so, me and this girl that ive had a crush on for 6 years finally decided to start seeing each other first night we were together we had sex it was amazing to say the least, and since she was my first it made it that much better. i made her cum by fingering her but before i made her cum we were doing some foreplay, i was about to go down on her when she was like "what are you doing?" i said i was going to eat her out and she replied "really?". she didnt sound into it so i didnt proceed which was kind of a letdown ive always wanted to eat a girl out. anyway, then later on she starts giving me head which i honestly didnt expect seeing as i tried to go down on her and she wasnt into it so i naturally assumed she wasnt into oral sex. my question is how to i talk to her about letting me eat her out? i dont want to press the issue by any means becuause i dont want her to feel like im forcing her to do something she doesnt want to do.
eating a girl out?
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Foreplay! Get her the mood! Once she is hot and worked up and naked, kiss her all over some more. Including her inner thighs. Use your hands, massage her everywhere. SLOWLY work your way to her honey pot. Eating pussy isn't a rough gig if she can't handle it. Be easy and gentle at first. Make love to it. and be SURE to show her that you enjoy it, because that will turn her on more.
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Discuss it. Anything about sex should be worth a good line of communication.
Talk it out. Mention how you really appreciate when she goes down on you. Tell her how hot it gets you, and you really want to return the favour. Let her know how you've always wanted to experience eating a girl out, and how you want to do that with her. Don't be afraid to tell her how beautiful her pussy is too.
Many women are shy about letting a guy down there. There can be many reasons, but ultimately a lot of it has to do with comfort and fear of humiliation. Girls worry about the look of their vagina, or the smell or taste, turning their partner off. If they haven't had a guy down there before, they worry it will feel odd or icky.
That is why my suggestion centers around making her comfortable with herself. Compliment her vagina, and let her know just how much you want to give her pleasure. Let her know you are the kind of guy who wants to try new things (experiment) to help see what you both enjoy the most, and to you, eating a girl out is something special.
Talk it out. Mention how you really appreciate when she goes down on you. Tell her how hot it gets you, and you really want to return the favour. Let her know how you've always wanted to experience eating a girl out, and how you want to do that with her. Don't be afraid to tell her how beautiful her pussy is too.
Many women are shy about letting a guy down there. There can be many reasons, but ultimately a lot of it has to do with comfort and fear of humiliation. Girls worry about the look of their vagina, or the smell or taste, turning their partner off. If they haven't had a guy down there before, they worry it will feel odd or icky.
That is why my suggestion centers around making her comfortable with herself. Compliment her vagina, and let her know just how much you want to give her pleasure. Let her know you are the kind of guy who wants to try new things (experiment) to help see what you both enjoy the most, and to you, eating a girl out is something special.
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Welcome to the Gym Brewcrew.
Do just like Jay said. Get her in the mood and slowly work your way there. If it's gonna work at all, that's the way to do it. Just remember a lot of women are very self conscience about their pussy. They are afraid it may taste or smell bad and don't want to be embarassed. If you do make it there, do EXACTLY like Jay said, show her you enjoy it. One way you can do that is when you are down there and your face is deep in it, just do a HMMMMMMMMM for a few seconds. It will show her you like it and the vibration will drive her wild! You can't go wrong with that.
CJ is right too. Communication goes a long way in any part of a relationship!
Do just like Jay said. Get her in the mood and slowly work your way there. If it's gonna work at all, that's the way to do it. Just remember a lot of women are very self conscience about their pussy. They are afraid it may taste or smell bad and don't want to be embarassed. If you do make it there, do EXACTLY like Jay said, show her you enjoy it. One way you can do that is when you are down there and your face is deep in it, just do a HMMMMMMMMM for a few seconds. It will show her you like it and the vibration will drive her wild! You can't go wrong with that.
CJ is right too. Communication goes a long way in any part of a relationship!
Yes the trail to the honeyjar is paved with kisses on her belly, licking her inner thighs, sucking on her titties, gently kissing and biting her neck, you just work your way down and eventually take that clit in your mouth and suck that. For a first time I would not go straight to the bulls eye. Now later on when you know her better she might just wanna get off sometimes, she will let you know if you can skip the belly kissing.
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Great advice guys!!! A way to save yourself a neck ache is to spend more time above the belt. When you do get down there be a very light touch, and as you slowly work up your pressure listen to her breathing and moans. Its like hot and cold, but lots of great forplay makes it Hot and Hotter.
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^ I agree with the above. Whem my wife and I first dated in high school I really wanted to go down on her, but she didn't want to let me. She was uncomfortable with it. Worked I would be discussed by the taste or smell. I was understanding and reassured her that she was clean and we would both enjoy it. I continued to ask her about it for a few months and she finally gave in, but only after we took a shower together.
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Only a few months! It took me 21 years. But we are now both so glad she finally let me.
Personally, the way she said really to me just sounds like she was surprised that you wanted to go down on her the first night. Like other people have mentioned, communication in a relationship is huge, so being open about how you feel and what you want to do is a good idea. Next time you guys are in the love making mood, go down on her. Like everyone else is saying, foreplay first but it sounds like you guys were already making love which obviously by then she is in the mood. But make it a sweet transition. Like I said, I think she was just surprised, not turned off. If she were to ask again, just say you really want to give her a kiss. Tell her how much you want her, and she'll let you. Good luck! Let us know how it goes!
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I think some girls are just a bit hung-up on cunnlingus early on if they are not that experienced. As they guys have mentioned, tell her that it turns you on and that you like to give her pleasure....and all that sort of stuff. The other one to try is to shower together first and see what happens.
If its any consolation I have had many Oh No's in my time and been dragged back up to the top half..It just one of those things.
If its any consolation I have had many Oh No's in my time and been dragged back up to the top half..It just one of those things.
Simple.Put your fingers there.Move them.Then ask if she wants something way better.Get the tongue out.
we did plenty of foreplay before we actually had sex, kissed her everywhere and slowly moved down just like your supposed to do. she said shes only had 1 guy ever go down on her but then when i teased the idea that i wanted to go down on her she it seemed like she was either not into the idea or she was suprised i wanted to either way it was kind of a mood killer, was i maybe expecting too much seeing as it was my first time?
