Hook up after Blowjob?

[TTBB]

Batwoman, Titty, Islander and Mistydawn. What is your opinion on a guy shying
away with his cum on your lips? Do you take offense or do you respect that and
not let it bother you?

i would find it hypocritical and insulting.
if your spunk is not good enough for you then its not good enough for me... if you pull away from a kiss for this reason then you wouldn't deserve my kisses... if you acted with disgust at the thought of tasting your sperm on my lips and on my tongue then you would have to accept that i might take the same approach to your sperm being on my lips and in my mouth... because your veiw of your cum would put a negative thought into my head .. if you treat it as something nasty then i would probably subconsciously start think you are right your cum is nasty(esp if your cum is nasty but i still go down on you to provide pleasure)

 

[GaryTruman]

never after i finish in her mouth though. that's a no no for me.

 

[closeed258]

i would find it hypocritical and insulting.
if your spunk is not good enough for you then its not good enough for me... if you pull away from a kiss for this reason then you wouldn't deserve my kisses... if you acted with disgust at the thought of tasting your sperm on my lips and on my tongue then you would have to accept that i might take the same approach to your sperm being on my lips and in my mouth... because your veiw of your cum would put a negative thought into my head .. if you treat it as something nasty then i would probably subconsciously start think you are right your cum is nasty(esp if your cum is nasty but i still go down on you to provide pleasure)

Well it's different for men although some don't mind it, whether you're gay or straight it's just not normal for a man to want his semen in his mouth and I'm sure there are plenty of girls who don't like kissing their man straight after he has been licking her pussy, if a girl didn't want to kiss me immediately after going down on her I wouldn't be offended at all. JMO

 

[TTBB]

Its not different for men.
I am not sure why some of you guys think its different for a women to have her juices given back to her in her mouth, its really no different, its all tasting your own sexual juice...

 

[closeed258]

Its not different for men.
I am not sure why some of you guys think its different for a women to have her juices given back to her in her mouth, its really no different, its all tasting your own sexual juice...

I think it's very different, the poll says it's normal to some others but to me it's not normal.

 

[CUSP82]

Normal? Here is the trueist statement I have ever made here. No one here is normal!

 

[Batwoman]

Batwoman, Titty, Islander and Mistydawn. What is your opinion on a guy shying
away with his cum on your lips? Do you take offense or do you respect that and
not let it bother you?

The truth? I might not think he was abnormal, but I would certainly think that he's a wuss.
I would probably conclude that he is not sexually comfortable with himself and is is therefore not a good match for me.

 

[Lazy 8]

i would find it hypocritical and insulting.
if your spunk is not good enough for you then its not good enough for me... if you pull away from a kiss for this reason then you wouldn't deserve my kisses... if you acted with disgust at the thought of tasting your sperm on my lips and on my tongue then you would have to accept that i might take the same approach to your sperm being on my lips and in my mouth... because your veiw of your cum would put a negative thought into my head .. if you treat it as something nasty then i would probably subconsciously start think you are right your cum is nasty(esp if your cum is nasty but i still go down on you to provide pleasure)

I agree with you, TTBB. It's weird how guys think it's OK to have a woman take his load and then not give her the love that she deserves. It's disrespectful, to say the least.

 

[ultimape]

i would find it hypocritical and insulting.
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I think this is a rather unfortunate point of view to say the least... It seems quite extreme to label men that don't like to have their own cum in their mouth as hypocrites that are insulting women ..

Men and women are different , like different things and respond to different sexual triggers .

So if a men likes to go anal on his girlfriend does this mean his girlfriend will have to go dildo-anal on him as well so it does not become a hypocritical and insulting act ?

Personally I like ejaculating on my girlfriend's mouth or to give her facials ... But she LOVES it ..she LOVES it.. More than I do . I am telling you she is obsessed with it , just can't have enough of it ..

