Concern about Size

[Geral]

First of all, I know and I'm sorry that I'm making another one of these threads, I know this question has been asked since forever and people are most likely tired of it at this point.
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Here's the thing, ill try to keep it short...why do people lie about this? Is it for the sake of insecure men? and so that men can well, still be men and not lose there sanity, so that they can continue to date women etc.


I'm average and im insecure about my size, that is why I joined this forum. However for years, I've been doing a lot of reading and getting different opinions on penis size and such. And we all know, that everywhere we go we get the same "Size doesn't matter" or that "Women don't really know about size" or that
"it matters more to men than women and average is fine".

Here's the thing though, all this has been completely blown out of the water after discovering this forum and other penis related forums. Everywhere I go i see the constant story of how "my dick is so big and she loves it big time" kind of story. Now I don't want to sound like im mocking that kind of story, I think its great to see that guys are confident about there size and there sex lives are just fine and/or great.

So what's the deal? women keep contradicting themselves when they talk about penis size, and men see how them being bigger after pe has made intercourse better for their girlfriend/wife. Not to mention things like sex toys and such (which are perfectly respectable) are almost all above the average size in general.
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Like I came here to think hey maybe ill be alright, but I just keep seeing how women and men simply seem to be lying about penis size.
In a way..i don't know its kind of made me more insecure than ever, but of course I wont give up that's why I came here to have a bigger penis.

So here's my humble question, for how long will it take for me to be around the infamous 7 or the uber fantastic 8 and things like that,
will it be years? am i just not man enough for a women because im average? when will I have a penis women want so I can finally have sex? will I be freaking 90 years old by then?

sorry if this seems a bit cold and a bit harsh/rough, im just a bit bummed about the subject to a point where even i'm considering suicide.
its depressing but I guess it just sucks to be the small/average guy...we need more sex toys for us if we're gonna spend our whole life alone...

also how much do prostitutes cost and where to find them if anyone knows....
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Edit: Also I want to apologize cause I know that, because of situations like this, it ruins things for men and women, I think the reason women haven't been able to fully be honest about penis size is cause of insecure men like me and I sincerely apologize, and also to men, I know alot of guys in this forum are well endowed I hope this thread offends no one, and again I apologize very much if I bothered someone, it was never my intention and Im simply looking for an opinion, that is all.

Hope you guys understand.

 

[donjelqer76]

Here's the issue. Size is a completely subjective issue, so there will never be a right or wrong answer. There will also be at least someone out there that will agree with any side of the argument. Personally, I think it's a bit silly to have the issue consume your life as much as it seems to - is it really so bad falling into the same average range that 80% of men fall into?

It's been said again and again that size is simply very low on the list for most women. Reverse roles for a second- if a woman you are interested in has a vagina with average tightness, would you think any different if her vagina was a little too tight or a little too loose? Most guys would say "no.". The only time it may be an issue is if she was absolutely too tight to penetrate, or so loose there was nearly no feeling of penetration at all - and even then your feelings for her may still outweigh the challenges that lie ahead.

None of this is going to put your mind at ease of course, after all it's your own perception of yourself and of women in general driving your insecurities. The only way to overcome them is working on your own self image and sense of self worth.

Not to mention things like sex toys and such (which are perfectly respectable) are almost all above the average size in general.

This is actually not true. The most popular dildoes are normally right in the average range believe it or not.


Good luck. Don't think too hard about this, it's a common hang-up among men (some just to a greater degree)

 

[BossBoy93]

My honest input is that the perfect size is different for everyone. With my girl she always loved our sex and my dick. After I started pe she started loving it even more which has led me to believe that size matters. But also girls cant miss what they have never had so I bet it would be way worse for a guy if his girl had been in a relationship with a monster cock before him and his cock was just average or even worse before average. This is just my opinion on the subject, not trying to make anyone feel bad. Also honestly I believe that if a woman really loves you size will NOT matter.

