I could use some sexual advice, new girlfriend has me confused

[darinsixpack]

Met this new girl and I really like her. But all my old sexual techniques don't work on her. I'm baffled with what she said tonight after making love.

She orgasms a single time from intercourse, but it has to be with me all in and really grinding near and around her cervix. We've had sex several times and she orgasms once. Tonight I did everything to her and nothing brought her to orgasms. I performed oral on her and then worked my way up to two fingers inside her, stimulating her Gspot, working up to an agressive pace. She got very wet, but after about 20 minutes I realized she was not going to orgasm. She pulled me up on her and via my deepest possible penatration, she came. A few minutes later I got out a very powerful but small vibrator and she used it on her clit area and got excited, but again after about 15 minutes of this, she never orgasmed. So then we had some nice cuddling and pillow talk which turned to our sex

Long story made short, she told me the only way she orgasms is via deep penatration, or with me all in and grinding. Said she has never orgasmed any other way and doesn't think she could. She told me the oral and fingers feel good and the vibrator too, but "the real thing, grinding and fucking hard is what gets her there.

So here I'm laying there (you can see my stats below) thinking she must need a big dick. Bigger then me. The way she described it, made me shrivel. "I like it when the dick is all the way in pushing on me and I'm griping it, making me feel full and the end is pushing, that makes me cum." Well with my size, I just barely reach her "end area"

I've been with quite a few women and never been with one I haven't made orgasm at least 2-3 times with my fingers and mouth. Could she just be wired differently? Is she an undiscovered "size queen" ? I mean I gave it all I had, with the oral and fingers and it's never let me down. She just doesn't feel it. She said it kind of feels good, but it's not going to get her there. If the hard vibrating vibrator didn't do the trick, I doubt my tongue will either.

Anyone been with a woman like this, or ladies do you have any tips? It's like that "the first three inches inside and around the outide are most sensative" does not exist with her. I'm baffled and thinking she might be craving a big one. Any tips or Advise is welcomed.

 

[iminsoluble]

My wife is the same way, she actually told me this before we had sex (we had been talking online for over 2 months before our first date). She rarely gets clitoral orgasms.

BUT I have good news!! Obviously your long enough because you're giving her orgasms by stimulating her cervix. I'm not packing much in length so I know that she likes me to just stay inside when shes getting close and do small rhythmic hard thrusts inside her; however she is the type that will get off easier being on top with full control...go with it man!!!

 

[kungfufool]

Hey Buddy, Sorry to hear you found a hard one!! I was with a girl who never came once in her life. We had sex twice and I asked her if she wanted to try a bunch of different positions the 3rd time. The best she found was on top. I would let her have her way with me and when she was just about there grab her ass and pound fast and hard. I got her off 12 times in a single session and from there on out crazy ass orgasms every time!

Some girls are just really hard to please. Good luck hope you find a way.

 

[darinsixpack]

My wife is the same way, she actually told me this before we had sex (we had been talking online for over 2 months before our first date). She rarely gets clitoral orgasms.

BUT I have good news!! Obviously your long enough because you're giving her orgasms by stimulating her cervix. I'm not packing much in length so I know that she likes me to just stay inside when shes getting close and do small rhythmic hard thrusts inside her; however she is the type that will get off easier being on top with full control...go with it man!!!

Thanks, but damn that's frustrating, as I really like to bring the women I'm with to great pleasure via other methods then just fucking. And until this girl, I always have. I mean I have to be rock hard and pushing pubic bone to pubic bone to feel the back of her vagina. If this is the only way I'm ever going to please this women, then it's not going to work. It's like I took all the bits and pieces of what she was describing to me and she might of well just said, the bigger the better. Sucks as I really like her. I know some women are overly sensative on and around the clit and require great care and other needs stronger and or faster stimulation there. But I've never been with one who simply did not orgasm at all from clitoral and or Gspot stimulation.

 

[kungfufool]

My wife is the same way, she actually told me this before we had sex (we had been talking online for over 2 months before our first date). She rarely gets clitoral orgasms.

BUT I have good news!! Obviously your long enough because you're giving her orgasms by stimulating her cervix. I'm not packing much in length so I know that she likes me to just stay inside when shes getting close and do small rhythmic hard thrusts inside her; however she is the type that will get off easier being on top with full control...go with it man!!!

HAHA Wrote mine while you wrote yours. Concensus: On top....

 

[someone_like_u]

Darin, I agree with the guys here.

Let her on top and do her thang!

Granted, you probably won't last as long, as you're not in control, but it's an amazing experience, from a woman's prospective, to be able to control all the sensations and perhaps discover new orgasms along the way.

 

[somebodyelse]

The bottom line here is that you put it all the way in, and she came...

The end is that she came, right? Mission accomplished, she's happy.

My partner didn't get off from my mouth at all, and anytime my face was down there, she found it near impossible to orgasm.

 

[BigO]

Some women only come from oral andnot penetration, some come with penetration alone. Some women have never had an orgasm. you say she cums everytime you penetrate and grind. So penetrtae and grind.
You should not put your worries on her being a size queen, to be honest this seems to be an issue with you. You think all woman have had or need a bigger dick then yours so I would guess they do because no one can convince you otherwise. You should just send her packing now and get it it over with.

