Hard Flaccid Cure

[guestbo]

Hello everyone. English is not my language so I apologize in advance for any mistakes.
I want to help as many people as possible who have and will have this problem.
A year and a half ago I suffered from Hard Flaccid. At that time it was two weeks since I started PE. The symptoms were as we all know them.

What I want to focus on today is the final explanation of what Hard Flaccid is.
In the past I suffered from obsessive compulsive disorder. I am not going to write down the symptoms in detail here, what you need to know is that it is an anxiety disorder characterized by the constant search for reassurance that leads to further anxiety.
Well ladies and gentlemen, Hard Flaccid is nothing but a form of obsessive compulsive disorder.
You have no permanent d'year to your penis (unless you took a knife and cut it off).
The good news? Tomorrow if you calm your anxiety the problem will disappear.
The bad news? If you don't calm your anxiety the problem will remain forever, years years of your life.

Let me clarify: I am not saying that reverse kegel, diaphragmatic breathing, and all stretching techniques do not work but I am saying that you are attacking the problem from the wrong angle.

True, you have a contracted pelvic floor but this contracture will not go away until you calm your anxiety and this can only be done by you and no one else. You can go to all the doctors in the world and they will tell you that you don't have a penis problem because this is the reality: YOUR PENIS HAS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT.

It is your mind that is the problem, you have accumulated all the anxiety in your pelvic floor and it is in a state of perpetual contraction.

You see the problem wrongly: you think that in order to get rid of your anxiety you will have to heal first, instead the procedure must be the other way around. Calm the anxiety and you will heal.

How did I realize that Hard Flaccid is actually an obsessive compulsive disorder with somatic character? Very simple. Have you ever had anxiety before a university exam? Have you ever been running for more than 15 minutes? If you have looked at your penis after these activities you have surely seen that your penis was in a contracted state, a symptom equal to Hard Flaccid. Have you become panicky? NO. Because you were aware that within 20 to 30 minutes it would return to normal.

Instead in this case you feel guilty, because you did a penis exercise that many people tell you is dangerous. And so you have convinced yourself that in fact you have done permamente damage to some nerve, some vein. In fact, you haven't done sh*t at all.

I'm not saying that penis exercises can't create problems, but as I said earlier, unless you took a knife and cut your penis you didn't do anything.

HEAL FROM OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER AND YOU WILL HEAL FROM HARD FLACCID.

A hug to everyone.

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[CUSP82]

That is a very large part of hard flaccid but sadly you will never convince the majority that it started in their head. Very good post.

 

[guestbo]

That is a very large part of hard flaccid but sadly you will never convince the majority that it started in their head. Very good post.

Unfortunately, people who do not understand this will never heal.
I don't want to come across as pessimistic, but truly it is all in their hands....

I too when I panicked I thought I had broken some nerve but then I started working on my anxiety and.... the next day magically I was cured.

 

[CUSP82]

Sadly many of them don't. They come here looking for a magic cure and when they don't get it and are told that a large portion of the problem is their brain they usually curse people out and then go away. You made a great post.

 

[Big Al]

Hard flaccid is a symptom. There are often physical contributors to HF- like a spasming IC muscle. Stimulant use and lowered dopamine levels can also both express themselves as HF.

The following gives data on the subject: TBH Hard Flaccid Search

 

[guestbo]

Hard flaccid is a symptom. There are often physical contributors to HF- like a spasming IC muscle. Stimulant use and lowered dopamine levels can also both express themselves as HF.

The following gives data on the subject: TBH Hard Flaccid Search

I am not saying that Hard Flaccid is a made-up thing.
I went through it myself a year and a half ago: loss of glans sensitivity, penis in constant stiffness, inability to have a relationship.
I know what I'm talking about.

But believe me that I know psychology very very well, and I can assure you that if you don't placate the obsessive mechanism underlying the problem, you will never solve Hard Flaccid.

