Didn't mean to step on people's toes. I apologize if my previous post offended you.
So let me clarify what I meant of not masturbating. I guess I was a little vague in my previous post.
To mind you, BigAl & those gurus are not porn addicts. They didn't have an incredibly strong addiction to fight.
There are the normal mild porn users and there are those heavy porn addicts.
For these normal people, masturbate/edge as you will. If you are not having frequent sex, surely masturbation is a nice alternative. For you normal people (as opposed to porn addicts), you were not the target audience of my previous post. Do whatever you want, as long as it makes you happy. I don't care.
Now, it's a bit different for the heavy porn addicts. I am not going to tell you what makes a person a porn addicts, because I believe all the addicts clearly know that they are addicted. For those of you, yes, edging is good, but do you have the ability to differentiate masturbating & edging? Does your brain knows how they are different? Probably not. See, years of heavy porn uses has established strong links (brain path-way) between masturbating and porn usage. It's very hard to separate them at the beginning of the fight. By masturbating, you are re-enforcing your "porn feels so good" mentality. It only makes it a lot harder to get rid of porn.
Ok, now you say Edging is not masturbating. True, it is not. But as I said, at this stage, your brain won't be able to tell the difference. Again, I am only talking about the heavy porn addicts here. (For those of you who are just mild porn users and have no addiction, please just ignore this). That's why I strongly recommend no masturbation for the first few months during your fight against porn addiction. Seriously, how bad do you want to get rid of this addiction? If you keep finding excuses for yourself, then you probably don't want it bad enough. You will NOT die from not masturbating in 90 days (also, you ejaculate during sex don't you? and there are also wet dreams. so you still ejaculate, just not via masturbating).
And I am NOT asking you to stop masturbation for your life, I am simply saying don't do it for a mere of 90 days. Is that too long compare to your life long addiction?
Again, this is only meant for the heavy porn addicts who Really wants to get rid of their addictions. If you are not one of these people, you are probably going to be fine doing AP90 while masturbating. So please ignore this post. And remember, everyone is in a different situation, you have to judge for yourself. For example, somebody said he does phone sex with his girl. Obviously that's totally fine. You are in a healthy relationship, you are interacting with each other.
Also, this is not a discussion of whether masturbation is good for you. This is related to porn addiction, and the reason I bring up masturbation is because it's an essential factor in porn addictions. (how many people watch porn and don't masturbate?). The ultimate goal of AP90 is no porn, not no masturbation. It's just that masturbation along the way makes it a lot harder to reach that no porn destination.
And for the love of god, if you are not a heavy porn addict. Don't get all mad at me, just ignore this post. It's not for you.
