Hi all,
I'm currently feeling very down about my erection problems and need advice. My problem can clearly be traced to an incident in college in 2004. Prior to this i had an extremely high libido (i think, although it is all relative) and would get very aroused/excited at anything slightly sexual in nature. In fact, i could get a strong erection just by thinking about sex. i would masturbate frequently and i had a very healthy sex drive. turning back to the incident, I got drunk one night and a girl performed oral sex on me. Prior to this i had no sexual experiences with women. I can't say for certain but i think this girl managed to damage the tip of my penis because after the event the tip was clearly different and it stung when i urinated. I was obviously very concerned by this and hoped it would heal. Gradually the stinging went away but the scarring never did. It has healed somewhat but the urethra opening always looks slightly inflamed and bulbous to me... I got myself checked out for stis and this came back negative. My doctor also did not seem concerned and said it was nothing. However, my libido gradually drained away until maybe 6 to 12 months later, i had lost interest in sex and my erections became less strong.
It's now about 8 years on and there has been no change. If anything things have got worse. It's now at the point at which nothing really turns me on. I do still get slightly aroused around women but my erection is probably 50%. If i do get erect, the head is very soft. It used to be engorged with blood and have more girth than the shaft. Now it is small and soft, not much bigger than when flaccid. I masturbate sometimes, even though i never really feel in the mood for it, and i can bring myself to orgasm but it does not feel particularly satisfying. Certainly nothing like before the incident.
i have tried to start relationships but they always fail due to my problem in the bedroom. I find it difficult to get sufficiently erect for penetration and by the time i do manage this, i can't last very long at all. I have now met an incredible girl and expect the same thing will happen. I'm dreading eventually sleeping with her when i should be excited. My doc prescribed viagra which is not hugely effective and gives me a stuffy nose. Not only is it expensive but it makes being spontaneous very difficult. It also does not help with my lack of sex drive.
i don't really know what to do.. Is there any way back from this? I'm sure many of you will say it's linked to this incident with the girl and the damage that was apparently done to my penis but how can i think my way out of this. And after 8 years! It's so depressing that i never really got a chance to enjoy women and that i probably can never have a relationship. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Can't tell you how fed up i am about this...
I'm currently feeling very down about my erection problems and need advice. My problem can clearly be traced to an incident in college in 2004. Prior to this i had an extremely high libido (i think, although it is all relative) and would get very aroused/excited at anything slightly sexual in nature. In fact, i could get a strong erection just by thinking about sex. i would masturbate frequently and i had a very healthy sex drive. turning back to the incident, I got drunk one night and a girl performed oral sex on me. Prior to this i had no sexual experiences with women. I can't say for certain but i think this girl managed to damage the tip of my penis because after the event the tip was clearly different and it stung when i urinated. I was obviously very concerned by this and hoped it would heal. Gradually the stinging went away but the scarring never did. It has healed somewhat but the urethra opening always looks slightly inflamed and bulbous to me... I got myself checked out for stis and this came back negative. My doctor also did not seem concerned and said it was nothing. However, my libido gradually drained away until maybe 6 to 12 months later, i had lost interest in sex and my erections became less strong.
It's now about 8 years on and there has been no change. If anything things have got worse. It's now at the point at which nothing really turns me on. I do still get slightly aroused around women but my erection is probably 50%. If i do get erect, the head is very soft. It used to be engorged with blood and have more girth than the shaft. Now it is small and soft, not much bigger than when flaccid. I masturbate sometimes, even though i never really feel in the mood for it, and i can bring myself to orgasm but it does not feel particularly satisfying. Certainly nothing like before the incident.
i have tried to start relationships but they always fail due to my problem in the bedroom. I find it difficult to get sufficiently erect for penetration and by the time i do manage this, i can't last very long at all. I have now met an incredible girl and expect the same thing will happen. I'm dreading eventually sleeping with her when i should be excited. My doc prescribed viagra which is not hugely effective and gives me a stuffy nose. Not only is it expensive but it makes being spontaneous very difficult. It also does not help with my lack of sex drive.
i don't really know what to do.. Is there any way back from this? I'm sure many of you will say it's linked to this incident with the girl and the damage that was apparently done to my penis but how can i think my way out of this. And after 8 years! It's so depressing that i never really got a chance to enjoy women and that i probably can never have a relationship. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Can't tell you how fed up i am about this...
If not for this then I'd have said it was a case of balanitis, which also inflames the tip of the penis, and the stinging to which you refer was most probably some kind of infection, regardless of whether the STI tests came back negative or not. The fact is that you don't get stinging upon urination and a swollen meatus for no reason at all!