Guys, Im curious about this. Im on both sides of the fence with this one, I get checked out and I notice when my guy checks girls out. It doesnt bother me too much but I do wonder why he feels the need to speak his mind out loud?! Like Im one of his guy friends or something! FYI guys... your girlfriend does NOT want to know how hot you think Pamela Anderson is, or the weather girl, OR that chick walking down the street! I dont care how "Cool" we act like we are with it, would YOU like us to say something every time we are attracted to a guy, probably not. I know that he isnt going to run off with Kate Hudson, even if he wanted to but it still bothers me that he always says sh*t. I dont think this is a self-esteem issue on my part. I just want to know, whats UP with you guys? Are you ALL like that and some of you just dont make it noticeable? I'd rather not hear his thoughts regarding the issue but he just wont shut up! So I think Im going to make it a point to noticeably NOTICE other guys, maybe he'll see how it feels. So the question is... Are you a noticeably notice? Do you notice girls but she will never notice you doing it? Or do you not really notice when there is a pretty girl because you have found your girl already? This is the first guy I've had this problem with...EVER.
Checkin girls out, would like a males opinion
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Pirate
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Oh, I notice. I think we are all hardwired to notice. But I sure do not point it out to the lady on my arm. If you are with me, than I am trying to make you comfortable and enjoy my company. Pointing out some other woman's attractions is not likely to further those goals. (Although I can think of a couple of exceptions to that rule.)
I would agree with Pirate on this one, I think most guys notice, but not too many say out loud things like "She sure was hot". I have got a couple of friends that do that around their GF's and vice versa and they say they are ok with it as long as their partner is. I too share that view, but I have had girls-that-are-my-friends tell me and my friends that they would rather not like to hear us talk about every girl we find attractive while walking around in town. I asked them why not, and they said "I don't know, but how would you feel if we did the same?". I then told them my view on this issue, as well as telling them that we would refrain from pointing out hot girls in front of them out of respect. I hope this give you a little insight, and somehow answers your question.
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I think making a comments like that would make my wife feel uncomfortable or inadequate, so I don't do it, period. If you think another woman is hot, keep it to yourself. Why put her in a awkward position? Besides, I don't want my teeth knocked out 
Pirate
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How many times have we seen posts on this site from guys screwed up because some girl told them about an Ex with a bigger penis? About 6,493,489 times. If a guy points out some other chick's great ass/tits/smile/eyes/hair/legs/whatever, of course the girl he is with is going to wonder how her ass/tits/smile/eyes/hair/legs/whatever measures up.
It works both ways. If she points out some other guy's great biceps/ass/eyes/car/bulge/whatever , the guy she is with is going to wonder how his stacks up.
Why put that sort of strain on anyone?
It works both ways. If she points out some other guy's great biceps/ass/eyes/car/bulge/whatever , the guy she is with is going to wonder how his stacks up.
Why put that sort of strain on anyone?
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Good point about the teeth, Way.I think making a comments like that would make my wife feel uncomfortable or inadequate, so I don't do it, period. If you think another woman is hot, keep it to yourself. Why put her in a awkward position? Besides, I don't want my teeth knocked out
YEAH thats how I see it too. It just doesn't feel good, you wonder how you stack up. Every morning that I spend the night with my BF I have to listen to him ooooooh and ahhhhhh over the weather girl. Quite frankly It ruins my day! I dont act like I FUCKING HATE IT but I do. I dont care if he's told me "She aint got nothin on you" it STILL bothers me. I feel like turning on a show with hot guys on it, every morning and noticing how nice they look...EVERY MORNING. See how he feels about himself after that. Honestly, after a long time of these incidences it makes me loose feelings for him cause I feel he is the unfaithful type. I know its a petty reason to tag him as unfaithful over it but, I cant help the way I feel.
..........swallowing your own medicine is usually the best cure..........turn the channel and start looking for the hot weatherman.
I disagree with Mountie.
As kinder garden as it may sound, two wrongs don't make a right.
Your boyfriend is probably trying to treat you like the rest of his friends, which may sound bad but look at it from his point of view. Everyone knows that when you're with your significant other, they're a different person than if they were out with their friends. Maybe he's trying to bridge that barrier?
