I have a unique position here at PEGym, as one of only a few women active on PEGym, and the only female staff member, I get quite a few direct messages from members, asking questions or asking for my opinion.

I love these!!

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Q. I’ve always wondered about this. Can (women) actually feel a load shooting out internally vs just dribbling?

 

This is actually a really common question — although it’s been asked of me several different ways. I think it’s pretty normal to wonder what your partner is feeling during sex! So, glad this was asked of me recently again.

Personally, I can’t actually feel the ejaculate itself – whether it’s like a huge  stream or just dribbling. However, I CAN feel the pulsing of the penis when my partner ejaculates… if I’m paying attention.

Notice that last part of that last sentence.

If I’m paying attention.

Honestly, if I’m really into it, there are so many other sensations going on, I may not even feel those. That’s actually a good thing, in my books! 🙂

With this said, I can feel the difference between when my partner orgasms really hard and when it’s just an average orgasm. Again, it’s not the ejaculate itself, but rather the pulsing contractions of the penis.

However, I have read enough smut… romance novels 😉 that have the heroine stating she can feel his ejaculate. It’s often described as “hot” in these creative works of fiction, but I can’t imagine how a woman can feel this, at least not inside her vagina.

Let me explain why I doubt these literary descriptions – “heat” is usually felt as a temperature difference. Assuming you and your partner are both human, and neither of you are running a fever, then you should both have pretty similar core body temperatures. Now, ejaculate on human skin typically feels warm, because the temperature of your skin is typically less than your core body temperature, nose, ears, fingers and toes being the usual coldest skin of the body. But inside the vagina should be a fairly similar temperature as your ejaculate.

Of course, I’m just one woman. And, as I’ve said in the past, all women are unique.

I have a unique position here at PEGym, as one of only a few women active on PEGym, and the only female staff member, I get quite a few direct messages from members, asking questions or asking for my opinion.

I love these!!

Do you have a question or a situation you’d like me to weigh in on? Send me a direct message at forum name – KMWylie . As always, if your question is chosen for a post, your identity will be completely anonymous. So, don’t be shy! There are no dumb questions!

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Q. I had a question about my girth. I was dating a girl for a couple of weeks and when we finally had sex, she complained about my girth and that sex hurt. I’m about 6.5 inches long and 6 inches around, and have had similar problems before. what should I do?

It’s important to know that just like men’s penises, women’s vaginas vary in size.  This is a great article about vagina size that I suggest you read…

A Little Bit About Female Anatomy: AKA How Big is the Vagina?

One of the best empirical studies on vagina circumference found that the average woman’s vagina is about 4 inches, in circumference.

At about 6 inches in girth and 6 1/2 inches in length, you’re definitely on the large size. I’d definitely talk to your partner about what exactly is causing the pain. —  Is it the girth? Or is it the length?  — Again referring to the above article, the maximum length of the average woman’s vaginal canal is approximately 7 inches. Which means, at 6 1/2 inches, and especially with some positions, you could be hitting her cervix — which can be extremely painful.

If it is the girth, then you’re going to make sure she’s prepared for your size. Foreplay – foreplay – foreplay!

Don’t forget to use a lube – like Bathmate’s Pleasure Lube – to help too! You can never have too much lubricant!

Also, go slowly! This is true for any guy who is on the large size – girth or lengthwise. With a larger penis comes responsibility to make sure you use it correctly.

Lastly – communicate!! Ask your partner how she’s doing. If there’s discomfort, stop. Hurting your partner once, can make them tense up the next time you try to have sex, and that would just make it worse.

I have a unique position here at PEGym, as one of only a few women active on PEGym, and the only female staff member, I get quite a few direct messages from members, asking questions or asking for my opinion.

I love these!!

However, every time I think, “I bet there are other guys out there wondering the same thing!” So, introducing…

Ask Kimberly

If you have a question, or want some input on a situation, just ask! You can send me a direct message at forum name – KMWylie

All questions posted and answered will be anonymous, so don’t be shy! 🙂  Remember, if you’re wondering about it, chances are there are a lot of other guys out there wondering the same thing or with a similar situation.