Ok so apparently cute receptionist girl un-friended me. I blame facebook. Or maybe her own insecurity / jealousy. There was a lot of communication going on between me and a bunch of my dancer friends (read: cute girls) about meeting up, and then lots of posts on each others' walls for such a fun time, yadda yadda. I mean, hell, it was Halloween weekend, right? There's gonna be lots of stuff going on, and a lot of coordinating, and then lots of talk afterwards.
I'll still be nice and smiley when I see her next. No need to be angry or upset.
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On another note, was shopping for the last bits of my costume for tonight's party (yes, this is the 5th party in 3 days!), going as a punk rocker, but adding in some cutesy type stuff (hello kitty necklace & bracelet, elmo socks, temporary tattoos of butterflies and peace symbols). I went in to Spencer's and was looking for some clip-on earrings, was helped by this pretty cute cashier. Just played it normal because I didn't want to intrude or seem creepy (unwelcome advances are interpreted as creepy, so I only advance when I sense attraction).
About a minute into it, I noticed she was being really helpful and ignoring other customers to help me. I told her she could take care of the other people, so she left to do that. She kept coming back and saying, "I'll get back to you right away" every 2 or 3 minutes, I guess to make sure I wasn't going to leave. I said things like "No don't worry about it," "Take your time," and "No rush." Then we started looking at jewelry (I have my navel pierced).
I made a few jokes that got her laughing. She asked to see my navel ring. It's a typical ring with a single ball. She said, "Oh, I was expecting something else." And I said, "What, like a unicorn?" She laughed and said, "You're funny!"
Then she found out the gauge (size) of the ring, it was 14-gauge. I told her I might be willing to go with a thicker metal, since a thicker ring would look more manly. There was a 10-gauge one that I liked, but then I said that I think it would be too much of a jump to go from 14 to 10, and I said, "It'll be too big. I won't be able to fit it in." Then we continued looking, and about 10 seconds later I said, "That didn't sound too good." She laughed again.
There were these navel rings that had the Playboy bunny logo on the ball, really small logo. She said, "Well, it's so small nobody's gonna see it unless they get really close." And then I said, "Yeah, nobody's gonna see it. ... Well,... if they do see it, they'll already know anyways... if they're down there already." She laughed, and then asked for my name.
I told her I used to have my tonuge pierced (which is true). She said she would do it, but people usually think you're slutty if you're a girl with a pierced tongue. I said that I could understand that. Then she asked why I took mine out, I told her because it was damaging my teeth.
After she rang me up and I paid, I asked if she went dancing. She said "no" and then told me that she was in culinary school learning to be a pastry chef. We talked about that for a while, she seemed like she enjoyed talking to me. I asked follow up questions. Then I gave her my phone number, written on receipt paper (with my name, number, and the description "Punk with feelings
" ), telling her that if she ever wants to try dancing, she should call me.
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So, there it is! Any advice / suggestions? Debriefing? Was it right to give her my number, or should I have asked for hers instead?
I've pretty much found out that, like most people here say, facebook is a death knoll on any potential budding relationship, which is why I didn't ask for hers. I also used it at a party on Saturday to "deflect" the advances of a pretty hot girl. Really hot, blonde Australian girl that locked eyes with me on the dance floor, so I just walked over to her, but something about the way she was acting made me feel like she was trouble. I felt that she was advancing too quick, and when she asked for a way to get in touch, I told her to look me up on facebook (which she did). Now I know that facebook is a "deflection" device, and a phone number is the way to go.
I feel more comfortable giving her my number because then I don't have to worry about the timing, when should I call, is it gonna be too forward?
I'm thinking, if she doesn't call me after a week or so, I'll go in and see her. Not buy anything, just see if she's there, and then say, "oh, I'm not here to get anything, I came in to see you" and then maybe invite her out to something that's going on. If she isn't there, I can leave a note for her co-workers to leave in her work inbox or something, letting her know about what this thing going on and to call me if she wants to come (or if she just wants to hang out).
I like this idea of just coming out and being forward and clear. It's more my style. But I understand that I shouldn't label it as "date" or anything.
