Girlfriend Was Raped

[MrBigDick]

Mr BD I know women can be total scheming bitches at times, my ex who I was with for 5 yrs did the scheming sh*t on me but wat I tried to say is that no matter wat they do a man should not lay a finger on em. The other thing is that its not abt courage or manliness being questioned. As a man I feel the need to protect my woman. But yeah violence is not the way forward! But then the legal route is not too appealing. He may get away with it n plus u gotta put her through the ordeal of a trial! I think if u went over to his n scared him a lil n just shoved a broomstick up his ass he will realise wat he put her through n I Dnt thnk he would wna tell anyone wat happened!

I totally agree with you. A man should NEVER lay a finger on a woman under any circumstance and we had this discussion in another thread somewhere. Unless my life is in immediate danger or that of my two kids, I won't lay a finger on a woman. Period. As far as the courage thing goes, dude, ALL of us men feel the need to protect our women...........that's the nature of being a good man. If a guy laid a finger on ANY of the women in my life, yeah, don't think I wouldn't want to go find his sorry ass and put him 6 feet under. I also know and realize that while he may have committed an unspeakable act against a woman or girl in my life that I love, my acting out in violence towards him is only going to land me in hot water with the law. Think about it, would you REALLY want to be arrested or worse for taking the law into your own hands to fuck up some piece of sh*t deusche bag who violated a woman in your life? I sure as fuck wouldn't. I wouldn't want to give that asshole the satisfaction of taking me down with him because I acted as ridiculously as he did. The law may not be the most appealing thing in this world to deal with but I'll tell you, following the law will keep YOUR ass out of hot water. No, the law doesn't always protect those that it's supposed to and yeah, sometimes the justice system totally sucks and lets killers and rapists walk among us (can we say OJ Simpson???). BUT, the law is the law and needs to be adhered to.

And think about this. Suppose the legal system fails and this asshole is allowed to walk the streets. Rest assured my brotha, God almighty KNOWS what this asshole did and he will ultimately get his in the end. TRUST me!

 

[Closed039]

Don't kill this dude but giving him a good old fashioned ass whoopin might not hurt either. He's not gonna want to run to the police when he realizes who you are and why you're giving him the beat down for fear of being brought up on rape charges.

But seriously, don't do anything drastic i.e. no weapons and no hospital visits for this guy....and definitely don't post your plans or action on here. That's a no no. Hope this situation ends well for you and your girl.

 

[Pirate]

No violence.
None.
Nada.
Get her help. Call the Law. Call a lawyer. Call her parents. Tell your parents.
NO VIOLENCE.

 

[Betterman]

Too bad she didn't report it to the Police immediately. They could of went and beat the sh*t out of him, along with the arrest. Two birds ..........? =/

 

[007]

If this did happen, I am sorry bro, but as batwoman pointed out it's about her, not you or your anger so be there for her.

Now I am not trying be insensitive, but I just don't feel confident about her story. In fact while I was reading through this thread today, a friend popped in to say hello, and of course wanted to see what I was reading about on the net. So he reads through this thread while I fixed us some tea, and his first statement to me was "man,.....something's fishy about this story". And you can get mad and call me all kinds of names but I agree, something doesn't sit right with me here, and I am well aware I have maybe 2% of the facts here....... but still. You yourself vocalized doubts as well.

I have personally known females who have cried rape for convenience, they were ashamed of something they did, they didn't want friends or family to find out, they simply wanted to cause trouble for a guy. I had a girl one time who was basically a stalker and when I finally told her in no uncertain terms we were not going anywhere romatically, she then turned around and started telling people I raped her....I was terrified because she could have royally messed up my life had she made a false report like this, even though I was absolutely not guilty of anything. And I was furious beyond belief because I had never touched her sexually..at all, and yet she was demonstating to me how she could royally f*ck up my life if she wanted.

I have a friend who is a detective at the local cop shop, who investigaters rape. And he told me point blank, that out of every 10 reports 2 are actual rapes, the rest are simply females abusing the system, which take time and resources away from those females who really have been victimized.

I am not sayin this is the case here, but if your sitting in prison because of assult and battery or worse manslaughter, then come to find out she made it up....well I think you get the point.

 

[PremierImpala]

It may not go with the general consensus of members that have posted so far but if it were me man.... I would definitely be taking action. Be smart about this sh*t though. Not broad daylight with no cover. Do your homework. If you're going to do something be smart. Either way though definitely don't go overboard if you know what I mean.

 

[O.G.]

If this did happen, I am sorry bro, but as batwoman pointed out it's about her, not you or your anger so be there for her.

Now I am not trying be insensitive, but I just don't feel confident about her story. In fact while I was reading through this thread today, a friend popped in to say hello, and of course wanted to see what I was reading about on the net. So he reads through this thread while I fixed us some tea, and his first statement to me was "man,.....something's fishy about this story". And you can get mad and call me all kinds of names but I agree, something doesn't sit right with me here, and I am well aware I have maybe 2% of the facts here....... but still. You yourself vocalized doubts as well.