I had a best friend that was a girl and we had had sex a couple of times. Then she got with this guy and we went back to being best friends. She was telling me how great he was and somehow we got on the subject of size and I found out that I was apparently way bigger but she went on saying how it totally didn't matter and how she loved him. I use to try to get her to have sex with me and she wouldn't. We ended up not being friends anymore because of this.( I know that that was not good of me to do but I really liked this girl and had to try.)

Obviously this is really bothering. Why not save up for surgery or something? When there is a will there is a way, ya know. Some girls have really small vaginas. Ive had some in my experience. I know how this type of thing can fuck with your head. The first time I had sex the girl said I was small and compared my dick to lexington steel's dick. Google Lexington Steele his dick is fucking huge. I was 13 at this time. Imagine how that fucked with my head throughout middle school and high school and even now. I'm 20 now. In the back of my head I will not stop pe until I'm around 10 inches. I don't care what anyone thinks. The idea to have one is too strong, too built into my brain. I don't care if I die trying.

There is no telling how long it will take you to reach your goal. For me I started at either 5.5 or just at 6. Now I'm right at 8. Its been a little over a year maybe and Ive been hard at it. I feel like no one try's and works as hard for it as I do and I believe that's what it takes. PE is on my mind 80 percent of the time I'm awake and when I dream I'm piping a girl with huge dick.

I should be focused on money or something that's going to actually help me in the future but... to each their on. Good luck. I don't want to even imagine what you're going through. My dick is damn near to my goal and I still have problems. Good luck to you bro. Just keep going, that's all that matters in the end

 

[frisson]

Some women like big dicks. Some women prefer average dicks, and some like smaller ones. It's completely subjective.

The only reason why you're reading a lot about women loving the hugeness of a penis on here is because we're a select demographic of well-hung men and, sure enough, we like to have our egos stroked. Women can pick up on this and will comment about how much they love our size just to make us feel mighty. It's really not worth reading into. It's not worth committing suicide over either.

 

[MovingUp]

I'm going to throw out a simile that just popped in my head. It's kinda like being rich, isn't it? Girls will still fall in love with you, enjoy you with your life how it is even if you're no where near rich. But imagine you strike gold somehow and become rich. Of course she's going to enjoy it! and so are you! but this relatively every day girl can't expect to be with someone that is really rich! So even if she was with an ex that was rich and now she's broken up and interested in you, she won't really be too disappointed when she's confirmed that you're not rich, she'll still be happy. Sure she'll reminisce sometimes about that rich boyfriend and the things she did that she can't with you, but she'll still love you and enjoy you for you. There's nothing wrong with trying to get rich, but if it consumes your life then it's an obsession you must balance out and fix.

Hope you get what I'm saying.

Goodluck

 

[Pegasus]

You are on the internet so people tell all sorts of story . Some of the stuuf I read on here is so silly I made a thread, how to boast and brag, so guys could make a better more entertaining stories.
Then you go to a site for penis enlargement and are surprised people are into large penis?

 

[Geral]

@every replier
Sorry guys, this is silly and embarrassing, I don't know why I even made this thread honestly, im just having one of those "feel bad that i dont have a big penis" day,which I know im not the only one that wants to have a bigger penis.

If any mod or something is reading, please delete the thread, im sorry if I offended anyone.

@Pegasus
a some what harsh response or maybe just bit inmature...but no, the subject was related to how women everywhere say size doesn't matter but alot of guys here have seen, with there own eyes, how much they enjoy a bigger penis from there growth etc.
It just makes me feel, that Im not enough, cause im average. I used to think that regardless of me getting into pe, it would not matter to women, but im seeing that it does matter to women, I just didn't want to believe it I guess.
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But im very sorry, if im not allowed to express myself in this forum even if its something that matters to me, to a point to giving me depression.
I don't hate women, at all, and I'm straight, that's why i feel bad I made this thread, I know im more mature than this, and I really apologize. I guess I just have to accept things and hope pe will make me into what women want.

