I need help guys (ED getting worse)
- Thread starter UKGuy
- Start date
A Venous leak can happen which is a result from a ruptured vein even if it is a small rupture because blood escapes and can lead to bruising as well. With smaller vein during clotting, blood flow could be cut off due to the limited space from the clot until the white blood cells are removed when the injured vein is healed. This doesn't only apply to the penis but on the body period.
Wouldn't this rupture heal itself quite quickly, though? I mean heal itself fully in a matter of days.
Yes, but with smaller veins, the clot can block the flow of blood unlike larger vein which are bigger for main blood flow. It is much easier to damage smaller veins because they are not as thick or wide. You don't even have to rupture it but press too hard on it. Often times this can happen when your penis is not conditioned for more intense jelgs or simply using to much pressure on the jelg moving across the veins.
Well, I see what you're saying and from what I've read and certainly been told by my Uro team, it is quite rare.
But unfortunately for me, I have been clinically diagnosed with having a Venous Leak, albeit, a 'mild' one.
- My erection will fade almost immediately without stimulation
- I rarely wake with morning wood.
On the plus side, I can keep it up indefinitely when I'm with a girl, blowjobs, sex, I'm fine and I can keep going for a goood period of time. That is, until my girlfriend uses her secret weapon on me! A position a man can only surrender to!!
Also, with Cialis, it stays hard without stimulation for longer. I don't use this though. I just tried it because my doctors told me to. The only downside is, changes of positions and the anxiety in my head *will it stay up will it stay up will it stay up* when really, you should be focusing on the pleasure!
I've heard big things about Kegels and that they can do wonders for men, including the ones with VL. I'm lucky mine is mild. I hope it stays that way, or medical science makes leaps and bounds and is able to tie up the leak permanantly one day.
I agree, I think loads of guys are scared they have VL, when in fact, it's probably just mental or another form of ED. Blood flow etc etc.
But unfortunately for me, I have been clinically diagnosed with having a Venous Leak, albeit, a 'mild' one.
- My erection will fade almost immediately without stimulation
- I rarely wake with morning wood.
On the plus side, I can keep it up indefinitely when I'm with a girl, blowjobs, sex, I'm fine and I can keep going for a goood period of time. That is, until my girlfriend uses her secret weapon on me! A position a man can only surrender to!!
Also, with Cialis, it stays hard without stimulation for longer. I don't use this though. I just tried it because my doctors told me to. The only downside is, changes of positions and the anxiety in my head *will it stay up will it stay up will it stay up* when really, you should be focusing on the pleasure!
I've heard big things about Kegels and that they can do wonders for men, including the ones with VL. I'm lucky mine is mild. I hope it stays that way, or medical science makes leaps and bounds and is able to tie up the leak permanantly one day.
I agree, I think loads of guys are scared they have VL, when in fact, it's probably just mental or another form of ED. Blood flow etc etc.
Kegels (contracted and reverse) do help if not over done because you don't need to work out the pelvic muscles everyday or do a mass about of sets to keep them toned and strong (they are minute in size).
As far as ED, there are a number of things that can play a role beside poor PC or venous leak. Bad diet and being overweight also play a major role in bad EQ or not at all. To much LDL (Low Density Lipoprotiens) which can clock the veins will affect the erection level lowering the amount of blood being passed in the veins (making the heart have to pump harder (High Blood Pressure)). Too much sugar in the diet also can do this because too much sugar thickest the blood which make it harder for blood to pass through smaller veins and capillaries which can lead to nueropathy which is common for diabetics. Too much alcohol in the system (alcoholism) can affect ED as well.
The better you take of you, the less issues with ED you will have regardless of age. I am 40 and when I get hard, it stays hard for a while but I eat healthy, take vitamins and don't do drugs or drink alcohol (but maybe a Heiny once in great while). And if you are safe with PE, better yet.
As far as ED, there are a number of things that can play a role beside poor PC or venous leak. Bad diet and being overweight also play a major role in bad EQ or not at all. To much LDL (Low Density Lipoprotiens) which can clock the veins will affect the erection level lowering the amount of blood being passed in the veins (making the heart have to pump harder (High Blood Pressure)). Too much sugar in the diet also can do this because too much sugar thickest the blood which make it harder for blood to pass through smaller veins and capillaries which can lead to nueropathy which is common for diabetics. Too much alcohol in the system (alcoholism) can affect ED as well.
The better you take of you, the less issues with ED you will have regardless of age. I am 40 and when I get hard, it stays hard for a while but I eat healthy, take vitamins and don't do drugs or drink alcohol (but maybe a Heiny once in great while). And if you are safe with PE, better yet.
