Young, insecure male.....

[MrBigDick]

No problem bro.I kind of figured that was your intent.I have put my foot in my mouth more than once here. At least you didn't tell me you could bone my wife better than I could like some other guy here did. I will admit that it would be cool to have a women pick you after being with other men as long as you can keep the jealously in check.Take care.

OK ColtAR, you seriously need to let that go bro.........there was no need to bring it up here again.

 

[MrBigDick]

But why is it that for every girl with a "past" that has changed, there is some douchebag who got to use her and take photos? I garantee you his life is better than mine. He slept with half the dormitory. If he ever saw me with her, he would laugh to himself that I am such a chump.

You know something joeaverage, I'm going to seriously hope that all that you've typed in this thread since your admission on being intoxicated is seriously just "drunk talk". If you've been serious with what you've said here, then you do need to seek more therapy sessions than you currently are. From what I'm reading, you're basing your ENTIRE self worth as a man on the fact that some dude in college had sex with your gf and now you think less of her because she did this with this guy? And because he bedded half the dormitory, you believe he's better than you? Are you kidding me bro? I seriously hope that no girl ever looks at YOU with those same judgmental eyes that you're using to cast judgment on this girl. You're judging her based on her actions and that isn't cool at all. This guy hasn't made you look like a chump, you're doing a fine job of that on your own.

 

[CUSP82]

Yo joeaverage, I would listen to MBD. Not only is he right but you got him pissed as well. Take heed!

 

[pterodactyl]

Hey Joe. Let me tell you that breaking up with this girl will NOT make the images in your head go away. That will take time and a whole lot of soul searching. Seems to me though that breaking up is the right thing to do. Not because of wat she did but because in your mindset right now you will eventally make her break up with you. You will become cld, then distant, then angry. Then you will say some nasty things that will hurt her deeply. Dont bring her to where you are.sure she may have fucked up but does that really give you the right to judge and condemn her?

 

[joeaverage]

But don't you think that guys like that have happier lives?

 

[Steve23]

Guys that don't think about the past that have nothing to do with them have happier lives.

 

[Closed039]

Like what?

 

[joeaverage]

Guys that fuck every woman in sight. I bet most of them end up with a woman who loves them.

 

[CUSP82]

I bet they end up with a disease and child support payments.

 

[Closed039]

Hey man, best thing for you would be to go out and "execute" your plan. Maybe it will work for you. If not, back to the drawing board.

 

[MrBigDick]

Guys that don't think about the past that have nothing to do with them have happier lives.

Exactly! Guys who focus on what makes THEM happy lead happier lives.

 

[MrBigDick]

Guys that fuck every woman in sight. I bet most of them end up with a woman who loves them.

You're placing ALOT of presumption on men here bro. You're assuming that every guy who fucks women at random have happy lives and they're care free, this, that and the other. Some of them might be sex addicts, some of them might be rapists, some of them might have deep psychological issues going on. Don't assume you know what's going on in the minds of the general male population.

You really need to focus on yourself and stop worrying so much about what other men do.

 

[ColtAR-15]

OK ColtAR, you seriously need to let that go bro.........there was no need to bring it up here again.

Well if something was done about it I wouldn't be so bitter and would love to quit mentioning it. It happenned why not let people know it happened. Since I am pretty confident that nothing will be done about it unfortunately I will always carry a grudge. I do know one thing. Had I said the same things to another member I would have been banned. I know you guys dont like me saying this but it is the truth. Sorry.

 

[MrBigDick]

Well if something was done about it I wouldn't be so bitter and would love to quit mentioning it. It happenned why not let people know it happened. Since I am pretty confident that nothing will be done about it unfortunately I will always carry a grudge. I do know one thing. Had I said the same things to another member I would have been banned. I know you guys dont like me saying this but it is the truth. Sorry.

No, you wouldn't have been banned. I'm sorry you feel the need to carry a grudge.

 

[joeaverage]

How are beta males like me supposed to be able to live happy lives when there are guys out there that can have every woman they want, use them, discard them, and let us chose amongst their table-scraps? I mean, I could never get laid like that guy if I tried. I think the only way I can ever love a woman is if I she is a virgin when I meet her....or if her former partner was in love with her and they mutually broke it off.

The only thing I am terrified of now, is that I can't ever have another relationship with a woman unless she meets my strict standard. The good thing is that I have never been too concerned about looks, so if she's physically not perfect, I don't care. Of all the things in life, I am most afraid of being alone....and when my parents die, and my few friends get married and have kids, that is where I will be. Added to the conundrum is that I never want to be a father, and I am not a christian, so finding a virgin bride that doesn't want kids, or is a christian is going to be an impossibility. Can people be happy and be celibate and alone? I am not equipped to be out there in the sexual arena. I am not equipped to be in the relationship arena. How I managed to con this woman into thinking I am is beyond me. Maybe I should run away and join a theater company, because I must be a good actor! God I am scared right now.

 

[MrBigDick]

How are beta males like me supposed to be able to live happy lives when there are guys out there that can have every woman they want, use them, discard them, and let us chose amongst their table-scraps? I mean, I could never get laid like that guy if I tried. I think the only way I can ever love a woman is if I she is a virgin when I meet her....or if her former partner was in love with her and they mutually broke it off.

The only thing I am terrified of now, is that I can't ever have another relationship with a woman unless she meets my strict standard. The good thing is that I have never been too concerned about looks, so if she's physically not perfect, I don't care. Of all the things in life, I am most afraid of being alone....and when my parents die, and my few friends get married and have kids, that is where I will be. Added to the conundrum is that I never want to be a father, and I am not a christian, so finding a virgin bride that doesn't want kids, or is a christian is going to be an impossibility. Can people be happy and be celibate and alone? I am not equipped to be out there in the sexual arena. I am not equipped to be in the relationship arena. How I managed to con this woman into thinking I am is beyond me. Maybe I should run away and join a theater company, because I must be a good actor! God I am scared right now.

You know what man, I seriously don't know what to tell you. What I'm reading here is that you are very internally unhappy and you haven't learned with how to be happy just being who you are. You are basing your happiness on someone else, be it this virgin, anti-Christian, non child liking bride or some guy that you claim has the ability to bed any woman he wishes. My advice would be to stop comparing yourself to other men and focus on being you, what makes you tick and learning how to find internal happiness. It doesn't sound like you've learned how to do any of the above.

Can people be happy and celebate alone? Sure they can, it all centers on their attitude. All I hear from you is alot of negativity. If all you do is breed negativity, that's all your going to get.

 

[TTBB]

joeaverage.. you are very reactive emotionally at the moment..
Try not to think too far into the future.
Try not to rule out relationships and women before they have even happened or you have even met the lady.
This girl turned out not to be the perfect match for you, because you can't cope...
Its ok to have standards but you do have to be careful that you don't set it so you will be alone forever.

 

[Steve23]

You wanted opinions and got great advice so far, yet you seem to be on the same path and mindset as your first post, sees we can't help you, your therapist can't help you, the only one that can help you is yourself. You had a great relationship untill she told you about her past that she wasn't proud of. She regretted it so who are you to judge her about her past that had nothing to do with you? Grow up. People have many partners in the past and ones they regeretted and wish they were never with. People make mistakes, no ones perfect. Did she complain to you about anything that had to do with guy that treated her like crap? No. Did she compare you to him? No. Then what's your problem.

 

[TTBB]

Therapists can help.
They guide a person, point out things no one else would...give a safe environment for a person to explore their emotions and response.

 

[Steve23]

He said he went to a therapist already