Any bed fuckers out there?

[Hammerhead11]

I am sure most of you who have never heard of this issue will laugh at this, but I don't care I have a good sense of humor about my issues.... You see at around age 12 when most young men started wanking it the traditional way with their hand... I decided that I would just hump the crap out of my mattress to masturbate... And I never stopped till about 6 months ago(I am 28 now)... It felt great, and I didn't realize I was very different at that age... I just recently found out that it is probably the main cause of my sexual dysfunction... It takes me a real long time to get an erection with a girl, and when I do, I literally can't orgasm, I have gone for 45 minutes to an hour without blowing my load.... Its a great way to stay in shape, but outside of that it BLOWS.... both of this issues are heavily associated with the 5% of the population who have been going around fucking beds and couches for 15+ years... Its called TMS(Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome)... Its a pretty serious issue for those who have it... nearly all people who started masturbating that when when they were kids have sexual dysfunction, SO DON'T DO IT!


I was wondering if PE will help me to get erections quicker, and have a more sensitive unit so I can one day ejaculate in a vagina. Or if I should just stick with the normal exercise they recommend for douche bags like me.... I have read online that they suggest not beating off for a while until you can get it hard and orgasm with your hand.

If anyone else here knows something about this please give me some advice. Or if you just want to chime in to make fun of me for masturbating like a monkey that's cool too.


Thanks,

Bryan

 

[CUSP82]

Well no one should judge or make fun of you for whatever you did.Why not give PE a try and see if it helps! Maybe staying away from any contact with your dick other than pe may just help. Give it a try!

 

[superman193]

i one time woke up in the middle of the night to a friend of mine fucking the side of the couch when i got up and proceeded to punch him in his ribs repeatdly a bag filled with olive oil fell out of the couch in which he was fucking... have u ever heard of that (putting olive oil in a bag folding it in half and fucking it

 

[Batwoman]

Hammerhead, there are other guys here who have had this problem, we know it is not amusing at all. I am sure some of the more experienced guys here can help answer your questions in detail, but the answer to your main question is yes -- PE will help.

I'm going to move this to the ED forum since I think you'll get more answers there.

 

[kingpole]

Start by using your hand, not the mattress, well therre are a lot of matress fuckers out there. No need to feel shame or beat yourself up over it.

 

[MrBigDick]

OK, I'm going to admit to something that I've never told a soul. When I was about 11-13..............oh God, I can't believe I'm fucking admitting to this......................I started jacking off in a very unusual way too..........I had this big teddy bear that I used to fuck. I put my dick in between it's legs and fuck that thing senseless and then I'd cum all over the back of it. It took me maybe 10-15 minutes to cum. In fact, the funny part of this story is that my mom used to buy this scented tissue that she put in the bathroom and for the longest time, I thought my cum smelled like roses....lol I don't even know WHAT happened to that damn bear. At the time, I was convinced that I was a freak of nature so when it was time to pack all of my stuffed animals up in the rafters in the garage, that bear was the FIRST in the box.

I shared this story so that A. You didn't think you were a sexual freak because I'm right up there with you and B. I guess it felt good to share that. I've never told another human being on this planet that story.

However, I have been able to successfully have sex since then so I don't believe I have this syndrome mentioned above. It takes me maybe 15-20 minutes to completely saturate and soak the inside of my lady's vagina..........and believe you me, fucking her pussy is ALOT more fun than fucking that damn bear...lol

 

[king87]

Lol I can imagine that to Mr.Bean's poor bear...

I've never tried using mattress and I'm not sure how. Anyway, be it mattress/sofa/hand/bolster/pillow, all of them is a form of masturbation, if using it excessively or from young, it'll somehow affect your sexual prowess. I'm a hand-man and I do have problems getting an erection with a real girl too, the first time it took me 20mins to get an erection and it die off easily, she looks alright but I don't have the monster drive.

I think visiting hookers, hooking up girls or a fleshlight might help. I suppose practice makes perfect works here.

 

[Waylander]

That was an up front and honest post Hammer.You have nothing to be ashamed of, especially here among friends.

 

[angus]

I'm . . . uh . . .hmmm . . . gee guys, some things should be kept secret, I mean Damn!

 

[O.G.]

Masturbate with your hand lightly, focus on just the sensation, meditate almost. Harness that sensation. If you're with a girl and you really want to cum just let your imagination run wild, tighten up your PC muscles and all that, you have to get into it.

 

[ErictheGed]

Gotta appreciate the honesty on this thread. I mauled the mattress a few times in my youth. Well, like i lifted up the mattress and started ... you know the rest. Great story MrBD, very cathartic. I feel i can move on in my life now i know i'm not alone! (you better not have been joking mate!)

 

[MrBigDick]

Gotta appreciate the honesty on this thread. I mauled the mattress a few times in my youth. Well, like i lifted up the mattress and started ... you know the rest. Great story MrBD, very cathartic. I feel i can move on in my life now i know i'm not alone! (you better not have been joking mate!)

I can't speak for Hammerhead, though I can't imagine why anyone would join a forum like this and just gush with honesty like he has. My story is 100% legit. First time in my almost 40 years on this earth that I've shared that. sh*t, my ex wife nor none of my gf's know this about me nor will they ever.