Hi LukeC good to hear from you again I suspect I have the same as you I also loose my erection pretty much straight away without stimulation and I do wake up with erections but not as frequently as I used to, they're pretty weak and I loose them quickly as well when I get up. While I haven't been diagnosed with mild Venous Leakage it's pretty likely I have some form of it but the good news is Kegels work for mild forms of Venous Leakage and you know I would rather rely on Kegels for the rest of my life to maintain good erections than say get a penile implant I don't think I'll get to that stage I don't know why but I don't think I can cope with the idea of having an artifical erection and I don't want to loose anymore size it feels small enough as it is. Anyway I'm hoping to get some proper tests done and get more answers it's been long enough now (years) so I need to really sort this ED out it probably won't be until sometime next year until I get to see the uroligist though.
Last edited:
Glad to see youre doing better ukguy.
Luke, not to disagree with your uro, but he didnt diagnose you just based on that right...??
I mean, so much of this could very easily be in the head located above the neck
Such as, if youre not sleeping well or having nightmares, chances are youre not going to wake up with a rager.
Not keeping it up without stimulation? Same thing, if theres any sort of anxiety involved or youre just not 100% into it, it happens to the healthiest of guys.
Luke, not to disagree with your uro, but he didnt diagnose you just based on that right...??
I mean, so much of this could very easily be in the head located above the neck
Such as, if youre not sleeping well or having nightmares, chances are youre not going to wake up with a rager.
Not keeping it up without stimulation? Same thing, if theres any sort of anxiety involved or youre just not 100% into it, it happens to the healthiest of guys.
Glad to see youre doing better ukguy.
Luke, not to disagree with your uro, but he didnt diagnose you just based on that right...??
I mean, so much of this could very easily be in the head located above the neck
Such as, if youre not sleeping well or having nightmares, chances are youre not going to wake up with a rager.
Not keeping it up without stimulation? Same thing, if theres any sort of anxiety involved or youre just not 100% into it, it happens to the healthiest of guys.
Haha, no, I underwent a special ultrasound where they injected it and took a picture every 5 minutes for about half an hour. The injection hardly did anything. Was so self conscious.
Hey LukeC and dsfan I'm wondering what you guys do to cope with your ED psychologically?. I am trying to be more positive about my situation and not think I have irreversable ED (although it's still possible) and that it can't be cured other than a penile implant but sometimes it's so hard to cope with this mentally I did tell my dad about having ED some time ago but he didn't take me seriously and said it's all "in your head" and I don't blame him for thinking that but of course he doesn't know I tried PE and injured my dick doing it wrong I can't be that honest about how I got ED because obviously it's embarrasing. Maybe I should talk to someone? I'm nearing 27 years of age next month and I still haven't had sex.
Found somthing interesting
On the pathogenesis of penile venous leakage: role of the tunica albuginea
On the pathogenesis of penile venous leakage: role of the tunica albuginea
Vein leaks
Vein leaks
I was diagnosed with vein leaks, it's all too true. I cannot get an erection without an injection. I feel like due to the lack of blood flow, that I'm actually losing size! It is the worse feeling in the world and my dr. said there is no cure. Please someone tell me I'm not alone.
Vein leaks
I was diagnosed with vein leaks, it's all too true. I cannot get an erection without an injection. I feel like due to the lack of blood flow, that I'm actually losing size! It is the worse feeling in the world and my dr. said there is no cure. Please someone tell me I'm not alone.
Deflated glans is a problem for sex?
Deflated glans is a problem for sex?
Hi guys I have a serious question I want to ask all of you and due to my lack of experience with sex (I'm still a virgin) I'm not sure if I have a real problem when it comes to sex. I won't bore you all with my erection problems you can look back at my posts if you want to know more but basically years ago I damaged my glans from jelqing either slightly too hard or erect I guess the cause of it doesn't matter. The injury after all these years is almost certainly permanent. The main problem is when I get an erection the glans are often small and deflated and for some reason they won't fully engorge I have heard that soft glans can make insertion of the penis difficult due to this and it worries me. Anyway I am really trying to sort myself out and my erection troubles because it is no doubt holding me back from actually having sex.
How much of a problem is it having glans that don't fully expand? Is sex still possible with soft glans? It's pretty frustrating becasue I am able to get the shaft of my penis pretty hard, normal but the glans even with extreme manual stimulation just won't hardly expand at all. The most I can get the glans to fill is maybe half (50%) but never full to where it is firm and glossy. The only way that seems to fix this is surgery which is pretty unsucessful and hardly any surgeons in the world perform the procedure, the deflated/deflating glans is believed to be due to a leaking vein of somes ort but a cock ring looks to be the only other way of addressing this defect.