 

[BossBoy93]

Be an alpha bro. That's all I can say. Men don't do what you are doing. Not that you aren't a man, I'm just saying. Not all women want a big dicked man but all women do want a strong man. And I mean strong mentally. You say sorry soooo much bro. That pushes women away, a man that's always depressed or sorry or feeling bad. TAKE CONTROL OF THAT sh*t. You make your emotions, your emotions don't make you. Its not as serious as you're making it.

You should watch some YouTube videos about "law of attraction" or "living in the now". I think if you REALLY listen to some of this it will give you a different view on life. Ive suggested this or talked about this with some of my friends and for some of them it has completely changed their lives. There is never a need to feel bad about anything. Look for the positive and you will find it.

 

[frisson]

Make your size an asset. Work on improving it if you want to, sure, but learn the art of cunnilingus and fingering. If you become masters of those, you'll be king.

Also, if you're 5'10" and under, do you see BossBoy93's picture? You can obtain that kind of body with a half-assed diet and a decent workout regimen in less than 4 to 5 months. Do it.

 

[Looking4more]

Hey Geral, don't feel bad about sharing your feelings here. That's why we have the Gym. The guys aren't making fun of you but just trying to help you realize that what you have is fine and that insecurity is very common among men.

I hope you can warm up to the idea that having a huge penis isn't what every woman in the world wants. If you read the posts by the ladies here, they will be the first to tell you that it wasn't and still isn't the most important thing to them. My wife and the others will also tell you that they had no idea how insecure men are until they came to the Gym. Sadly, since they don't know that, they can inadvertently say things that hurt our feelings.

From time to time you will read where some of the ladies are enjoying their husband's or boyfriend's penis more since it has gotten bigger. You'll also realize that those posts are made by men, not the ladies here. Unfortunately that doesn't go well with the smaller guys and nobody wants to read that but it is reality. One problem is that someone with a smaller penis sees that and feels more insecure about his own size. What that guy doesn't think about is the lady is enjoying just a part of the man that she has fallen in love with and would still be in love with even without the added size. All that guy hears is he's too small and can't satisfy a woman. To put it bluntly, that's BS! A woman wants a man that is kind to her, respectful, and treats her the way she deserves. If he can do that then sex is just an added bonus. Once she gets used to having sex with him and enjoys it, any added size can, but not necessarily, be an extra.

Here's a real life example for you. My wife's ex was 8 inches long. She knew it was since he had health problems and the doctor had to measure it to watch for side effects of treatments so I don't want to hear the ladies don't know size BS. He was never able to bring her to orgasm. Why? She'll tell you mostly that he didn't take the time to treat her the way he should have during sex. Did he know how to use it? Guess not. So just having a bigger penis isn't all that. I was about 6.5 inches when we met. I was the first to ever give her an orgasm. Why was that? I treated her right and payed close attention to what she likes and what she didn't and acted accordingly. Anything to do with size? Hell no! She NEVER thought about my size when we met and didn't think anything about it after experiencing it. Does she enjoy it more now since it's bigger? Yes she does but only because it's attached to me and comes with the rest of the package she married 22+ years ago.

Now here's the second part. She has enjoyed my larger size but only to a point. Earlier this year I switched up my routine and had a sudden increase in girth. Beforehand she would always have earth shattering multiple orgasms but the added girth prevented her from having as an intense orgasm as she had previously. She was getting very concerned and finally after four months, she finally got used to it and all is well. Just goes to show that larger sizes aren't necessarily better.

Just be yourself when meeting ladies and if you find one that's into you, your penis will be the last thing that matters to her. Now don't get me wrong. There are some women that are size queens and you, I, and most guys here won't be enough for them but they are a shallow small minority and aren't worth your time so don't ever worry about pleasing them. I'm sure you have lots to offer a lady and the last thing you need to be concerned or pressured about is your penis. The only thing the ladies really want from your penis is that it gets hard and that's about it.