I have personally known females who have cried rape for convenience, they were ashamed of something they did, they didn't want friends or family to find out, they simply wanted to cause trouble for a guy. I had a girl one time who was basically a stalker and when I finally told her in no uncertain terms we were not going anywhere romatically, she then turned around and started telling people I raped her....I was terrified because she could have royally messed up my life had she made a false report like this, even though I was absolutely not guilty of anything. And I was furious beyond belief because I had never touched her sexually..at all, and yet she was demonstating to me how she could royally f*ck up my life if she wanted.

I have a friend who is a detective at the local cop shop, who investigaters rape. And he told me point blank, that out of every 10 reports 2 are actual rapes, the rest are simply females abusing the system, which take time and resources away from those females who really have been victimized.

I am not sayin this is the case here, but if your sitting in prison because of assult and battery or worse manslaughter, then come to find out she made it up....well I think you get the point.

Yes, I'm skeptical. What way is there that I can test that she is telling the truth, I need help with this.

I anonymously contacted the police from skype and talked with an officer for a while, she can even go in and talk with an officer or a counselor at the station and doesn't need to press charges or anything if she doesn't want to. It is ultimately up to the victim if she wants to them to put forward an investigation or try to get this guy. She refuses to. She says she doesn't want the stress, but it would only help honestly.

 

[Pirate]

I had a girl friend who was raped by her boy friend about a year before we met. She was a virgin, got pregnant, she thought it was her fault. but they never had sex though he pushed for it. She had an abortion and left town but otherwise never sought help, never told her parents, never told the police.
It messed her up and it messed me up.
I can't tell you if I wanted justice or revenge. But I sure wanted it. Still I knew that it would not help her. The only thing that I could do that really helped her was to be supportive and listen when she wanted to talk. That was hard.
Very very hard.

 

[luweesz]

She won't let me do anything. She says she doesn't want to get any more stress.

I'm doing something about it no matter what.

oh dude, i am so sorry about this... i just felt sad about you and your girlfriend and let me tell you this straight, if she can't tell the authorities about this, tell her that she can't cope the stress it will bring her for the rest of her life. and at the least, she would have the peace of mind she deserves if this shitty thing is brought to justice. i am terribly against smart-ass guys who rape women, and women in the world should be treated with the respect that they deserve. and i hope you'll love her the same way as if she wasn't raped, man. it would help a lot

 

[haroldo]

Yes, I'm skeptical. What way is there that I can test that she is telling the truth, I need help with this.

I anonymously contacted the police from skype and talked with an officer for a while, she can even go in and talk with an officer or a counselor at the station and doesn't need to press charges or anything if she doesn't want to. It is ultimately up to the victim if she wants to them to put forward an investigation or try to get this guy. She refuses to. She says she doesn't want the stress, but it would only help honestly.

You should talk to her and explain that that guy CAN ACTUALLY rape other girls if nothing is done against him. Man, don't let another motherfucker like this unstuck. He can hurt more people, and problably will. How is your girlfriend going to live knowing that? I know she is suffering, but she has to do something about it! If I were you I would stress her until she went to the police... I know many will say it's horrible, I'm wrong and etc, but she is the only one right now who can stop this guy.

If she doesn't do anything in the end, then, I don't know... she may be lying from the beggining and you'll have to know make her tell you that... and if she isn't lying but still doesn't want to go to the police, you should gather some friends and teach this guy a lesson that he'll never forget.

 

[doupdoupdoup]

Hey man don't mess up your life, don't do anything that is illegal.

 

[Batwoman]

Hey man don't mess up your life, don't do anything that is illegal.

You know doup, you drive me crazy with half your posts but you hit the nail on the head with this one. This is the best advice for OG right now.
OG, are you listening???

 

[kingpole]

Best thing OG can do is try to get his girlfriend to come forward. Report it to the police before it is to late. The issue of rape puts un-earned shame on the woman. She feels like it is her falt. Also having a rape kit done on you is as assaulting and impersonal as being raped.

 

[O.G.]

I'm trying guys, I really am.

 

[kingpole]

I'm trying guys, I really am.

It won't be easy woamen have a hard time coming forward.

 

[MrBigDick]

I'm trying guys, I really am.

Well, at this point, I say you leave it be a for bit and leave her alone about it. You can't force her to do sh*t no matter how badly you want to play her knight in shining armor. If she's dead set against pressing charges and doesn't want the stress involved, there isn't anymore you can do. Leave her alone for a bit and who knows, maybe she'll mull it over more and come to her senses and want to take action.

 

[O.G.]

So I got her to talk to a counselor who my girls says that she said to talk to the police, and the counselor said she's probably going to file a report to them. I'm trying to have the counselor get a hold of me.

 

[Batwoman]

Good job, you are doing the right thing. Kudos to you for acting smart in a bad situation. The counselor may not be willing to talk to you (they probably have confidentiality rules) but the important thing is that your girl is talking to the counselor. That's great news.

 

[Pirate]

So I got her to talk to a counselor who my girls says that she said to talk to the police, and the counselor said she's probably going to file a report to them. I'm trying to have the counselor get a hold of me.

WELL DONE in a tough situation.
Damn well done.

 

[O.G.]

I appreciate the support guys, this is far from over.

For fuck's sake I'm still skeptical, sorry I can't divulge all the information, as some might be personal, while other things could keep us going here for weeks.