Anal

[Mojobro1]

My ex was completely against it. It wasn't until I met my fiance that I got to experience it. Never used any anal lube either, just whatever we had or most of the time I would used her own juices with my fingers to get her going. The orgasms are insane for both of us but its only with anal that she ever squirts.

We dont have any problems with full penetration but if I keep it around half it rubs against the walls of her vaj which she really likes.

 

[dunwatchme]

8x6 sometimes and I can get it all in.

Anal is great and she loves it, its just that her butt gets super sore after she orgasms so we can only do it for like 30 seconds

 

[Batwoman]

Lube! Lube! Lube!
I cannot say that often enough.....

 

[Rando]

How do you maximize the pleasure for the female while fingering her anus or penetrating it with your cock? Is it just the sensation of being filled up back there that will do it for her or are there any techniques that can make it more pleasurable?

 

[Batwoman]

Female pleasure from anal sex is maximized by taking your time getting there. It is all about the build up, at least for her.

The main things that are important are to get her really aroused first and to go slow. Lots of foreplay of the standard sorts, plus vaginal sex is excellent foreplay for anal. Then spend lots of time spent getting her ass ready for penetration. I mean LOTS of time, and LOTS of lube. The more you caress her and tease her with your fingers before you try any penetration, the more she will enjoy it. And the more time you use your fingers to penetrate her before you try it with your cock, the more she will enjoy it.

Ideally, she should be deeply aroused and open enough to let your finger or thumb slide in fairly easily before you start with your cock. Wait until she is pushing back against your thumb or finger, urging you on, before you try to slide your cock inside her. It may be hard to wait, but you basically want her begging you for it before you move into her. If you wait until she is in that state -- highly aroused and dying to have you take her -- it will be better for both of you.

Then, when you enter her, try to go slow. Let her set the pace, watch her reactions. Give her time to adjust to your size as you push inside her. I find that while it can hurt a bit at first, I quickly adjust to his cock size as long as he goes slow at first. If he tries to go quickly all the way in, sometimes I cannot help but clamp down, and that makes it painful.

Remember -- if you go slow and use lots of lube, anal sex should be virtually painless for your partner. And once she gets going, you may be able to go as hard and fast and deep as you like (I love it that way, but it takes time to get me ready enough physically). BUT you must always listen to your partner and not force it -- is she isn't ready for it or up for full penetration or thrusting, then back off and try another time.

 

[Batwoman]

I have also posted more about what I like and my experiences with anal sex here: https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-perspective/18456-anal-questions.html

I think that anal can be a wonderful addition to deeply sexual relationship. However, it isn't anything that you should ever assume you partner wants -- you should talk about it before trying it. And if a girl says "no" you should honor that, because if she isn't really into it, she isn't going to enjoy it.

Never forget that all sex acts should be for the pleasure of BOTH partners, all the time.

 

[KungFuJoe]

Hey guys...be very careful with your ladies and like batwoman keeps saying...use lube and LOTS of it.

Injury from anal sex can lead to fecal incontinence later for your woman. So keep that in mind. I used to have anal sex with my wife quite frequently, but we have since cut it off completely due to that. The risk is small, but it's still there.

 

[Grod69]

Well last time I tried even with significant amounts of lube my partner started bleeding... But one thing that does make anal a lot easier is if you smoke marijuana first, it helps the girl really relax! But I can't get much more than the head, anal does make my gf orgasm very quickly though

 

[Rando]

Thanks for the primer Batwoman, very informative!

The other thing I was wondering about was different techniques that can enhance the pleasure for the female. Once you've gotten her warmed up and you have penetrated her with your cock are there any areas that feel better or different angles that might provide a bit more pleasure? Also, if a guy is providing pleasure to your pussy and decides to also stick a finger or two into your anus are there any things he can do there technique-wise that provide more pleasure or is it mainly just the general feeling of being penetrated back there that does it for you?

 

[Batwoman]

For me, I think the position that I like best is the pretty standard one for anal -- doggy style where I can push back against him. It seems to be particularly nice when he is standing behind me and I am on my hands and knees on the bed. By arching my back, raising or lowering my hips, or dropping my head I can alter the angle a bit to get it just perfect.

I have never tried cowgirl or reverse cowgirl for anal. I confess that I am a bit nervous about those, mostly because I am not sure how well I could control my descent onto his cock.... and I don't want to go too fast because I fear that could hurt.

As for what feels good when he fingers my ass during other forms of sex, well, almost everything feels good! I love it when he teases me lightly with his fingers for a long time, making me wonder if he's ever going to decide to slide one in. Delightful torture as I wait and hope!