 

[BossBoy93]

^^^^ Exactly. I agree 110% with this. And the same happened to me when my size got bigger. It took a while for her to get use to it. It wasnt nesscerilly better at first. Also when I joined pe I started learning more on how to listen to my girl and how to add other things into the sex. I feel like that has helped wayyyy more than the added size

 

[MrsDonjelqer76]

I'm going to add my 2 cents here, especially since this was posted in the woman's perspective and I am a woman.

If you read back through my husband's posts, especially his introduction, you will learn something from that. I learned something from it as well. One of the things he mentioned in his introduction was that I never once complimented him on his penis....NEVER EVER. Why? Because size seriously didn't matter to me. It never has. The thought never crossed my mind to ever compliment him on his penis...or comment on it at all really. I mean...I fell in love with him for who he was and is. He knows how to read my body. He knows what positions work for us. Just because something works great for us, doesn't mean it works for everyone. We are our own unique fit and rhythm. I enjoyed his penis from the get-go, and I still enjoy it to this day...obviously.

Now for the subject of him PEing and his gains. Do I love the gains? Yes. Is it the most important part of our marriage or sex life? Fuck no. Him spending time with me, showing his desire for me, and being my best friend mean more to me than his penis size. The intimacy we share far exceeds anything else. Our communication and openness about his PE have also improved areas of our marriage. Please keep in mind that I don't mean his size...that's just an added bonus. I love watching him PE. Quite frankly, in an odd way, it's a turn on for me. I love how we can share everything with each other.

Bottom line, he knows how to read my body language. He knows how to get me going.

Don't be so down or hard on yourself. Like L4M said, woman honestly don't know how insecure men are about their penis size. I had no idea until my husband told me about PE and then introduced me to the gym and I read other's posts. In the end, my husband needed to PE for himself, not for me. He realized that at some point.

I wish you all the best. Take this journey for yourself. Be confident in who you are and everything else will fall into place. Your confidence is one of the first things a woman will see....not your penis.

 

[4herpleasure]

Here's the issue. Size is a completely subjective issue, so there will never be a right or wrong answer. There will also be at least someone out there that will agree with any side of the argument. Personally, I think it's a bit silly to have the issue consume your life as much as it seems to - is it really so bad falling into the same average range that 80% of men fall into?

It's been said again and again that size is simply very low on the list for most women. Reverse roles for a second- if a woman you are interested in has a vagina with average tightness, would you think any different if her vagina was a little too tight or a little too loose? Most guys would say "no.". The only time it may be an issue is if she was absolutely too tight to penetrate, or so loose there was nearly no feeling of penetration at all - and even then your feelings for her may still outweigh the challenges that lie ahead.

None of this is going to put your mind at ease of course, after all it's your own perception of yourself and of women in general driving your insecurities. The only way to overcome them is working on your own self image and sense of self worth.


This is actually not true. The most popular dildoes are normally right in the average range believe it or not.


Good luck. Don't think too hard about this, it's a common hang-up among men (some just to a greater degree)

The chances of finding a woman with such a loose vagina that doesnt please a man and small dicks out there that dont please women dont make for a good comparison...

 

[donjelqer76]

The chances of finding a woman with such a loose vagina that doesnt please a man and small dicks out there that dont please women dont make for a good comparison...

I never mentioned pleasure at all and definitely didn't make a comparison. I think you should read it again.
The only point made was there are only 2 situations where size could possibly be an issue(way too big or way too small) , and it would definitely be rare. Also realize that it's not just the size of a man's penis OR the size of a woman's vagina. It's more about the overall fit of a couple.

 

[4herpleasure]

When u said no penetration at.all I assumed thats what u meant.
Sorry if I got that wrong.

Bossboy I felt like I was reading my own experience same thing I go through everyday and im not gonna stop till 10"