Every person reading this post needs to do an experiment: have you convinced yourself that you have done permanent damage to your penis right? Are you convinced that by doing 5 minutes of jelqing you have ruptured some veins and for the rest of your life your penis will never work again?
Well, go to the shower, get into deep squat position, relax your pelvic floor (reverse kegel) by taking 10 deep diaphragmatic breaths. Now touch your penis: the penis is back the way it was!
You are healed!

Where is the problem? That when you get out of the shower, the doubt that you have done something terrible to your penis will return, and then the anxiety will return and the pelvic floor will contract again.

I can go on all my life explaining to you that you haven't done anything to the penis, but if a doctor can't do it, I can't convince you either.

 

[CUSP82]

You cannot have a healthy body without a healthy mind; end of story!

 

[Big Al]

I am not saying that Hard Flaccid is a made-up thing.
I went through it myself a year and a half ago: loss of glans sensitivity, penis in constant stiffness, inability to have a relationship.
I know what I'm talking about...

Agreed- this is sensible.

 

[MisterGeo]

This article from the Sexual Medicine Society of North America offers insight on this theme:

"Early research also suggests that stress and anxiety about Hard Flaccid may worsen symptoms. If men begin to feel anxious about their sexual performance, they are more likely to experience sexual dysfunction. Additionally, Hard Flaccid patients may become hyper-focused on their condition and examine themselves regularly or pursue multiple treatments, adding stress to the already sensitive area and further imbalance to the sympathetic/parasympathetic nervous system."
[Source: https://www.smsna.org/patients/blog/an-overview-of-hard-flaccid-syndrome]

I observe that many of the posts on hard flaccid have an obsessive quality about them. The SMSNA article is suggesting that the "pursuit of multiple treatments" we witness in the forums by some sufferers could be contributing to the problem. Case in point: Romero MD's stickied OP. See his endless list of things he was trying to do to cure it and his compendium of his own posts on related subjects. Pretty obsessive and common to the nature of the problem. Here's his post:

A Doctor with Hard Flaccid - Updates and Advice

Hi everyone! :) I am 26 years old and I recently developed this mythical problem called Hard Flaccid. My story: I am a medical doctor. I finished medical school a few months ago, and I am currently applying for Obstetrics-Gynecology. I have been practicing PE, intermittently, for the past 4-5...

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[Big Al]

Whether it be HF, venous leaks, or some other issue; the end result of the emotional stress developed over over developing obsessions or fears about these maladies often result in the same issues: ED.

 

[bigdawg20]

No this is bullshit. I’m sick of hearing that Hard flaccid is all mental I really am. Back in my early years I was anxious af all the time and I was still able to have sex and perform fine. My anxiety was probably through the roof when I went to lose my virginity but guess what, it still worked.

Now a days nothing, dead numbness hard flaccid. How do I know it’s not mental? I haven’t woken up with morning wood in god knows when.

 

[Big Al]

HF isn't always mental. There may be other stressors involved. That being said, emotional stress can certainly contribute to and prolong HF. Chronic stress CAN affect morning woods due to the impact on hormone balances and dopamine receptors.

The following should be helpful: Hard Flaccid

 

[Pegasus]

So a mental a physical part to most issues and hf is no exception .
So the physical part of hf is pelvic floor .

 

[princeofarragon]

Please help me. I am suffering with this HF for about 3 years. I don't know how to cure it. I am completely devastated. I am 25 and have got to the point of losing my total masculinity. I have constant HF, cold and soft glans, inability to keep an erection without stimulation. I am finished

 

[Pegasus]

Have you read the threads onsite?