I am screwed? Tell me honestly I'm worried this soft glans problem will make sex more difficult maybe impossible.
Thanks
Deflated glans is a problem for sex?
Hi guys I have a serious question I want to ask all of you and due to my lack of experience with sex (I'm still a virgin) I'm not sure if I have a real problem when it comes to sex. I won't bore you all with my erection problems you can look back at my posts if you want to know more but basically years ago I damaged my glans from jelqing either slightly too hard or erect I guess the cause of it doesn't matter. The injury after all these years is almost certainly permanent. The main problem is when I get an erection the glans are often small and deflated and for some reason they won't fully engorge I have heard that soft glans can make insertion of the penis difficult due to this and it worries me. Anyway I am really trying to sort myself out and my erection troubles because it is no doubt holding me back from actually having sex.
How much of a problem is it having glans that don't fully expand? Is sex still possible with soft glans? It's pretty frustrating becasue I am able to get the shaft of my penis pretty hard, normal but the glans even with extreme manual stimulation just won't hardly expand at all. The most I can get the glans to fill is maybe half (50%) but never full to where it is firm and glossy. The only way that seems to fix this is surgery which is pretty unsucessful and hardly any surgeons in the world perform the procedure, the deflated/deflating glans is believed to be due to a leaking vein of somes ort but a cock ring looks to be the only other way of addressing this defect.
I am screwed? Tell me honestly I'm worried this soft glans problem will make sex more difficult maybe impossible.
Thanks
How can you tell when ED is mental too?
How can you tell when ED is mental too?
So I went to see my doctor this week and I was clear about wanting to see a urolgist for physical tests but my doctor insisted there was no point because the last tests I had done for blood,http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rc...sg=AFQjCNEXHVA3DjZ9iuv6OzlrvBXGsuPjlg&cad=rja testosterone etc was all normal. I wasn't too happy when he said I couldn't see the uroligist he said there was no point this ED all in my head apparently. He did ask me if something may of triggered this feeling of having ED but I wasn't bold enough to say I tried to enlarge my penis when I was 21 years old by doing jelqing and stretches and I mean how weird would that sound? I don't understand how having normal blood work resutls is enough to say a guy has no ED but here in the UK if you don't get refered to a uroligist you don't see one period the only other way is to go private. I have even told me dad about my erection problems but he too is convinced it's all in my head and I don't have the guts to tell him I stupidly tried to enlarge my dick years ago which has resulted in erection problems ever since. It's too embarrassing I'll be honest about most things but somethings you can't say.
I do wonder though if part of my ED is mental why? because in general my erection is weak, I can barely hold it and random hard ons are very rare, and again they'e weak. The samething with morning erections they're pretty infrequent and gone as soon as I get up in seconds. It feels like some days I can't even get an erection even with porn. However there are times I get good erections including in the morning and at night this is really messing with me I don't have consistencies with erections at all I don't think it helps that I have worries that my penis will turn into Fibrosis tissue and I'll end up totally impotent. Now I know the soft and deflated glans is absolutely a phsyiscal defect because the glans are soft also if I wake up with an erection or at night. However not being able to get good strong erections or none at all could this be mental? I remember I read a post here of a guy who suffered months of ED due to one bad experience of not being able to get hard and he had erection problems for months he didn't even get morning wood anymore. Can the mind really mess with your dick that much?
I really don't know what's wrong with me is it worth talking to a shrink about this? I need to do something though because these erections problems are preventing me from trying to have sex. Being a virgin with ED isnt' too sexy.
Does anyone have any advice? Also if you honestly think the problem maybe mental can I overcome this mental block?
Thanks
How can you tell when ED is mental too?
So I went to see my doctor this week and I was clear about wanting to see a urolgist for physical tests but my doctor insisted there was no point because the last tests I had done for blood,http://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rc...sg=AFQjCNEXHVA3DjZ9iuv6OzlrvBXGsuPjlg&cad=rja testosterone etc was all normal. I wasn't too happy when he said I couldn't see the uroligist he said there was no point this ED all in my head apparently. He did ask me if something may of triggered this feeling of having ED but I wasn't bold enough to say I tried to enlarge my penis when I was 21 years old by doing jelqing and stretches and I mean how weird would that sound? I don't understand how having normal blood work resutls is enough to say a guy has no ED but here in the UK if you don't get refered to a uroligist you don't see one period the only other way is to go private. I have even told me dad about my erection problems but he too is convinced it's all in my head and I don't have the guts to tell him I stupidly tried to enlarge my dick years ago which has resulted in erection problems ever since. It's too embarrassing I'll be honest about most things but somethings you can't say.