Does he burp and fart in front of you? Or scratch himself?
I used to try to make my girlfriend into someone I could 'Hangout' with just like she was a guy friend, but that turned out horribly. I stopped seeing her as a partner and more of a friend.
As kinder garden as it may sound, two wrongs don't make a right.
Your boyfriend is probably trying to treat you like the rest of his friends, which may sound bad but look at it from his point of view. Everyone knows that when you're with your significant other, they're a different person than if they were out with their friends. Maybe he's trying to bridge that barrier?
Does he burp and fart in front of you? Or scratch himself?
I used to try to make my girlfriend into someone I could 'Hangout' with just like she was a guy friend, but that turned out horribly. I stopped seeing her as a partner and more of a friend.
Yep thats what Im gonna have to do! It'll be totally out of my norm but he needs a good dose of "TAKE THAT!" I thought that if I just continued to be polite and completely ignore every other man on the planet, he would get the hint that thats how I like relationships to be...monogamous and we dont talk about OTHER attractive people. Guess he just doesn't get it so, I'm going to show him how it feels. I mean really, I'd rather be in the dark and go along pretending that Im the only woman he wants
Pirate
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I don't have much faith in hints. In my experience, they don't deliver a message very well.
What if you just told him "I don't like the way I feel when you say stuff like that"?
What if you just told him "I don't like the way I feel when you say stuff like that"?
Most probably he is not unfaithful.
Most probably he likes you inside.
He does it for one of these two reasons: One, he is special and has some kind of tourettes and can't control comments like that (small probability), Or two, he consciously makes those comments to wake you up, catch your attention and let you know how he would like you to look. Perhaps lose weight, gain muscle, change your hairstyle, get implants or whatever is the reason. But sometimes that is the way guys use to tell their girls "I love you inside, but I don't like you that much outside. That is how I'd like you to look"
Most probably he likes you inside.
He does it for one of these two reasons: One, he is special and has some kind of tourettes and can't control comments like that (small probability), Or two, he consciously makes those comments to wake you up, catch your attention and let you know how he would like you to look. Perhaps lose weight, gain muscle, change your hairstyle, get implants or whatever is the reason. But sometimes that is the way guys use to tell their girls "I love you inside, but I don't like you that much outside. That is how I'd like you to look"
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Hi baybabe,
I noticed my sister's fiancée doing something similar with her & I did not like it. She does not do the same back to him. I found it uncomfortable, as I saw it as disrespectful. It totally depends on the context & whether there is humor, and also whether it upsets the other person.
Most of the time I think people can tell if someone is happy about what they have said & so I kind of see this type of behavior as a little nasty.
I would not do this to someone I cared about.
I noticed my sister's fiancée doing something similar with her & I did not like it. She does not do the same back to him. I found it uncomfortable, as I saw it as disrespectful. It totally depends on the context & whether there is humor, and also whether it upsets the other person.
Most of the time I think people can tell if someone is happy about what they have said & so I kind of see this type of behavior as a little nasty.
I would not do this to someone I cared about.
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First off, you haven't seen baybabe...........most women can't hold a CANDLE to her...................my girl being one of the few that baybabe can't match. Baybabe us as HOT as they come........
Now that I've cleared that up, let me say that checking out other women in front of your woman is about as rude and incondisderate as it gets, not to mention hurtful as hell. That's like the girl we're with saying "wow, my ex's dick was twice as big as yours"......it's the same concept.
Bottom line, don't do it. When I'm out with my lady, sure I look and glance but I'm not obvious about it..........everyone looks at the opposite sex (unless you're gay) and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, provided it's done with tact and discretion.
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I know what you mean. My ex constantly thought I was doing this. I made it a point to not. Now her asking me what she thought of other women was just downright mean. Don't wanna say they are cute, but even if I don't I'm a liar.
Some people do this... I try not to because it is, in my mind, quite disrespectful.
