Erectile Dysfunction never goes away.

[Strekoza]

Hey guys I wrote to you about 4 months ago and got some very helpful responses. You recommended I begin the JP90 routine for my ED and I completed it, still do it to this day. I just purchased a Penomet pump several weeks ago and began using it few minutes in the shower every day and even as a warm up before my JP90 exercises.
I also went through Nofap and made it 74 days.
Anyways, it's been a while and I haven't been able to see anyone since my ex cheated on me last November. Finally, just started seeing this girl and she is so perfect in every way, innocent and a virgin (extremely tight). I just couldn't get it hard enough for her no matter how much I tried, my erections were extremely weak and I even tried Cialis, it did nothing... When I tried to put the condom on I instantly went flaccid, always hated those things.
Guys please help, I'm only 22 and already feel like I am running out of options.
I feel horrible about it.

 

[CUSP82]

Too much anxiety! Maybe you should talk to someone like a therapist? It can't hurt.

 

[Strekoza]

CUSP82, thanks for your quick response! I didn't mention that I have been seeing a therapist who claims to also be a certified sex therapist for about 6 months now on a weekly basis.
Also, I didn't mention that I've been battling a chronic disease for about 8 years now, that just never seems to get better. It has some effect, but I was able to have sex with my ex and other girls prior so I don't think that is fully the problem.

 

[Tamora]

What do YOU think the problem is?

 

[jockinthebox]

Overcoming PORN takes a LOT of conviction and fortitude. Re-boot and start over with the AP90 Group. Also, make edging a key part of your rehab, to train yourself to anticipate your body's signals (IK's) better when approaching PONR. I'm no expert on this as admittedly, I've never been addicted to PORN, nor had pre-E, but let me assure you, many members have, and have also overcome them both with guidance and support you'll only get by being more active around here. I suggest you contact longerlastingnoob for more specific help.

Also, no one's here to judge you! Every WISE member comes to the PE GYM bare-naked (LOL), and that's good! We can't help you if you're not honest or are witholding key information about your condition(s). Guys come here 99+% of the time with some problem; seeking advice on everything from an addiction of varying origins, to ED, or EQ decline, or libido or pre-E problems, or sexual anxiety, or relationship issues, or WANTING A BIGGER DICK:becky:, or...the list is endless! Not only endless, but some guys suffer from MORE THAN ONE of these issues.

My point is, you're not going to defeat any issue, no matter what it is, if you only have 3 posts since April. We're not going to "e-chase" you to help you find answers. That's your job. Post, ask questions, be active, and a positive influence for other members. Friend UP! when you discover a member here struggling with similar problems as you. More than likely, he'll be willing to help, and have another partner on-board to help him along when he needs support. Nobody's here that didn't come for a valid reason. No, we're not doctors, nor practicing professionals in any medical field, but we can offer a wealth of practical experience and advice...ALL ABSOLUTELY FREE! So take advantage of it! We're not going to chase you away (unless you're a TROLL), and MOST of us DON"T BITE (myself excluded):becky:!

 

[corageon]

Hey guys I wrote to you about 4 months ago and got some very helpful responses. You recommended I begin the JP90 routine for my ED and I completed it, still do it to this day. I just purchased a Penomet pump several weeks ago and began using it few minutes in the shower every day and even as a warm up before my JP90 exercises.
I also went through Nofap and made it 74 days.
Anyways, it's been a while and I haven't been able to see anyone since my ex cheated on me last November. Finally, just started seeing this girl and she is so perfect in every way, innocent and a virgin (extremely tight). I just couldn't get it hard enough for her no matter how much I tried, my erections were extremely weak and I even tried Cialis, it did nothing... When I tried to put the condom on I instantly went flaccid, always hated those things.
Guys please help, I'm only 22 and already feel like I am running out of options.
I feel horrible about it.

Anxiety plays a role. Did your therapist explain exposure-response therapy to you and stress relief techniques?

Do not let your ex's cheating bring you down, if you think about it too much - it will simmer until it bursts through your chest. You don't want that.

Have you had any blood work done?