When it come to manual penetration, one thing I particularly enjoy is when he lubes up his thumb and presses it into my anus during doggy-style vaginal sex. When his cock is deep inside, it is enormously stimulating to feel his thumb against my ass. When he does that, I love to press myself back onto his hand as we rock with each thrust.

It is all very erotic and stimulating. Not something we do all the time, but when it happens -- it's wonderful.

 

[spanky]

For me, I think the position that I like best is the pretty standard one for anal -- doggy style where I can push back against him. It seems to be particularly nice when he is standing behind me and I am on my hands and knees on the bed. By arching my back, raising or lowering my hips, or dropping my head I can alter the angle a bit to get it just perfect.

I have never tried cowgirl or reverse cowgirl for anal. I confess that I am a bit nervous about those, mostly because I am not sure how well I could control my descent onto his cock.... and I don't want to go too fast because I fear that could hurt.

As for what feels good when he fingers my ass during other forms of sex, well, almost everything feels good! I love it when he teases me lightly with his fingers for a long time, making me wonder if he's ever going to decide to slide one in. Delightful torture as I wait and hope!

When it come to manual penetration, one thing I particularly enjoy is when he lubes up his thumb and presses it into my anus during doggy-style vaginal sex. When his cock is deep inside, it is enormously stimulating to feel his thumb against my ass. When he does that, I love to press myself back onto his hand as we rock with each thrust.

It is all very erotic and stimulating. Not something we do all the time, but when it happens -- it's wonderful.

Tips... tips.. tips

 

[CUSP82]

Oh my. I don't think I'm allowed on this thread. I do have a delicate condition!

 

[CUSP82]

Tips... tips.. tips

Spanky you want tips? I want the damn video!

 

[spanky]

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[insight]

I have talked to my partner about this topic quite a few times. When we first talked about it she was completely against it and asked if I was where I responded "No, I got nothing against it". She was somewhat surprised from that response.

We got drunk once and tried it dry (yes I know BIG mistake but I had no idea at the time, both being completely inexperienced). Apparently I got the head in but couldn't feel it and I gave up (she said nothing) continued with normal sex and was all good.

Currently communication is somewhat vague on the topic. She says she is still against it and will have nothing go up in that hole. HOWEVER that being said she said she WOULD do it so long as she get's to do anal on me with a vibrating dildo of hers. This completely stumped me and I have no idea how to react from this.

My first impression was "Hell f*** no". Being a guy that's the last thing I want. Then I started to question my thoughts and asked a friend what he would do and he too couldn't answer the question although continued to tell me that it apparently feels as good for men as it does for women.

That being said my girlfriend has played down there on numerous occasions (Against my will) and has rubbed a type of lube down there when I had a hemorrhoidal vein that kept bleeding and I have to admit the feeling was somewhat unusual, and not in a bad way.

So guys, would you take it anally if it was a requirement in order for you to get anal from your partner? I'm kind of embarrassed about it (even to ask the question) TBH and I'm guessing what I'm feeling now is what she feels when I ask her the same question.

Also is the feeling different from vaginal sex? if so how? I'm not exactly easy to get off, my partner has only ever been able to get me off during head once (out of MANY times, and we were both drunk at the time) and there have been many times I've not got off during normal sex.

 

[insight]

I think I could probably enjoy 5.5 EG anally.... but beyond that might well be too much to be comfortable or fun.

I'm already 5.5" EG but only 5" NBPEL so I'm not sure what to make of this. I'm doing exercises to increase my length but increasing my girth may increase as a result and if girth is a limiting factor for anal I may be in trouble

 

[Koh]

The thought of trying it, grosses me out
/not really helpful post

 

[BigO]

My wife was ok with it, sometimes we could barely do it and other times I could get about2/3rds in. She says no way anymore(girth increase) but we always used KY. i may approach it again with some anl lube. The times we had better success she had crazy orgasms but I had to get it out of her as soon as we were done. Once she had her orgasm she said it hurt.

 

[Batwoman]

I found that using real anal lube makes a huge amount of difference. I am more comfortable at the beginning, which makes it easier to relax, which makes it pain-free as he enters me.... at which point the pleasure builds up more and more and the whole thing becomes wonderful. I don't feel like he has to withdraw when I cum -- I don't know if that is one of the effects of the lube, but it might be.

 

[CUSP82]

I'll wait for the video with Spanky! Sounds funny; waiting with a guy named Spanky for an anal video!