Anal

[insight]

Well, have you ever had anal sex on the receiving end, Jackxxx? Until you have, I am not sure you are the best reference for telling us what it is like for a girl.

It seems no one has answered my previous questions regarding what you just said.

If your girlfriend said she would ONLY have anal sex with you on the conditions she gets to do anal on you (via a sex toy, aka dildo), would you do it?

 

[Steve23]

I would say, here's the door, get out.

Edit: Of course I wouldn't, I wouldn't want to have anal sex with a woman that doesn't want anyways. And I do this if you do that games are childish.

 

[Grendel08]

Sure, anal sex is even more stimulating for men due to the presence of the prostrate, other than that the nerves present are exactly the same. If it feels good, it feels god, no reason to not do it. I would just expect her to have the sane patience and take the same considerations with me that I would with her...

 

[Batwoman]

I think anal play is good both ways -- many men love to be touched, fondled, caressed, and penetrated there. It is one of the more intimate sex acts where both partners can have a similar experience.... hence worth exploring, if both partners agree. It would seem odd to me for a man to ask to have anal sex with me, yet be unwilling to let me touch him there, or at least play a bit with him. But penetration? Everyone has the right to say "no" to that. And I don't like the hard line tit-for-tat in a girl requiring her lover to do something so she will. That speaks to a lack of understanding and/or trust.

 

[CUSP82]

I'll go watch football. Yea that's what I 'm going to do!

 

[mvergasioin]

exploring, if both partners agree. It would seem odd to me for a man to ask to have anal sex with me, yet be unwilling to let me touch him there, or at least play a bit with him there

I can't imagine asking for anal and not being available for her Playing with me down there. Why discriminate a
Among who can be touched and who can't. If you want something you should be willing to reciprocate.

 

[Jackxxx]

Well, have you ever had anal sex on the receiving end, Jackxxx? Until you have, I am not sure you are the best reference for telling us what it is like for a girl.

I am sorry to be honest again, but that question is absolutely stupid. May I ask: Have you ever experienced a seminal ejaculation in order to understand premature ejaculation?

The issue here is not about judging by what you like/what you want. That is selfish. My opinions are based on my experience with multiple partners of all ages and that is what I hope, can help people asking these questions. It is not about what conditions I put neither. It is strictly in reference to what women like/want/expect from a man in bed. I have no problem pleasing a woman in anything she ask. In my personal my girl HAS to like anal sex. And double penetration. But I would never try to change anybody into that, or try to convince somebody into try that, or break up for that. Is just a matter of compatibility, and choosing partners is a matter of personal freedom.

So again for the OP, PLEASE HER. Get the drinks and let the anal extravaganza begin. Make it special for her. She will be absolutely happy.

 

[Ivor]

Final tip: buy some good anal lube, too. It is very much worth it, and will make it much easier for both of you.

Hello, sent you a PM.

 

[Ivor]

I am sorry to be honest again, but that question is absolutely stupid. May I ask: Have you ever experienced a seminal ejaculation in order to understand premature ejaculation?

It's not as stupid as all that - both women and men have arseholes, after all, and before we start talking about g-spots and prostates, the sensation of having a finger or whatever else stuck 'up there' is bound to be the same for either sex. If a guy gets to learn first-hand just how sensitive his own body is in that area (which could just be from a gentle probing with his partner's finger, rather than penetration with an actual life-sized dildo), it could help him approach his ladyfriend's back door with the necessary degree of care.

Batwoman was simply asking you if you knew what it was like to be penetrated - no-one's saying you have to bend down and take it from a huge strap-on before you've "earned the right" to ask a woman for anal sex.

 

[Rando]

OK I'll guess I'll bite and point out that I'm a straight guy that has been strapon fucked by a girl before (never had any intimate contact with a guy). The main reason I was so interested in it is b/c I've been using the Aneros prostate massagers for a couple years with unbelievable results. Being strapon fucked is definitely a different and intense feeling, I think it takes a couple sessions to really get into it, but it is definitely something that I would be very disappointed if a future girlfriend wouldn't be willing to do to me.

It's my belief that every guy would be 100% into anal play (on himself) if they could know for sure word wouldn't get out (and thus the fear of them being called "gay") and if you could somehow let them experience what a true prostate orgasm is all about. Most guys will not try it b/c of the gay "thing" or b/c it feels funny the first couple times, and also it takes a lot of time to "awaken" your prostate, but believe me when I say that if you go in with an open mind and understand that it will take time and patience, the results will be mind blowing.

 

[spanky]

OK I'll guess I'll bite and point out that I'm a straight guy that has been strapon fucked by a girl before (never had any intimate contact with a guy). The main reason I was so interested in it is b/c I've been using the Aneros prostate massagers for a couple years with unbelievable results. Being strapon fucked is definitely a different and intense feeling, I think it takes a couple sessions to really get into it, but it is definitely something that I would be very disappointed if a future girlfriend wouldn't be willing to do to me.

