Over the past year it seems that all the ladies I take out on dates are a on the Thick side. And back in late last year I was about to have sex with my date however seeing her nude body with her large tummy totally killed it for me. I just told her that I had jerked off a few times before seeing her that evening. In hopes of not hurting her feelings. This past weekend I met up with this lady I've been talking with she made it clear that she wanted sex. However at the same issues Where, i was giving her a massage and stepped away to take sexvoltz after 20min. at 1st I could not get hard, Then after talking to her about I was able to get an erection and have sex. It was very unsatisfying And I did not not Cum. She was offended at 1st because I could not get hard. I get erections daily and are on my way to a toned healthy body. Does anyone else have this issue with obese women?
Fat tummy = Erection Killer !!!
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Yes it happened to me once. I was drunk and she was overweight. Maby it was a combo of alcohol, her size, me just coming out of a 5-year relationship, she being lazy and non-responsive in bed and lastly, me using porn on a regular basis and used to rely on that for an erection. I don`t know, it was that one time, but she is the only I have been with I would call overweight, but not obese, and I can like a bit of tummy on a girl. I think some girls look good skinny, others look good with a little extra. But dude, if it doesn`t turn you on, it doesn`t turn you on, you shouldn`t force it. But I get the problem if it is a girl you really like and want to be with, then you need to find her sexy qualities and learn to love them.
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If you're not sexually attracted to a person then yes of course that would cause problems in the bedroom, and like squirtle said, if overweight women aren't your thing then stop dating them if they are going to cause you problems. All down to personal preference.
Fat was once a sign of beauty in women. For example in ancient Roman times it was very desirable. You have to admit that the nice soft body of heavier girls is very pleasant to lie down on. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and the perception of it is all in your mind and very transitory. If you're into art you'll see nude drawings from the middle ages of women that were mostly all BBW's. In your case I'd recommend slimmer women. Have you ever watched Shallow Hal?
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now, I can't say I've ever been turned off by larger women...
What I can say is that TOO large is a problem from a physical standpoint. My arms are not long enough to go around the sides of them and causes me to lay atop them.
Damn I'm glad I'm not that shallow... it would suck if I couldn't perform unless the girl was skinny... I don't like skinny chicks. They hurt.
I've had all sizes, from tiny/bony/model-type girls up to just damn large. i REALLY like the middle of the road. Anything that graces a magazine cover is too skinny for me.
http://pinkmsg.wordpress.com/2010/03/31/size-8-12-or-14/
The Far Right would be my choice. Middle is alright, but I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to her.
What I can say is that TOO large is a problem from a physical standpoint. My arms are not long enough to go around the sides of them and causes me to lay atop them.
Damn I'm glad I'm not that shallow... it would suck if I couldn't perform unless the girl was skinny... I don't like skinny chicks. They hurt.
I've had all sizes, from tiny/bony/model-type girls up to just damn large. i REALLY like the middle of the road. Anything that graces a magazine cover is too skinny for me.
http://pinkmsg.wordpress.com/2010/03/31/size-8-12-or-14/
The Far Right would be my choice. Middle is alright, but I wouldn't go out of my way to talk to her.
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Thank you for posting that picture the one on the far right size 14 is one I find sexy. However when I say Fat tummy I mean rolls not just thick.
She even asked me if it was because of her. To which I replied "no", which was a lie, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings, and would rather have her think I have issues then risk hurting her body image.
Why try to force yourself to sleep with women you are not attracted too? This isnt a problem that needs solving. Its funny how the male mind works sometimes. "Hmmm I dont enjoy it but its still sex. I need to figure out how I can make my body willing to have more of it."
Dude solution is easy dont date obese women.
I mean it can not be that hard to imagine what a woman looks like underneath their clothes right?
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Dr. Oz just said that the belly and lack thereof is the key to preventing erectile dysfunction. I
agree with him wholeheartedly. I am working hard to get rid of my sagging belly. So far I have lost 20
pounds, and my goal is 20 more.
agree with him wholeheartedly. I am working hard to get rid of my sagging belly. So far I have lost 20
pounds, and my goal is 20 more.
