on although with a FWB relationship you are not really obligated.
Whatever happens; be sure to use protection. Always.
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Exactly.
If a man is sleeping with a woman, he doesn't owe her feelings.
If a man has mutual feelings with a woman, she doesn't owe him sex.
If a man is sleeping with a woman, he doesn't owe her feelings.
If a man has mutual feelings with a woman, she doesn't owe him sex.
When it rains, it pours...funny how that happens, isn't it?
Based on what you have written, I have to agree with TheHardFlaccid. You both agreed to a FWB arrangement with no indication of exclusivity therefore you are free to see others; just as she is.
It is admirable that you have concerns for your FWB feelings but her low self-esteem issues are not your responsibility to repair. And if you remain with her simply out of guilt or obligation (for losing your virginity with her), you will likely grow to resent her and that is not fair to either of you. If FWB wanted a serious relationship with you, she needed to tell you that upfront and allow you to make that choice. She didn't; therefore you are not the only one accountable here.
Besides, you may spend time with the second girl and discover you two really don't "click" after all but you won't know that until you spend a bit of time with her.
If it is really bothering you, then perhaps you can let your FWB knows what's going on although with a FWB relationship you are not really obligated.
Whatever happens; be sure to use protection. Always.
Great advice above from TPW....
I understand where your coming from though. You've got a good heart.
You guys are right. I told her early on that I'm not looking for commitment; that if we have anything with each other I'd just be looking for friends with benefits and she agreed to that.
Here's the thing though. She's convinced no guy will ever want her due to her infertility issues and whatever else. Even if we are just friends with benefits, I still care about her as a person and I don't want to hurt her. If I do this and she finds out, it'll just be another nail in her proverbial coffin.
I've decided to go with this chick if she comes back at midnight like she said she would and see what her game is. I'm on my guard though.
Here's the thing though. She's convinced no guy will ever want her due to her infertility issues and whatever else. Even if we are just friends with benefits, I still care about her as a person and I don't want to hurt her. If I do this and she finds out, it'll just be another nail in her proverbial coffin.
I've decided to go with this chick if she comes back at midnight like she said she would and see what her game is. I'm on my guard though.
And TPW, you're so right. When it rains it pours. Like I said, all this time wanting a FWB, and then when this girl arranges a hotel room for us, I get approached out of the blue. So weird!
She placed the nail in her own feelings. Do what you want, she had her chance to speak her mind both before the commitment and after it started.
Yeah...I know exactly how you're feeling. It sucks. Been there, done that. She's gonna hurt.
So the second chick never showed. Not surprised really.
First chick is now having second thoughts. Says she is getting too attached to me and doesn't know if she wants to continue things as they are. I told her to do whatever makes her happiest and I will respect her decision whatever it is.
I find that getting some pussy has rather altered how I look at other women now. I find myself flirting a lot more with the pretty ones. I have plans to go to a bar next week where a few small time metal bands will be playing. I might try to find someone there who's up for a bit of fun since it seems that FWB may not continue with this girl.
First chick is now having second thoughts. Says she is getting too attached to me and doesn't know if she wants to continue things as they are. I told her to do whatever makes her happiest and I will respect her decision whatever it is.
I find that getting some pussy has rather altered how I look at other women now. I find myself flirting a lot more with the pretty ones. I have plans to go to a bar next week where a few small time metal bands will be playing. I might try to find someone there who's up for a bit of fun since it seems that FWB may not continue with this girl.
So hey guys, what is sex typically supposed to feel like? She's my first so I have no basis for comparison. I've noticed the entrance is tight enough that depending on how hard I am I sometimes have to try a few times to get in, but once I'm in, it just feels warm, wet, and soft. It doesn't seem to grip like I thought it would. Feels nice, but the only time I really seem to feel any significant pleasure is during orgasm. Just curious.
The whole experience should be pleasurable, at times more so, but not just orgasm. Your on a roll with the ladies now so perhaps start working on increasing your prowess in the bedroom. This is the perfect place to do so.
That's what thought. I fucked her twice yesterday and both times, it simply felt soft and warm like I said. It didn't really feel good like I expected it to, except for orgasm.
And this time I had no nerves or stress from PE to worry about either, so I'm wondering if she has what is called a loose pussy?
No she hasn't, vagina's are extremely accommodating. As a general rule, the "looser" it feels, the better job you are doing