But myself , I don't like the taste of my cum and I do not want it anywhere near my mouth .

Are you saying that I am an hypocrite and that I am insulting my girlfriend ?

 

[TTBB]

So if a men likes to go anal on his girlfriend does this mean his girlfriend will have to go dildo-anal on him as well so it does not become a hypocritical and insulting act ? you can see my thoughts here.... i made more then one post on the topic in this thread

https://www.pegym.com/forums/poll-f...n-have-you-ever-tried-anal-stimulation-8.html

 

[ultimape]

So , in your view :

- Men that don't like to have their own cum in their mouth are hypocritical and insulting .

- Men that like to perform anal to their girlfriends but don't like to have anything up their own ass are hypocritical and insulting .

- Men that don't like to shave their own hairs but like a shaved pussy are hypocritical and insulting ..


This type of reasoning , where we are all the same and men and women should all like and do the same exact things is empty and leads us nowhere . If , on top of such reasoning , one proceeds to diminish the moral standards of those that do not share such view for the simple fact that they think differently , we reach nowhere even faster .

 

[TTBB]

i am not saying you have to do it .. i am saying you shouldn't expect others to do what you will not do yourself... treat others as you wish to be treated.
i have no desire to put a dildo up a mans ass .. but why is it acceptable to put one up my ass and when he isn't willing to have the same done to him...its a double standard, i mean my ass is no different to his in design if anything mens assholes are more designed for anal sex because of the magic spot

its more about the expectations men put onto women ..they expect women to do certain things and if she doesn't then she isn't giving enough or she falls short which is hypocritical...since they aren't willing to give what they are asking for.

 

[NP97]

I don't agree with that either, BUT I know what TTBB means.
She is saying there is no cum left in your ladies mouth but you won't kiss her. Not that her mouth is full of jizz and you're licking it out.
I get what she is saying... although I'm not on board with stuff going up my poop shoot... but that's just me.

 

[ThinJohnny]

Let's make it simple:

1)Don't ask for blow jobs if you won't eat pussy.

2)Don't get mad at a woman if she won't let you kiss her after you've gone down on her, if you won't let her kiss you after she's swallowed your cum.

I would say those are the Golden Rules of Oral Sex, not "Ive eaten your cum, so you must eat some of your own cum too."

With anal, I think the better analogy would be:
Say a woman loves having her ass eaten by her man. Should that woman feel obligated to take a kiss from her lover afterwards? I don't think so.

The guy who has just penetrated his woman's ass with his cock, who presents his member for a slurpy blowjob, is clearly pushing the limits of polite courtship, because he just received at least half of the benefit. But the man who just finished the rim job, who is merely looking for a thank you kiss on the lips - is he justified in being angry if Anal Annie refuses his kiss?

I realize there's a health factor involved here, but let's assume for the moment that there is no health risk, and only a gross out factor. Does Romeo the Rimjob Boy get a kiss?

What do you think ladies?

 

[TTBB]

you are right about the cum in the mouth thing.

and about the anal...do you understand and are you compassionate to women who freak out or dislike the idea of having things up their ass? or do you put the view that its normal and its expected as part of the sexual relationship?
the main thing i was trying to get across was many women have the same reaction or view as the men when it comes to anal sex..so i was trying to get you to put yourselves into the female shoes for a moment... and i have had many partners and friends and men make out that a woman is a prude or pressure women for anal sex because they think its normal..men seem to expect anal like its nothing out of the ordinary .. the reality is its not normal to everyone and there is still stigma and taboo around it with both genders
AND how can you say it doesn't hurt or its enjoyable if you have never experienced it from the receiving end .. and i will again say i have no desire to fuck a man up the butt with a strap on or toy..a finger is maybe a different story depending on the man and the moment ..lol

 

[ultimape]

i have no desire to put a dildo up a mans ass ..

You have no desire to put a dildo up a mans ass , and most men have no desire to have a dildo up their ass .

