A place to rant

[kickinthemebs]

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[Dontrike]

I'm not sure why I try anymore with a particular person. This person both seems to show interest and doesn't care at the same time. I've been trying for the last 3 months to do something, and I know their life is different right now, but they have been pulling away more and more for a good 6 to 8 months. I would love to know why, but I'm also wondering if it is even worth it anymore. I keep thinking I can just cut ties, but then I know I can't. I know I've been on this persons hook for a long time, but lately I can see myself getting off of it and yet not wanting to.

This is getting incredibly frustrating.

 

[akaTrex]

I feel like T-Rex, and it is getting rather damned ridiculous!

I can't straighten me left arm! lol damn DOMS.

Life is Pain . . . Get used to it! "Long Kiss Goodnight".

 

[Jay1983]

Life is Pain . . . Get used to it! "Long Kiss Goodnight".

:doh:

 

[BigRooster]

I'm not sure why I try anymore with a particular person. This person both seems to show interest and doesn't care at the same time. I've been trying for the last 3 months to do something, and I know their life is different right now, but they have been pulling away more and more for a good 6 to 8 months. I would love to know why, but I'm also wondering if it is even worth it anymore. I keep thinking I can just cut ties, but then I know I can't. I know I've been on this persons hook for a long time, but lately I can see myself getting off of it and yet not wanting to.

This is getting incredibly frustrating.

You wont know until you ask. Ask them straight up what seems to be the problem. Don't go on torturing yourself. Hoping something might be there. If they keep sending mixed signals. Al you are is a fish on the hook and they are controlling you. You need to get to the bottom of it, if it concerns you this much. Good luck.

 

[Dontrike]

You wont know until you ask. Ask them straight up what seems to be the problem. Don't go on torturing yourself. Hoping something might be there. If they keep sending mixed signals. Al you are is a fish on the hook and they are controlling you. You need to get to the bottom of it, if it concerns you this much. Good luck.

Gotta point there. There has been a couple failed attempts so far, and a fair amount of secrecy on a few matters regarding this overall issue. Guess I'll try again.

 

[BigO]

I agree with Rooster, Don. Sounds like it's time to put it all on the table, and see what's going on.

Kinda sounds like a red flag. Pulling away, lack of interest, yet keeping you at the stand by. And then being secretive.

There may be things going on in their life, and that's their business. But if they can't be honest with you about intent after that amount of time, might be time to reevaluate where things are.You may never get an honest answer why, but you'll get a good idea of direction through context.

Don't let people play games with your emotions. Regardless of what's going on, they need to decide if they want to be in your life, or not. If they do, then they will make time, not excuses.

 

[Dontrike]

Got some good wisdom there. Their life improved greatly a few months ago, but thinking back they were pulling away slowly some time back around November/December. I think back and try to see if something happened to cause it, but I can't think of anything I did or didn't do, but who knows except them.

I'm going to try another couple of times to see if this can't be resolved. I have a "huge favor" saved up, one that they can't say no to in any way, I was going to save it for something down the road, but I guess this may be the only way and if they don't honor it like I have done with them then I suppose I have an answer. Can't believe I have to use something like this on a conversation to get some honesty and transparency.

Something tells me this isn't going to be good.

 

[BigRooster]

Got some good wisdom there. Their life improved greatly a few months ago, but thinking back they were pulling away slowly some time back around November/December. I think back and try to see if something happened to cause it, but I can't think of anything I did or didn't do, but who knows except them.

I'm going to try another couple of times to see if this can't be resolved. I have a "huge favor" saved up, one that they can't say no to in any way, I was going to save it for something down the road, but I guess this may be the only way and if they don't honor it like I have done with them then I suppose I have an answer. Can't believe I have to use something like this on a conversation to get some honesty and transparency.

Something tells me this isn't going to be good.

Down the road is now! The road of uncertainty goes on forever. Good or bad at least you will know.

 

[Tamora]

Down the road is now! The road of uncertainty goes on forever. Good or bad at least you will know.

Totally agree! Life's too short...besides, plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[akaTrex]

Gotta point there. There has been a couple failed attempts so far, and a fair amount of secrecy on a few matters regarding this overall issue. Guess I'll try again.

Questions?

 

[Dontrike]

Down the road is now! The road of uncertainty goes on forever. Good or bad at least you will know.

That's for sure. Knowing is what I want at this point.

Totally agree! Life's too short...besides, plenty more fish in the sea.

This isn't a relationship type of thing, although deep down I know I would like to I know it wouldn't be the best to do so. I just hate losing a friend this important.

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[Aang]

I just hate losing a friend this important.

A true friend don't behave this way, it seems that you're the only one to be concerned about this. So, why waste anymore time!

Don't you deserve better?

 

[Dontrike]

A true friend don't behave this way, it seems that you're the only one to be concerned about this. So, why waste anymore time!

Don't you deserve better?

I could honestly say yes and no to that. I only concern myself with this person because a few years ago they were one of the few that did the same for me. I can't forget that and think they deserve the benefit of the doubt.

 

[Aang]

I could honestly say yes and no to that. I only concern myself with this person because a few years ago they were one of the few that did the same for me. I can't forget that and think they deserve the benefit of the doubt.

I do understand, then you need to mention this to them. The way you did here on the forum. Maybe then you'll get the answers you need.

 

[closed224]

And yes Controls, you do deserve better.

 

[Dontrike]

I do understand, then you need to mention this to them. The way you did here on the forum. Maybe then you'll get the answers you need.

I'll certainly try again this week.

 

[Aang]

I'll certainly try again this week.

I hope everything turns out well for you! :thumb:

 

[Dontrike]

Attempt #1 for the week seems to have failed, couldn't even get a response to set a time for talking. This is ticking me off more and more by the attempt.

 

[Aang]

Attempt #1 for the week seems to have failed, couldn't even get a response to set a time for talking. This is ticking me off more and more by the attempt.

Give it some time, wait and see what happens. If you don't hear from them, then it's time to move on.