 

[wish-4-8]

Its a nice ego check. All your tricks are nice and all, but the lesson here is that everyone is different. I always go into a new situation will a new slate. I will try different things but will never assume that something has to automatically work on this person, because it has on another. The more open you are, the more you will discover something new. Dont be discouraged.

The secret to being a great lover is not in bringing what you already know, but in what you are willing to discover.

 

[second lensman]

Maybe once she relaxes a little it will come easier for her, you're right however that we're all different in some way.

 

[Jackxxx]

Let her on top is a good advise, HOWEVER, if that was the answer, she would be used to take that initiative.

After reading the 2 first paragraphs of this thread, I thought she might like it violent and rough. Not necessarily, but it might be the answer. You gotta try slowly or ask her some key questions to get a clue. She doesn't necessarily needs a huge cock. It might be enough for example, after turning her on, turn her around against the wall, pull her hair back hard and penetrate it hard. Shove it all the way in so she really feel it. If you work on her too much, she will be wet to the point that what you have just slides in. Don't wait that long. "rape her" in a lovely way. Without hurting her of course. You gotta listen to her body. Women are like a musical instrument when you are reproducing with them.

 

[spanky]

Its a nice ego check. All your tricks are nice and all, but the lesson here is that everyone is different. I always go into a new situation will a new slate. I will try different things but will never assume that something has to automatically work on this person, because it has on another. The more open you are, the more you will discover something new. Dont be discouraged.

The secret to being a great lover is not in bringing what you already know, but in what you are willing to discover.

This. In abundance.

 

[somebodyelse]

Its a nice ego check. All your tricks are nice and all, but the lesson here is that everyone is different. I always go into a new situation will a new slate. I will try different things but will never assume that something has to automatically work on this person, because it has on another. The more open you are, the more you will discover something new. Dont be discouraged.

The secret to being a great lover is not in bringing what you already know, but in what you are willing to discover.

This... 100%

 

[Steve23]

Let her on top is a good advise, HOWEVER, if that was the answer, she would be used to take that initiative.

After reading the 2 first paragraphs of this thread, I thought she might like it violent and rough. Not necessarily, but it might be the answer. You gotta try slowly or ask her some key questions to get a clue. She doesn't necessarily needs a huge cock. It might be enough for example, after turning her on, turn her around against the wall, pull her hair back hard and penetrate it hard. Shove it all the way in so she really feel it. If you work on her too much, she will be wet to the point that what you have just slides in. Don't wait that long. "rape her" in a lovely way. Without hurting her of course. You gotta listen to her body. Women are like a musical instrument when you are reproducing with them.

If a woman like it like that she normally does it to you first, she would pull your hair first and such, or tell you she likes it hard. Just getting 'clues' for you to do something stupid like pull her hair, you want him to hurt her or to have sex with her, "push your cock in hard when shes not ready and wet enough" seriously? The fact that he gave her an orgasm with his dick is enough to say she's not a size queen. This sounds like stuff that will make him single.

 

[islander]

go to cosmopolitan.com or askmen. Their section under sex/love has 100's of positions to try. Dont let her orgasm torment you. Its great that you want her to have one but she knows better than you her issues with it. She may say she needs it deep because that was all her previous partner did. You can be the partner that makes love to her OR is a great lover by doing trial runs/practice. Break out a few new things each time you are together (if this is someone you want to have a LTR with) then its not a waste of time.
Also keep in mind every day is a different mood day for a woman (what? hahahah) so sometimes what worked two days ago doesn't work today. Its not your fault its our mind and energy level.

Sometimes I flat out dont want to have an O. I just want sex but am not interested in having an O. More like a work out if you will. A quicky or a long session but still if I dont want an O you aint gonna get me to have one. That doesn't mean I dont want you, lust you, want to feel you etc...

Good luck!

To add: My recent partner gave me O's over the fargin phone! Over and over and over again. Never had that happen before in my life. In person he did the same thing with his peen and other ways. So do your foreplay before you arrive. Sexting, sexy phone talk, you will get to know what turns her on. I think if I was a guy I would LOVE arriving to my woman and finding her soaking wet. I feel confident my partner liked that about me. He knew I was thinking of him.

 

[Starbuck1776]

Sir, I think you think too much

Although I haven't experienced as many different ladies as you, I do know that a lot of women don't look for a orgasm every time!

I bet if you relieve yourself of the pressure of providing her so many orgasms, you might enjoy yourself more!

Relax my friend!

 

[Jackxxx]

If a woman like it like that she normally does it to you first, she would pull your hair first and such, or tell you she likes it hard. Just getting 'clues' for you to do something stupid like pull her hair, you want him to hurt her or to have sex with her, "push your cock in hard when shes not ready and wet enough" seriously? The fact that he gave her an orgasm with his dick is enough to say she's not a size queen. This sounds like stuff that will make him single.

mhh...If I could describe you each type of woman I've been with...you cannot predict anything from them.

 

[MrBigDick]

mhh...If I could describe you each type of woman I've been with...you cannot predict anything from them.

This is one instance Jackxxx that I actually agree with you. Women are like used cars, until you bring them home and take them for a spin, you never know what you've got to work with. Sorry about the analogy but it was the best one I could come up with. Just like used cars, they are ALL different.