Many men have however the desire to have anal sex with their girls ( I am not particularly into it TBH and it has always been the girl to ask me for anal , I have never initiated it since I really prefer pussy anytime , any day ) and some girls like it and they are the ones that ask for it .

This has nothing to do with double standard . Its a question of what Girl A likes and Boy A likes .

What should happen :

• If Boy A likes to do anal sex but Girl A does not like - they should not do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to do anal sex and Girl A likes it as well - they should do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to have a dildo up his ass but Girl A hates the idea - they should not do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to have a dildo up his ass and Girl A likes the idea - they should do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .

What should NOT happen :

• Boy A likes to have anal sex with Girl A and Girl A likes it but says she will only have anal sex if he is willing to take a dildo up his ass so that there are no "double standards" , which would be hypocritical and insulting .
• Boy A likes to cum in Girl A mouth and Girl A likes it but says she will only do that if Boy A then eats his own cum off her mouth so that there are no "double standards" , which would be hypocritical and insulting .

This is why your reasoning is faulty . Sex is not a mathematical chain of parallel events where Action X is performed to both subjects in the same manner .

Sex is not about "I pull your nipple , you pull mine " ," I eat your cum , you eat it too" or "I take it in the ass , so you take it as well".

Sex is about pleasure . Sex is about doing what makes you feel good .

It's not like we are pinning down a girl and forcing semen into their mouths .. Personally I always ask a girl where does she want me to cum . It has always been the girls that have asked me to cum in their mouth or give them facials . And for what I can see many of them really like it - they ask for it .

Many times , even if I ejaculate in their body/breasts , I will see them licking it or having a taste with their fingers . I am not saying that every girl likes it , but from my personal experience , the girls that do eat it or taste it do so because they find it exciting and because it is something that they WANT to do .

If this is something that those girls WANT to do , if it's something that they like and that they find exciting , why in the world would it be required that the men eats it as well do validate anything ?

Why in the world would it be hypocritical and insulting for the men not to eat or taste the cum if it is something that he does not want to do ?

 

[TTBB]

SEx is about respect, empathy and mutual pleasure.

What should happen :

• If Boy A likes to do anal sex but Girl A does not like - they should not do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to do anal sex and Girl A likes it as well - they should do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to have a dildo up his ass but Girl A hates the idea - they should not do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .
• If Boy A likes to have a dildo up his ass and Girl A likes the idea - they should do it . Nothing insulting or hypocritical about that .

and i have never point blankly said to a guy and i never would unless he was a complete cunt.

• Boy A likes to have anal sex with Girl A and Girl A likes it but says she will only have anal sex if he is willing to take a dildo up his ass so that there are no "double standards" , which would be hypocritical and insulting .
• Boy A likes to cum in Girl A mouth and Girl A likes it but says she will only do that if Boy A then eats his own cum off her mouth so that there are no "double standards" , which would be hypocritical and insulting .

You have no idea how much pressure guys can put on women... and you have no idea what a double standard the grooming side of life can be.. the double standard the oral sex side of things can be... you also have no idea how hurtful it can be when after you have sucked a guys cock and you go in for a kiss he pulls back with disgust because you have his cum on your breath and taste in your mouth.

The whole licking cum thing off of body.. sticking fingers into pussy and tasting themselves.. yes some women do enjoy that, other women have learned men enjoy seeing women doing that because of porn .. so they do it please and turn on the guy ..its more for the guys pleasure because guys are visual..so it turns them on more.

if a man came all over my boobs and it was rubbed in my skin and he became afraid to kiss my breast afterwards it would concern me

i never said eat his own cum.. i am talking about avoiding lip and tongue contact after having fluid exchange

 

[ultimape]

As for the grooming debate , that could lead to a whole different topic which I am happy to discuss later if you so like .