 

[Strekoza]

Ta53ora, I Feel like the problem is that my whole body is just failing on me completely. My Crohn's disease is always flaring up, constant bleeding is making me anemic I get iron infusions for that. I am deficient in almost every vitamin because I can't absorb any from the foods I eat, had to get them through IV's and just finished injecting myself with B12 every morning. Now I just got diagnosed with Osteoporosis on top of everything even though you need to be at least 35 to even see it, swollen ankles not going away for months so erectile dysfunction shouldn't come as a surprise, right? I should just give up, but I won't at least until I try every single option possible...

jockinthebox, I haven't ever had any problems with porn addiction, if anything it was always a turn off to see another guy fucking the girl I wanted, that would make her undesirable to me. Which is why I didn't want to see anyone until I found myself a kissless virgin, but now I did and the problem remains making me lose hope.

corageon, besides for claiming to be a certified sex therapist we haven't touched that field at all. Just me mentioning that there was a problem throughout every session, I will definitely look into the exposure-response therapy.
Thank you!

 

[Tamora]

You're obviously not happy with your therapist and it's more than a little surprising that you don't know what type of therapy you're receiving. Time for a change maybe?

 

[not2big]

A tight cock ring can maintain an erection. You might want to try one just to see if it helps with your confidence,

 

[Strekoza]

I have tried a dozen of therapists both Russian and American, men and women. They were all like a parking meter, you talk until... Bam! times up, add more money if you'd like to keep talking.
So overall I don't care which one I'm seeing, they have been equally useless. though I will have to seek another one now because this one moved his office too far away from me as of next week.

I have never tried a cock ring, but they seem so dangerous, especially the metal ones. Also, I don't think I would feel too confident knowing that the girl sees me wearing a ring on my cock lol, I personally would find it kind of amusing and wouldn't take it seriously.

 

[closed224]

You need to modify your thinking and behavior. I hear you saying you can use your penis, but not with the woman of your choosing. You talk to your therapist, and then bam out the door and add money to talk more. For some talk therapy is very beneficial. For others, and I see you in this category tools and progressive practice of techniques to modify daily behaviors are needed. Find a therapist trained in Cognitive Behavior Therapy. I think you will benefit from CBT. You will need to work hard on your mind, emotions, and behaviors. Become in the now. Good luck.

 

[Tamora]

Just to add to Wishful's wise words...check out any new potential therapist's credentials just as you would a plumber or a builder. Might also be worth considering seeing a doc about your depression...it's no wonder you "can't get it up" when you are obviously feeling so low about your health issues, etc.

 

[Strekoza]

You guys are right, talk therapy definitely isn't for me. I will try to look for a different approach and I believe I have tried cognitive behavioral several times in my teens, but ended up dropping as I usually would... This time I will give it a chance. Do you guys really think the problem is only mental though? It is very connected to my last breakup which landed me in the psych ward, but it has been almost a year since then, a lot changed and I even took antidepressants for several months to help me get over it.
Also, I was always satisfied with my size, but after having weak erections, no morning wood and trying to resist masturbating for so long I feel like my cock got smaller. Using the Penomet pump is somewhat helping it get back to its normal size, but still not fully the way it used to be. I was seeing some benefits when I started using it, but then I must have overdid it. It became weaker again and had a loss of sensation. Is there like a guide that you would recommend on how to use the pump? I'm still a noob in that field.

 

[Tamora]

You can talk to people on here for free...talk is cheap. Find yourself a "professional" therapist that your happy with and can trust after thoroughly checking their credentials. You may have to deal with some "tough love" on your road to recovery, so you have to face your fears and not "drop out".

I'm not a mental health professional (both my parents were) but my advice to you would be to cross one bridge at a time..."slowly, slowly catchy monkey" as we say in the UK. Find peace within yourself and learn to live with your health condition...you know as well as I do that there is no cure as yet. Us men aren't that good at multitasking and you may well just find that your sexual problems are relieved, if not cured, along the way.

One step at a time.