As for the comment above about some things should remain private, if you've nothing to be ashamed of and if your story will help make someone else feel more at ease about themselves, why not share? Isn't that what this community is here for?

 

[CUSP82]

Oh MrBD, I call that TMI ( lol)

 

[ErictheGed]

Absolutely mate! I wasn't being sarcastic btw, i genuinely love how open and honest the good folks on the gym are with each other. You're totally right, its all about helping folks out with sharing experiences etc. I used to hump a big snoopy teddy bear, when i said it was cathartic i meant it was good to hear that someone else used to do this also!

 

[vulcan]

I read about TMS & could instantly see how it could come about. This might be a very legitimate case for a fleshlight - to try & recondition to the pressures that resemble a vagina, whilst masturbating. Just a thought.

MrBD - I have now got that tune....if you go down to the woods today in my head!

 

[angus]

I can't speak for Hammerhead, though I can't imagine why anyone would join a forum like this and just gush with honesty like he has. My story is 100% legit. First time in my almost 40 years on this earth that I've shared that. sh*t, my ex wife nor none of my gf's know this about me nor will they ever.

As for the comment above about some things should remain private, if you've nothing to be ashamed of and if your story will help make someone else feel more at ease about themselves, why not share? Isn't that what this community is here for?

Well, perhaps you should be ashamed, that’s my point. We ‘all’ have dirty little secrets but what I’m trying to remind you of here is that’s just what they are, ‘secrets.’ They should not be broadcasted into a public forum just because we want to get it off our shoulders or as you said “make someone feel more at ease about themselves”. If you cannot keep your own secrets then please consider revealing them in the privacy of a professional sex therapist not here.

The topics for discussion have already been set within the name of this site PEgym. True interpreting PE could mean penis exercise, penis enlargement, premature ejaculation, penis enhancement . . . etc, not some pubescent/teenaged masturbation narrative with beds or stuffed animals. I hope nobody feels comfortable enough to post their sexual experience with animals, children, rape or some other sexual depravity that is not appropriate for any public forum.

This forum is for ED issues not a private confessional for adolescent sex. If you want help, seek a professional psychological specialist. The support from within this forum is well intended but from what I’ve read not professional.

Please keep your personal secrets a secret.

Angus

 

[Batwoman]

Well, perhaps you should be ashamed, that’s my point. We ‘all’ have dirty little secrets but what I’m trying to remind you of here is that’s just what they are, ‘secrets.’ They should not be broadcasted into a public forum just because we want to get it off our shoulders or as you said “make someone feel more at ease about themselves”. If you cannot keep your own secrets then please consider revealing them in the privacy of a professional sex therapist not here.

The topics for discussion have already been set within the name of this site PEgym. True interpreting PE could mean penis exercise, penis enlargement, premature ejaculation, penis enhancement . . . etc, not some pubescent/teenaged masturbation narrative with beds or stuffed animals. I hope nobody feels comfortable enough to post their sexual experience with animals, children, rape or some other sexual depravity that is not appropriate for any public forum.

This forum is for ED issues not a private confessional for adolescent sex. If you want help, seek a professional psychological specialist. The support from within this forum is well intended but from what I’ve read not professional.

Please keep your personal secrets a secret.

Angus

I have to differ with you on that, Angus. This forum is all about sexual health and moving forward. Some of the things that guys do or have done -- particularly in the masturbation department -- have serious effects on how they approach sex and can perform sexually. You suffer from from a different form of ED -- and you have gotten help here. Guys who have porn-induced ED have asked for and gotten help here. Bed-humping or doing stuffed animals may sound a bit stranger, but it is just another sexual habit that causes distress and can contribute to ED. Is it wrong for members to reveal their problems and how they got that way, and look for solutions here?
NO -- IT IS NOT WRONG, IT IS PART OF WHAT THESE FORUMS ARE FOR.

No, I don't want hear about sexual abuse of children, women, or anything else of that nature. We have banned members before for bringing inappropriate discussions of violence here. But admitting to damaging masturbation habits and asking for help? I think that is brave, and is the right thing to do. Asking for help and getting it is what these forums are for.

Have some compassion -- not all people suffer the same problems, but they suffer just the same.

 

[chirk]

I do agree, Batwoman No one was talking about sexual experience with animals, children, rape or some other sexual depravity.

 

[Batwoman]

I do agree, Batwoman No one was talking about sexual experience with animals, children, rape or some other sexual depravity.

I know, I was just following up on what Angus said.

 

[Pirate]

I can't speak for Hammerhead, though I can't imagine why anyone would join a forum like this and just gush with honesty like he has. My story is 100% legit. First time in my almost 40 years on this earth that I've shared that. sh*t, my ex wife nor none of my gf's know this about me nor will they ever.

As for the comment above about some things should remain private, if you've nothing to be ashamed of and if your story will help make someone else feel more at ease about themselves, why not share? Isn't that what this community is here for?

I think you are dead on. Especially for those of us who had access to practically no information about sex through our adolescence and beyond (other than the mechanics of reproduction), a forum to share these experiences, to learn that we weren't the only ones, to warn others, to help others, to learn from others, is pretty damn near magic.
If something has been bothering you, talk about it here.