As for the topic at hand , you seem to be in a I suffer-You suffer train of thought here which is a bit confusing . Plus you are also introducing a different premisse to the point , which is that girls only allow guys to cum on their mouth or body and taste it because they feel pressured to do so .

I am not saying that this might not happen , I have no problem agreeing that some girls might not like it but only allow for it because they feel like they must do so . I am sure that such cases exist .

FOR THOSE CASES WHERE THE GIRL IS BEING PRESSURED : The fact that she is being pressured into doing something that she does not want to do is strong enough for the case to end here . If she really does not want to do it and is something that she truly dislikes she shouldn't do it , period . I can't see how the fact that , on top of her not liking it , the guy tonguing her would help her in any way or make the scenario any more justifiable . People should only do sexual acts they are comfortable with and willing to do .

However I don't think we can assume that this is the standard and for the purposes of this topic I think it is implicit that the girl is receiving ejaculation in her mouth because she so desires and not because she is forced .

FOR THE GIRLS THAT DO LIKE IT :If they are doing something that they like , the case ends here . I don't see why they need to french-kiss the guy while their mouth still has semen to make the act valid or fair .

I also wish to reiterate that I find your remark about considering men that ejaculate on their partners mouth but do not want semen in their own mouth as hypocritical and insulting to be highly unfortunate .

With that sentence you are offending many guys in this forum - including myself .

It is also a sentence that seems quite detached , from my reality at least.

I have nothing but respect for women and have always treated women like rare treasures . I would never do anything with them that they did not want to do or force them into any sexual activity against their desire .

My experience tells me that many girls really like semen . They like it on their breast , they like to finger lick it , they like it on their ass.. they LIKE it and they are the ones that ask for it.

It never ceases to amaze me the number of girls that have asked me to cum on their face or mouths and how much fun they had with it .

Well , I personally don't like it and I don't want it anywhere near my mouth , does this mean I should not do these acts that those girls like and ask for ?

I'll tell you what , I am going to tell my girlfriend , which is a semen freak , that from now on I won't be cumming in her mouth or face anymore because I myself wouldn't like cum on my own mouth or face .. I am telling you she is going to be mad frustrated , but hey I guess I won't be insulting her anymore in my hypocritical fashion anymore then right ?

 

[TTBB]

Its my opinion, i am not saying to live your life based on my opinion... i was asked my view on how i would feel about a guy not wanting to make out after getting a blow job ..
You aren't seeing the point i was trying to make which is fine ..I am sorry it has offended you but i am not sorry about my opinion

I also wish to reiterate that I find your remark about considering men that ejaculate on their partners mouth but do not want semen in their own mouth as hypocritical and insulting to be highly unfortunate .

With that sentence you are offending many guys in this forum - including myself .

I was not talking about talking about cum filled kisses..I was talking about cum traces in the mouth... some men do like cum kisses but not all i am realistic about it..

The fact that she is being pressured into doing something that she does not want to do is strong enough for the case to end here . If she really does not want to do it and is something that she truly dislikes she shouldn't do it , period . I can't see how the fact that , on top of her not liking it , the guy tonguing her would help her in any way or make the scenario any more justifiable . People should only do sexual acts they are comfortable with and willing to do .

in an ideal world but we don't live in an ideal world.

I'll tell you what , I am going to tell my girlfriend , which is a semen freak ,that from now on I won't be cumming in her mouth or face anymore because I myself wouldn't like cum on my own mouth or face .. I am telling you she is going to be mad frustrated , but hey I guess I won't be insulting her anymore in my hypocritical fashion anymore then right ?

i think i just got what the issue is based on how you generalized cum on your face and mouth..

 

[Total_Honesty]

I'm gonna end this right now:

Men, for the most part, don't want to eat their own semen. It would be considered gay to them. That is why alot of men won't do it.
Women need to know this. Don't date an idiot and get mad when he does idiotic things, so if he displays homophobic tendencies, don't get mad when he won't kiss you after oral.

Total Honesty!