That's horrible. I'll admit, if my hubby did something like that to me, he'd probably have his own cock shoved halfway down his throat lol
Seriously though, that's just incredibly disrespectful in my book. I'm lucky that my hubby must be the one in a million guys that doesn't notice other girls. Really, he's clueless. Long long ago before we were even friends & hated eachother's guts I'd tested this out. He just genuinely doesn't notice. & if he does notice a girl, its usually to tell me her shoes don't match her bag lol
I don't get it. If he has you, if he can look at you, have sex with you, do anything with you, why does he need to be drooling over other women? Sounds like he needs to learn to bounce his eyes, or at least, keep his mouth shut.
It's one thing to "notice," it's another to linger [ if you see him doing it, then it's "lingering" ] & start commenting...
Seriously though, that's just incredibly disrespectful in my book. I'm lucky that my hubby must be the one in a million guys that doesn't notice other girls. Really, he's clueless. Long long ago before we were even friends & hated eachother's guts I'd tested this out. He just genuinely doesn't notice. & if he does notice a girl, its usually to tell me her shoes don't match her bag lol
I don't get it. If he has you, if he can look at you, have sex with you, do anything with you, why does he need to be drooling over other women? Sounds like he needs to learn to bounce his eyes, or at least, keep his mouth shut.
It's one thing to "notice," it's another to linger [ if you see him doing it, then it's "lingering" ] & start commenting...
Thank you
for say such nice things. It's true, the girls he's looking at aren't any different than what he's got with me for the most part. He just thinks I should be cool with it because "Men look at women unless they are gay" he's just forgetting the part that...IM NOT SUPPOSE TO KNOW! Dummy. He mostly makes comments about actresses, I guess he thinks "whats the big deal, It's not like I'll ever have a chance with her" well, I dont really care if they are famous or next door its annoying to constantly hear "Oooooooh BOY she was lookin good ooooo yeah" He may as well say "God I'd give my right arm to fuck her". It makes me not like him but, I cant say anything about it cause I dont want him to feel pressure to change. Plus he would just say something like...its normal guy stuff. Then I'd feel really stupid. Good point. I dont know where to draw the line, once he took flirting a little too far with this girl he was being friendly with. He just was being too friendly in front of me (with her) and it bothered me. I'm 98% sure that he just did it to show me that he is desired by the opposite sex too. Earlier that evening there was a couple instances when different men were gawking at me, blatantly staring and didn't stop despite that fact that my bf saw them. I hate when people pay there lover back for something that was out of there hands like that. I think he was paying me back for men looking at me even though I ignore all advances ALWAYS. In fact Im a dummy when it comes to getting hit on so he has nothing to worry about.
Thanks guys & gals for your info on this topic, I was actually really surprised at the responses.
He needs to respect you but at the same time i have been caught and my chick has said "I saw that" and i tried to play it off., Like what was said early , we are hard wired, we are visual creatures.
If you rubber necked some guy and scanned his package it would totally destroy us. You guys are just a little more cleaver in doing so.
When i am with my girl i do my best to block outside the visuals because i would not want it done to me.
We are both alive and normal. Its all about respect.
If you rubber necked some guy and scanned his package it would totally destroy us. You guys are just a little more cleaver in doing so.
When i am with my girl i do my best to block outside the visuals because i would not want it done to me.
We are both alive and normal. Its all about respect.
Hey BB, good to see you around! On the other hand, the minute you start making comments about other guys then you are the same as what you don't like-him! Think about it beautiful young lady; that is the way he is.He makes comments and he'll always make comments. You telling him it bothers you doesn't change him.That is the way he is. If he is forced to say things behind your back then heaven knows what other things it may lead to. You are young, beautiful, articlulate and intelligent; why settle? Maybe it is time to look around and get someone that you are more compatible with, someone that treats you as you want to be treated and as you treat him.Remember your great Valentines present? Is that what you want until death do you part? Endings are always hard and sad but to me it seems that you took a step down in this one when you should be stepping up. Have confidence in yourself and and take your time to find a guy that will treat you like you want to be treated.Don't you think you're worth it? Remember you're not going to change him! I hope it helps and I hope I didn't upset you. You know the relationship better that I but sometimes we're more in love with being in love than we are with the person we choose!