It's my belief that every guy would be 100% into anal play (on himself) if they could know for sure word wouldn't get out (and thus the fear of them being called "gay") and if you could somehow let them experience what a true prostate orgasm is all about. Most guys will not try it b/c of the gay "thing" or b/c it feels funny the first couple times, and also it takes a lot of time to "awaken" your prostate, but believe me when I say that if you go in with an open mind and understand that it will take time and patience, the results will be mind blowing.

Wow. I'm up for this by the way, and I suspect if my last gf hadn't turned out to be ... whatever she is ... then I would have got her to. I even mentioned it a while back, but not with enough commitment on my part.

Should I try those Aneros thingas then? cos I've tried with my fingers and had no success, it felt like the only arousal I got was in my head, anticipating the prostate orgasm, which I hear is "all that".

 

[Rando]

I've tried with fingers on myself with pretty much no results. The key is you have to be incredibly relaxed, and it's tough to do so while you're all contorted. That's what makes the Aneros so nice, you just put it it in, lay down, and let your PC muscles go to work. You also have to go into a session with no expectations b/c it seems like the more you try to will yourself to a prostate O, the more elusive it becomes. It does take a lot of patience though, occasionally people will get amazing results in their first couple tries, but more often it takes 1-3 months or maybe more. Aneros has a forum that covers pretty everything you'd want to know. Just approach it with the same vigor that you do PE and I promise the results will be crazy.

If I had to compare my best ejaculatory orgasm to my best prostate super orgasm, I'd probably say the latter was approx. 20x more intense. Imagine about 30 minutes of full body intense waves (compared to the more localized 15-20 second traditional O.

Honestly, being ok with prostate play just introduces so many more ridiculously pleasurable ways to have fun with a female partner. I haven't been able to try these yet, but at the top of my list: fucking her while wearing an Aneros (which I hear is great), fucked by her wearing the Feeldoe, a double dildo that vibrates so we can both potentially have crazy orgasms, wearing the Feeldoe myself (in my ass) and using it to penetrate her ass while I also penetrate her with my cock (so we're both being DP'ed essentially) and on and on. I mean every session doesn't have to be about anal play b/c I think a lot of women might not be into that (although I wouldn't mind at all if they were cool with this), but it just gives you so many more options.

Fuck, I need to find a steady girl that's cool with this.

 

[spanky]

I don't think I could stay with a girl who wasn't at least open to discussing stuff like this.

 

[Ivor]

Final tip: buy some good anal lube, too. It is very much worth it, and will make it much easier for both of you.

Bought some the other day and tried it out yesterday. It was amazing, I could fuck her that way pretty much as if I were in her pussy instead, which I've never been able to before. She said it didn't hurt at all, either during or after.

I have to say, when I saw the stuff contained lidocaine I just assumed it would be a topical anaesthetic like cocaine or novocaine, and was a bit worried it would simply numb us both, but it's much cleverer than that - it stops it hurting for her without reducing any of the good sensations for either of us. It's got just the right kind of slickness, too, much better than vaseline, which is what we'd always used before.

Thanks for the tip, Batwoman!

 

[Batwoman]

Glad it worked well for you, Ivor. Your experience sounds just like ours. Anal lube really is wonderful stuff! It's opened up a whole new world for me and my man, that's for sure.

 

[BigO]

Ya know my wife and I tried anal and it went pretty good a couple of times but not so well a few others. I didnt force it, we just couldnt do it because it was not easy for her.
I showed her some of the posts her in this thread and she andi have decided to actually get some proper lube for the occasion. it may not go well and we may never do it but she is actually willing to try with the anal lube. Thanks BW.

 

[Ivor]

BigO, the kind I bought was called 'Anal Lube Slick Sensation' and is made by a company called Adam & Eve (oddly enough, I don't remember the bit in Genesis where Adam fucks Eve up the arse, but then I didn't have a religious upbringing...). I don't think it works instantly, so don't just put some on your dick and go charging in - apply some to your wife's bottom, gently rubbing it in with your finger for a minute or so, then apply a little more to yourself and ease yourself inside her.

My GF and I were both pleasantly surprised at how much of a difference it made.

 

[spanky]

oddly enough, I don't remember the bit in Genesis where Adam fucks Eve up the arse, but then I didn't have a religious upbringing...

:lol:

 

[Batwoman]

A&E Anal Lube is what we use, too. I love that stuff!

One other thing about good anal lube is that beyond how well it works for one-off events (so to speak), it can help with future ones, too. What I mean is this: because of my great lover and as a result of the pleasure and lack of pain I've experienced using A&E anal lube, I believe that my body has now learned that anal sex feels good and isn't scary or painful or something to get all tight about. As a result, I find it very easy to relax my ass and open up to accept him. He has noticed this -- relaxing and preparing me, which used to take a long time when we were first exploring anal sex, now goes quickly. When he first starts to push into me, I used to close tight (not something I could control) and require coaxing and patience to relax. Not anymore -- now, when we're ready, he can plunge all the way in with a couple of strokes. He loves it, and I love it. Very different from our first experiences!

 

[BigO]

thanks for the info Ivor and batwomen, i will be giving it a try