As the others have said you should stop picking heavier women if its not your thing.are you doing that subconciensely because you feel you cant seal the deal with thinner,possibly more attractive bodied ladies? Or because your not body isnt like a underwear models? Just throwing some suggestion out there
Btw from that link my preferences are 14 12 8
Btw from that link my preferences are 14 12 8
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As a female who has extra curves and a belly at this point in time.
I recommend you 1)start watching the chubby and or bww porn (i mean if you watch porn )The more you watch it the less offensive fat will become to you. the more you will realize that sexy comes in all shapes. You don't have to get a boner or get off to it. you just have to watch it and become familiar with different body types 2) start looking around at couples and random people picture what they would look like having sex 3) take a careful look at yourself and figure out what your fears are and why you feel fat girls aren't good enough for you sexually. 4) don't get intimate with females till you feel you can look past any extra giggle they have.
I am not going to say don't date thick girls because you could end up missing out on a great relationship.. but i will say step back a little and work it out before you hurt someone self confidence and esteem..body put downs are very hard to bounce back from. Being told you are undesirable is heartbreaking.Men have many fears when it comes to sex but so do women and being rejected based on body is a fear that is shared by both sexes. Why do you think most females want to have sex with the light off.
Why do you choose these ladies? There must be attraction if you are wanting to fuck them yes? or no?
I recommend you 1)start watching the chubby and or bww porn (i mean if you watch porn
)The more you watch it the less offensive fat will become to you. the more you will realize that sexy comes in all shapes. You don't have to get a boner or get off to it. you just have to watch it and become familiar with different body types 2) start looking around at couples and random people picture what they would look like having sex 3) take a careful look at yourself and figure out what your fears are and why you feel fat girls aren't good enough for you sexually. 4) don't get intimate with females till you feel you can look past any extra giggle they have.I am not going to say don't date thick girls because you could end up missing out on a great relationship.. but i will say step back a little and work it out before you hurt someone self confidence and esteem..body put downs are very hard to bounce back from. Being told you are undesirable is heartbreaking.Men have many fears when it comes to sex but so do women and being rejected based on body is a fear that is shared by both sexes. Why do you think most females want to have sex with the light off.
Why do you choose these ladies? There must be attraction if you are wanting to fuck them yes? or no?
I didnt have a choice I married the woman I love and she had our 3 kids. Now she has a belly but she's still as cute as ever to me. If its really the belly alone and not some combination of personal anxiety Id say stay away from thicker women.
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Too big can be an issue, but I personally like most any type of girl. Don't go for chicks you aren't attracted too just to have sex with someone.
As a female who has extra curves and a belly at this point in time.
I recommend you 1)start watching the chubby and or bww porn (i mean if you watch porn
I am not going to say don't date thick girls because you could end up missing out on a great relationship.. but i will say step back a little and work it out before you hurt someone self confidence and esteem..body put downs are very hard to bounce back from. Being told you are undesirable is heartbreaking.Men have many fears when it comes to sex but so do women and being rejected based on body is a fear that is shared by both sexes. Why do you think most females want to have sex with the light off.
Why do you choose these ladies? There must be attraction if you are wanting to fuck them yes? or no?
All good advice there,
One thing guys tend to do is read maxim, playboy, or watch MTV or whatever you like and get a warped sense of the realism that is female. most women are soft and beautifully soft. a "roll" isn't anything more than skin. it's not slimey or gross, it's wonderfully soft skin that is as sensitive as it is soft. Getting to understand that is something most guys never really give a chance.
In this case I would say porn could help you program your brain to be turned on by all manner of women.
And yes, body image affects men and women equally. I've been on the other end of it, and not feeling 'good enough' because your then-current partner would always make eyes at or talk highly about some well built, tall, attractive guy. Sh*t beats your self-esteem down.
And yes, TOO big can be a logistical issue. for me my arms aren't long enough for some women (i end up just laying on top of the because I can hold myself up, but i'm not turned off by them.)
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