 

[jackjohnson]

1. I believe antidepressants can cause erectile dysfunction : Managing Antidepressant Sexual Side Effects

2. You might not be taking a large enough dose of Cialis

3. Don't be hesitant to try a cock ring. There is a member by the name of gyrta who only fucks with a cock ring on because it makes his girth bigger. https://www.pegym.com/forums/progress-forum/10790-creating-perfect-penis-[-pics]-65.html

You don't need a metal cock ring. They sell rubber stretchy ones, that is the one gyrta uses to destroy vaginas.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/member...g-today-but-could-only-capture-6-0-camera.jpg

4. Get your testosterone levels checked. Your health issues and medication may have interacted adversely.

 

[corageon]

1. I believe antidepressants can cause erectile dysfunction : Managing Antidepressant Sexual Side Effects

2. You might not be taking a large enough dose of Cialis

3. Don't be hesitant to try a cock ring. There is a member by the name of gyrta who only fucks with a cock ring on because it makes his girth bigger. https://www.pegym.com/forums/progress-forum/10790-creating-perfect-penis-[-pics]-65.html

You don't need a metal cock ring. They sell rubber stretchy ones, that is the one gyrta uses to destroy vaginas.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/member...g-today-but-could-only-capture-6-0-camera.jpg

4. Get your testosterone levels checked. Your health issues and medication may have interacted adversely.

SSRI's in particular sexual side-effects...but stuff like mianserin, vortioxetine, agomelatine, amineptine and wellbutrin won't cause you any of those side-effects..in fact, those anti-depressants are the most valuable in terms of safety and efficacy.

 

[not2big]

Adamandeve.com offers a nice silicone inexpensive beaded cock ring which is relatively safe to wear. I used it for a few years when my ED started to develop. I now need to use a much tighter Osbon tension band.

 

[not2big]

Adamandeve.com offers a nice silicone beaded cock ring which I used successfully when my ED started to develop. I now need to use a much tighter Osbon tension band.

You need to decide which is more important - appearance or effectiveness.

 

[Jackxxx]

I am very sorry about your condition, and it is interesting because I was going to reply the following:

1. Your Erectile dysfunction is completely psychological
or
2. You suffer from severe nutrient deficiency

In this case, is 2. Your body is depleted on nutrients due to your chronic disease, and unfortunately I am absolutely positive that you have been misled by doctors and taken advantage all these years. No matter how many "specialists" you have seen, your disease is still there. They constantly take money away from, you, prescribe you posion that causes catastrophic side effects in the long term. You haven't seen, nor are seeing the right doctor for that. Your problem is entirely nutrient dependent. It can be managed/reversed with the right nutrition.

How is your diet? Do you consume any gluten at all?
Hows your cholesterol intake? essential fatty acids and good fat?

 

[Strekoza]

jackjohnson, I was on Zoloft for 4 years, however I stopped taking it prior to my last relationship and was able to have a normal sex life. It definitely played a role and I felt like it permanently made my erection quality worse, but never bad enough for me to be unable to have sex. I took Wellbutrin for a few months almost a year after stopping in hopes of reversing the damage Zoloft has caused, but had no such luck.
When I saw my urologist he gave me samples of Cialis 5mg and told me to take half, I took the entire pill and it had no effect on me twice, with two different girls.
I had my testosterone levels checked not long ago and they were actually pretty high (in the 600s) last time.

Jackxxx, I'm keeping an eye on my vitamin levels and the only things I am deficient in is calcium and protein which I am trying to consume as much as possible of, my body just doesn't seem to absorb it. Also have a high white blood cell count which is a normal thing when you have inflammation going on in your body. You are so right, I have never been able to find a good doctor and currently stuck taking steroids and opiate antidiarrheals for years because I have no other options, while I am seeking natural alternatives. I am sure they aren't helping either but I just can't function without both and it hasn't been a problem when I've taken them in the past. Also, I bought Gingko capsules and would really like to try them, but I am so scared that they will make my flare up even worse...
My diet is very limited, gluten free/dairy-free, trying to cool down with the red meat and consume more fish and veggies.