I do wonder though if part of my ED is mental why? because in general my erection is weak, I can barely hold it and random hard ons are very rare, and again they'e weak. The samething with morning erections they're pretty infrequent and gone as soon as I get up in seconds. It feels like some days I can't even get an erection even with porn. However there are times I get good erections including in the morning and at night this is really messing with me I don't have consistencies with erections at all I don't think it helps that I have worries that my penis will turn into Fibrosis tissue and I'll end up totally impotent. Now I know the soft and deflated glans is absolutely a phsyiscal defect because the glans are soft also if I wake up with an erection or at night. However not being able to get good strong erections or none at all could this be mental? I remember I read a post here of a guy who suffered months of ED due to one bad experience of not being able to get hard and he had erection problems for months he didn't even get morning wood anymore. Can the mind really mess with your dick that much?
I really don't know what's wrong with me is it worth talking to a shrink about this? I need to do something though because these erections problems are preventing me from trying to have sex. Being a virgin with ED isnt' too sexy.
Does anyone have any advice? Also if you honestly think the problem maybe mental can I overcome this mental block?
Thanks
Yes your problem is mental. Its written all over your post. The thing about your attempt at jelqing a number of years ago is just a "crutch" and an excuse you are using right now. Fact is you have stated there are times you have strong erections and you can masturbate. Thats all you need to know your ED is mental. You ask whether the brain is that powerful? Its by far the single most powerful organ of your body system. It controls everything. Did you know that there are people who fall sick and even die just because they "believe" they are sick? Right now you are believing that your "penis will turn into Fibrosis tissue and I'll end up totally impotent". That all you need to have erection problems. You are too "self aware" about your erection. Yet you are a virgin! Wow. Anyway you ask if you can overcome this mental block. Offcourse! I see men overcome it everyday. You have made the first and most important step, which is accepting that you have a mental problem. That was the biggest obstacle. Many men fail on this level as they go around in circles looking for excuses and fail to see their problem is in their head. You have by passed that obstacle. The rest will be easy. Too bad I cant post links on here but go ahead and now do some research on this issue. You will be fine.
Last edited:
You can tell when it's mental when you go to the doctor and there's no physical reason you have ED.
I don't think it's all mental though I'm convinced I destroyed my penis when I overstetched it, when stretching it shrunk up really small (like when you come out of a swimming pool) and it was hard to touch like not enough blood flow was circulating. It did go back to normal a while after but I woke up and again my my penis was shrunk and hard again like the blood flow was restricted I panicked and told my dad fortunately my penis hasn't been like that since but I'm really worried I permamantly fucked up my penis for life. I was so stupid but I never felt any pain when this happened or discomfort I can't tell you how much I regret trying to enlarge my penis sigh I was young and niave. I'm seriously worried about having fibrosis in my penis of the result of this happening years ago and that I may develop Corporal fibrosis.
I'm sorry If bore some here but I have a hard time mentally coping with having ED and I'm sure I'll end up completely impotent and never be able to experience sex. My overall confidence is good I think and general outlook on life but I have zero confidence in my ability to have sex any form of ED can and will crush a man. I get a lot more interest from women too but it kills me I am impotent.
PS: I do get pretty good erections somedays (but usually still need constant mantual stimulation) but I'm sure it's just because I've been doing Kegels. This is really messing with me too because on the same day i'll get a solid erection (with a deflated head) but still a near normal erection then later that day I can barely get it up and the erection is weak again.
Advice would be appreciated. Is it worth talking to someone about this?
Thanks
Last edited:
UKGUY even if you hurt your penis, it works more then well enough to have a great relationship with a woman. Most peoples problems are way worse then ours. Stop forcing yourself to be a virgin because of this injury. I am in the same boat as you, and I am not even entirely sure if my ED was caused by injury or not. Our problem may be mostly mental, it may be physical, it may be hormonal or due to neurotransmitters, it is unclear since we both have MILD ED. Yes, our MILD ED can becomes significant due to anxiety or on rare occasions, but for the most part we both have MILD ED or NO ED. So my advice is to go on a sex rampage (use protection or find a clean girl who you cares about you that you can reveal your sexual issues to). You can consider using a prostitute as well but make sure she is sweet, safe, and make it a last option. You dont even need to have sex, just start by getting handjobs and blowjobs from girls until u feel more comfortable with sex. You have a life to live, a great one.