 

[princeofarragon]

Yes I have read them all, sorry for the late reply. I fell into the rabbit hole of HF, Tight PF, Reddit subs, Discords and I have got the all the scares that a man can have regarding his existence in his time on earth. But something makes me believe that's it can't be a physical only issue. Something's stemming from my mind, but I don't know how to get out of it. I feel like I am stuck in a loop and no matter what, I just, can't make a way out of it. For the symptoms, I am not going into any details, because I have every single on the symptoms one can list out. Any ideas? @Pegasus @guestbo ? @Big Al ? @MisterGeo? @CUSP82?
Please help me make it out of this hell hole. I am 26 and have lost a fair share of time to this outwordly condition.

 

[MisterGeo]

Yes I have read them all, sorry for the late reply. I fell into the rabbit hole of HF, Tight PF, Reddit subs, Discords and I have got the all the scares that a man can have regarding his existence in his time on earth. But something makes me believe that's it can't be a physical only issue. Something's stemming from my mind, but I don't know how to get out of it. I feel like I am stuck in a loop and no matter what, I just, can't make a way out of it. For the symptoms, I am not going into any details, because I have every single on the symptoms one can list out. Any ideas? @Pegasus @guestbo ? @Big Al ? @MisterGeo? @CUSP82?
Please help me make it out of this hell hole. I am 26 and have lost a fair share of time to this outwordly condition.

It sure is a rabbit hole. Guys get into that loop you are in because nothing resolves. I hope that changes for you someday soon.

This might seem like an odd question, but I'm curious, what country do you live in?

 

[princeofarragon]

It sure is a rabbit hole. Guys get into that loop you are in because nothing resolves. I hope that changes for you someday soon.

This might seem like an odd question, but I'm curious, what country do you live in?

I don't know if this helps, but I am from India. The loop, the cycle it's almost impossible to get out of

 

[MisterGeo]

I don't know if this helps, but I am from India. The loop, the cycle it's almost impossible to get out of

It interests me that you are in India. I'm not sure what it means, but I've wondered about cultural and social factors in hard flaccid syndrome and where most cases are reported. I'm in the USA and it's easy to assume that most cases are in the USA because that's mostly what I see.

But also, based on your written English you are educated and very intelligent. It sounds like you have access to resources. I looked at your post history and you've seen urologists and andrologists and you had lots of tests.

I've sometimes wondered if hard flaccid syndrome is more common with guys with more general stress in their lives. You described yourself in your first post as having hypochondriac tendencies, but some of the experiences you talk about would naturally cause any man a lot of anxiety.

Have you ever had a girlfriend or serious relationship? How did that go? Has marriage ever been part of your life plan? It seems to me that in India there is a custom of parents arranging marriage. Is that part of your experience?

 

[princeofarragon]

It interests me that you are in India. I'm not sure what it means, but I've wondered about cultural and social factors in hard flaccid syndrome and where most cases are reported. I'm in the USA and it's easy to assume that most cases are in the USA because that's mostly what I see.

But also, based on your written English you are educated and very intelligent. It sounds like you have access to resources. I looked at your post history and you've seen urologists and andrologists and you had lots of tests.

I've sometimes wondered if hard flaccid syndrome is more common with guys with more general stress in their lives. You described yourself in your first post as having hypochondriac tendencies, but some of the experiences you talk about would naturally cause any man a lot of anxiety.

Have you ever had a girlfriend or serious relationship? How did that go? Has marriage ever been part of your life plan? It seems to me that in India there is a custom of parents arranging marriage. Is that part of your experience?

I did have severe hypochondria, which is in control now, mostly because I avoid putting myself in such situations where it can trigger it. Also I had a girlfriend for a short while, and we didn't get into physical lovemaking, because of my condition. I didn't disclose it to her but I cut ties with her, because I felt guilty of what I was doing to her. It feels so disheartening sometimes, that I have a non-functioning manhood and impared daily urination, discomfort. So yeah, that's the girlfriend part. And no, I am not considering marriage as of now, although I did dream of marrying a wonderful woman and having a beautiful family with her. Unless I see any signs of progress I don't think I should marry a woman, it will be unfair to her. I just wanna be cured of this Hard Flaccid or PFD whatever this is.