Progress with ED boyfriend (I am female)

[Minuteman]

That sounds marvelous! You are a lucky woman.

I had a very similar experience with my G-spot -- I went for years thinking that I didn't have one. What a surprise to find out that I was wrong! I, too, have gotten a whole lot of pleasure out of my G-spot now that I know about it. It just took the right guy to help me find it.

The whole concept of the right guy finds G-spot is somehow.... i just don't understand it.

Not to sound like a jerk, but the guy before could just as easy reach that spot with his fingers, i mean it is there where it is, why didn't the guy before did it, was he not interested in your enjoyment? If he found the G-spot would you stay with him?

This questions may sound offensive but please don't be offended.
In other words i would be very grateful if you could explain this more, because i can't shake the feeling that i'm missing something very important here. This goes for any girl here that feels she can explain this for me.

From the way you said it it is not just that he touches it, it is when and why and how and i just don't comprehend... i feel like the part of my brain, that was needed for all this to make sense, was just taken out.

 

[CUSP82]

Happy endings are always nice and not to put the pressure on anyone but this may be a happy beginning

 

[Batwoman]

No offense taken, Minuteman -- it's a reasonable question.

I think it all comes down to patience, curiosity, arousal, and a good sense of humor. It was rather like embarking on an expedition -- lots of erotic play, fumbling, and laughter as he did various things and we talked about how it felt. He'd ask questions, and i would respond. I'd make suggestions, and he would try them. I had to be TOTALLY comfortable and aroused, willing to let myself go for him. Mood matters with things like this.

Could another guy have achieved that with me? Maybe. But none of them ever did.

In truth neither of us was sure whether or not the G-spot was real or a myth until we discovered it. That uncertainty alone probably stops a lot of people from ever finding it.

 

[Minuteman]

Thank you for the explanation. I am glad that you where able to find the one that found you

I will be very patient when searching for it but i see that it has a lot to do with the women in question it is that she simply have to feel very comfortable and secure with me for any of that to happen.

In first i thought that the very fact of having sex with some one is the ultimate act of intimacy and the good indicator that she trusts you completely, but i begin to see that it is much more deeper than that. Thank you for providing me with this useful insight, my future love will probably be as thankful as well

 

[UYN]

Great hearing this misty

-UYN-

 

[moxsum]

Funny.. i went out with my girl for over 3 years and then one day she mentioned "my G spot is on the right side" .. funny she never thought to tell me that before? but i guess it my job to find out.?? but she could have told me that in the beginning lol.. eh.. what r u gonna do. Personally I dont think its the mans job to like, go on a treasure hunt for the G spot.. its the womans job to guide him there, if she cares at all about her own pleasure? wtf..

 

[Batwoman]

Lots of girls don't know they have a G-spot, or can't find it. I thought it was a myth for many years, or that I didn't have one. Maybe your girlfriend had just discovered her G-spot on her own while masturbating, and told you soon after?

Like all other things sexual, it is the responsibility of BOTH partners to communicate as much as they can, and to be as receptive as they can to learning about their partner's parts, desires, likes, dislikes, and so on. Saying "it's her responsibility" is like saying "I don't care about her that much, I'm in this for me only."

 

[UYN]

I agree with what you are saying BW, but I think moxsum means the whole "help us, help you". Although BW is right on how it you seem like you are coming across.

-UYN-

 

[mistydawn]

Hi again. Just a small update. I got my book I ordered about how to please a man. I am looking for anything to make sex good for my BF. The next time I see him I am going to have him lay back and relax while I give him a penis massage. It will not to try and give him a woody (if it happens that is great) but just to make him feel good. Massages feel good anywhere on your body so with all those nerves down there I figure it has to feel good. I will find some kind of lube (water based) that will work well for a massage. Maybe someone might know a good lube for this? In case he does get hard and we have intercourse I don't want an massage oil inside me. I just hope he will let me do this and like it.

 

[beetleboy]

Congratulations on the progress, that's awesome and I wish you more success in the future. As far as massages go I can't really recommend a particular lube, although I've heard grape seed oil is great and is safe for inside of you - find it at health food stores, but maybe start out with a good back/shoulder massage so it is non sexual. I don't know many guys who would say no to a sexy woman offering one as she sits somewhat scantilly clad on his back and he probably won't feel like there is any pressure to get hard. You can slowly work into a more sexual massage as you move down his back to his butt and then have him roll over, again starting at the top and working down. A good inside thigh massage always feels good too and it's not necessarily sexual but it's close enough to get the blood flowing. Good luck.